McNary Therapy, A Marriage & Family Practice, PC

08/04/2025

Hi, I’m Kimberly McNary. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist based in San Diego, offering individual, couples, and faith-based counseling.

After raising my three daughters and completing my M.A. in Marriage & Family Therapy, I’ve spent years helping people navigate some of life’s most challenging moments—whether it’s trauma, infidelity, grief, or just the growing pains that relationships go through.

Through training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), EMDR, and grief counseling, I’ve created a calm and compassionate space where clients feel safe enough to explore the hard things and supported enough to heal from them.

If you’re looking for someone to walk alongside you through life’s complexities, I’d be honored to work with you.

07/31/2025

Trauma doesn’t always show up in loud, obvious ways. Sometimes it’s anxiety that won’t go away, panic in certain situations, or a sense of being emotionally frozen.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a powerful modality I use to help clients process trauma gently and effectively—without needing to relive every detail.

You don’t have to carry the weight of the past forever. Healing is possible. I’m here when you’re ready.

07/28/2025

Dating after loss, divorce, or years of self-sacrifice can feel intimidating. What do I even want? Will I make the same mistakes? How do I trust again?

Therapy can help you sort through the noise—old wounds, patterns, doubts—and reconnect with what you truly need in a partner. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about dating with intention, emotional clarity, and self-respect.

Whether you're just starting again or still healing from the last chapter, you're not alone.

07/20/2025

“Don’t take my silence as uncaring.”

I said this to a client during our final session as we were wrapping up a forced termination due to relocating to a different state. We had done meaningful healing—and then came the part so many therapists (and clients) find tough: saying goodbye.

I reminded the client: My silence doesn’t mean I stopped caring. It means I’m respecting the professional boundaries that protect both of us.

🥀 As therapists, we don’t get to check in after termination, even when we wonder, even when we hope they’re doing well.

🧐 It’s a strange thing—to be part of someone’s most vulnerable moments and then, in many ways, vanish. But this boundary is what holds the work. It’s part of what makes the space feel safe while it’s open—and complete when it closes.

👉 If you’re a former client who’s ever wondered, “Did they care?”
The answer is: Yes. Deeply.
And still—we hold the boundary.

07/04/2025

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06/15/2025

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05/26/2025

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04/02/2025

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03/16/2025

After ordering this children’s book just published from a dear friend I grew up with, I’ve struggled about what to post to promote it. Many of my black friends have emphasized “don’t ask us to help you understand what we’ve been through as Black Americans, do your research.” So I did a deep dive into the other side of what I remember from the news. I won’t ever deeply feel or understand what my black friends, colleagues, and clients have been through in their life in regards to systemic racism but I remain open to learning.

In my deep dive into the Million Man March beyond the news, I’ve learned that remembered through the lens of media the news narratives focused on unrest rather than its true purpose. The march was about unity, self-discipline, and a call for accountability within Black communities. It was a historic gathering of strength, responsibility, and commitment to change. Let’s remember it for what it was—a powerful moment of solidarity and a demand for progress—not just how the news chose to portray it. And let’s share this with our children and grandchildren of all races, ethnicities, and cultures.

Congratulations Tina R. Starks . So proud of you!

There is always a human story behind the news story. Do your research. Keep learning. Love.

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03/06/2025

This is me unplugging today during my break. 😌 ☮️

Battling a cold, the changes happening in our country right now, the impact on my pocket book, sleep, certification clips 🎥 and audios I need to attend to, joining a new networking group, and holding precious space with clients has me pretty fatigued.

In the past I would’ve just kept going, not listened to my body whispering and sometimes yelling “SLOW THE HECK DOWN SISTA!” 📣

Not today though. So, I set a timer ⏱️(in case I fell asleep—wishful thinking!), laid on my own couch 🛋️ (it’s kind of cozy on this side of the office), closed my eyes 👀 for a few, slowed my breaths and plugged 🔌 into my body to give it some rest for a few.

I didn’t fall asleep but it gave me just enough grounding to keep going. 🏃🏼‍♀️‍➡️

Let’s make “unplugging” THE go to first, rather than when it gets too overwhelming that we can’t even rest.

02/15/2025

I recently worked through a lot of childhood trauma with my therapist and EMDR. Some of the people in my life have bristled with the shifts in me. I’m not rattled by criticism like I used to be. I don’t put people on pedestals and then get disappointed when they fall anymore. I feel grounded in my body 99% of the time, and I’m asking for what I need in healthy and productive ways in my relationships, and I’m trusting my gut. Their “bristle” may be from how my growth touches the areas that haven’t yet grown in them, or it could be that they’re used to me “going along to get along” (and then me privately feeling resentment because it wasn’t reciprocated!!!!) and now I carefully consider before responding “is this something I have the capacity for right now?” and “it’s ok if someone is disappointed by my action or non action, their disappointment says nothing about me as a person if I’m communicating in a respectful and productive way.”

My circle is smaller as a result and that’s ok. When people feel unsafe to me (emotionally unsafe), I am limiting my interactions with them but without fear. Instead I’m limiting them as a way to care for myself—BIG difference.

I offer EMDR therapy as a way to clear trauma, heal self, and help you show up in life the very way you’ve been longing to. It works. I see clients every day in my office who after reprocessing share how grateful they are to be showing up in many parts of their lives unburdened, with healthy boundaries for self, less activated by others behaviors towards them and much much more.

Let’s help your GLOW come forward!

02/13/2025

Let’s talk about S*X! Thank you Sarah, Skye and Michael for this candid, informative, normalizing talk and conversations you started tonight for us as therapists. Grateful!