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McNary Therapy, A Marriage & Family Practice, PC

Heart is for relationships--reflection, restoration, and repair. Working with couples and individuals is my passion.

Work with couples & Indiv to create emotionally safe, and enduring connections and live life more fully. Marriage & Family Therapist, MFC #80011
Carl Rogers said that, "humans' ability to grow is infinite...when they feel safe." I support helping couples and individuals reconnect after distressing circumstances, as well as in just navigating daily life, using a highly effective, research based approach to therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy. Specializing in Couples, Individuals, Affair recovery, EMDR, Trauma, Adoption & Birth Mom Placement, Grief & Divorce.

11/20/2025

In relationships, how you recharge affects how you relate.
💬 Introverts need solitude.
🎭 Extroverts come alive in connection.
🔁 Otroverts… need both, depending on the moment.

Even Taylor Swift—the ultimate performer—spends plenty of time writing quietly behind the scenes.

Understanding your energy type helps you show up with more grace—for yourself and your partner.

11/17/2025

Me: I just want to feel heard.
Also me: Walks out mid-argument, slams the door, and cries like it’s a dramatic ballad.

Conflict isn’t failure—it’s feedback.

And most couples aren’t “too broken”… they’re just stuck in the same unhelpful loop.

Therapy helps you break the cycle—without needing a breakup album. 😉

11/14/2025

Most couple arguments aren’t about what was said.

They’re about what was heard—and the story each person told themselves in that moment.

Like any good songwriter (looking at you, Taylor 🎶), each partner brings their own narrative, emotion, and memory into the conversation.

Therapy helps you rewrite the story together—without losing your voice.

11/12/2025

Doing trauma work is like rehearsing behind the curtain—it’s messy, exhausting, and unseen.

But the show isn’t the performance—it’s the courage to keep showing up.

Take care of yourself as you do the deeper work:
☑️ Rest
☑️ Gentle boundaries
☑️ Nourishment
☑️ Play
☑️ Compassion

This season might not sparkle, but it’s where your power builds.

11/11/2025

Not all trauma is loud.

Sometimes it sounds like:
“You’re too sensitive.”
“Stop crying.”
“I’ll love you when you behave.”

These messages echo long after childhood—shaping how we show up in adult relationships.

Therapy helps give those invisible wounds a voice—and a chance to heal.

11/03/2025

Trauma work is like stepping into a new emotional era—just like Taylor Swift moving from one album chapter to the next.

It's not about “fixing” yourself. It’s about learning how your nervous system adapted to survive… and creating a new story where safety, connection, and calm are possible.

Every session is one track in your personal album of healing. 🎵

10/30/2025

Not sure if you’re dealing with a trauma response? It can look like:
Shutting down when overwhelmed
Feeling “too much” for others
Constant alertness
Difficulty trusting or relaxing
Guilt for setting boundaries

These aren’t flaws. They’re protective patterns.
And with support, they can shift.

10/27/2025

We talk a lot about insecure attachment—but what does secure attachment actually look like?
It’s not perfect communication or zero conflict. It’s emotional safety.

In securely attached relationships, you’ll often see:
✔️ Comfort with closeness and space
✔️ Healthy repair after arguments
✔️ Trust in emotional availability
✔️ Freedom to express needs without fear

The good news? You don’t have to start with secure attachment—you can earn it.

That’s what therapy helps you build.

10/26/2025

Yes it’s trending, but this photo of me holding my younger self (I was 8 at the time) is a reflection of the work I’ve done with my therapist and EMDR (yes therapists have therapists and I wouldn’t trust a therapist who hadn’t done their own healing work or was in process themselves!).

EMDR helped me meet the little girl inside me with open arms instead of fear. EMDR allows us to fully metabolize the emotions, actions, that our child self couldn’t. I grew up in a very unsafe home, physical, sexual and verbal abuse. I adapted by learning to be the “good girl” who didn’t rock the boat.

EMDR allowed me to process childhood trauma in a way that talking alone never could.

The memories are still part of me, but they no longer define me.

EMDR helped me become the safe place my younger self always needed. 🤍

This image captures that moment — integration, peace, and compassion for my younger self. 💫

I no longer carry her pain — I carry her hand.

Healing isn’t about erasing the past; it’s about integrating it with love. 💫

I am an attachment based EMDR therapist and I love working with clients and watching them show up for themselves in ways they never thought possible. If you are in California, reach out and let’s see how we can help you shift in life. 🙏🏻

10/23/2025

Do you find yourself craving closeness but pulling away as soon as someone gets too close?

You’re not broken. You might be navigating avoidant attachment.

Avoidant attachment often forms in childhood when emotional needs weren’t met consistently. The message becomes: “I’m safest when I rely on myself.”

In adulthood, this can lead to:
Difficulty expressing needs
Shutting down in conflict
Valuing independence over connection
Struggling to trust others emotionally

Therapy helps avoidantly attached individuals feel safe enough to reconnect—with others and themselves.

10/20/2025

Anxiety becomes more than “normal stress” when:
It’s constant
It keeps you from sleeping
You avoid people or places
Your body is always tense
You feel like you can’t shut your mind off

If this sounds like you, therapy can help create relief.

10/17/2025

Complex trauma isn’t always about one big event.
It’s often the result of repeated emotional neglect, unstable environments, or relationships that lacked safety.

It’s what happens when your nervous system never gets a break.
And it’s valid.

Therapy creates space to unpack this pain—gently, with compassion.

Address

12396 World Trade Drive, Ste. 109
San Diego, CA
92128

Website

http://www.kimberlymcnary.com/

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