McNary Therapy, A Marriage & Family Practice, PC

McNary Therapy, A Marriage & Family Practice, PC Heart is for relationships--reflection, restoration, and repair. Working with couples and individuals is my passion.

Work with couples & Indiv to create emotionally safe, and enduring connections and live life more fully. Marriage & Family Therapist, MFC #80011
Carl Rogers said that, "humans' ability to grow is infinite...when they feel safe." I support helping couples and individuals reconnect after distressing circumstances, as well as in just navigating daily life, using a highly effective, research based appr

oach to therapy: Emotionally Focused Therapy. Specializing in Couples, Individuals, Affair recovery, EMDR, Trauma, Adoption & Birth Mom Placement, Grief & Divorce.

Thank you. In memory of those who have served & sacrificed and their families. 🇺🇸
05/25/2026

Thank you. In memory of those who have served & sacrificed and their families. 🇺🇸

I poured my heart and soul into being a mom to my three daughters. I made mistakes (some they could probably itemize 😄),...
05/08/2026

I poured my heart and soul into being a mom to my three daughters. I made mistakes (some they could probably itemize 😄), but I loved them with everything I had. I paused my career, was room mom, brought snacks to their games for the team, developed relationships with their teachers, took them to church and vacation bible school in the summer, volunteered in their classrooms and camped with their Girl Scout troops and had lots of snacks on hand when they brought their friends over to hang, and everything in between. I got overwhelmed, I shut down sometimes, I shared too much sometimes, I ordered pizza too often, and sometimes over planned our vacations (until they had an intervention with me and asked for more relaxing days), and I never figured out how to motivate them to do their chores as teens. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I LOVED them. Oh how I LOVED them. Still do. My role is different now as a grandmother. I play with their kids, I help clean up, I try not to give opinions or judgment unless asked. My love hasn’t changed but how I show it is much different. I am blessed.

Now I have the extraordinary privilege of watching my daughters become mothers themselves—and loving on my five grandchildren. There’s something profoundly moving about seeing your children step into a role that shaped so much of your own life, bringing their own strength, wisdom, and love to it.

Motherhood has humbled me, stretched me, and changed me in ways few roles ever could.

And I also know Mother’s Day is not simple for everyone.

For divorced moms carrying the emotional and logistical weight of parenting—sometimes while navigating grief, transition, or time-sharing that never feels quite fair—I see you.

For women grieving the loss of their mothers, carrying complicated relationships, or aching for the mothering they wish they had—I see you.

For women who deeply longed to become mothers, but faced infertility, loss, or a path to motherhood that didn’t unfold the way they hoped—I hold space for that grief, too.

Because days like this can hold joy and ache in equal measure.

Happy Mother’s Day to all who mother, nurture, guide, love, grieve, hope, and keep showing up. 💛

Mother’s Day Circa 2000

What an honor it was to spend time with this group of Godly women today. There was so much honesty, support, and encoura...
03/19/2026

What an honor it was to spend time with this group of Godly women today. There was so much honesty, support, and encouragement in the room as these moms showed up for one another. Conversations about our conflict patterns can stir up some tender places, and you could feel that in the room too. My hope is that the conversation brought some helpful insight and practical tools for navigating those moments with a little more awareness and compassion.

The pleasure was all mine. 🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻

Addiction doesn’t just grow in the presence of substances.It often grows in the absence of connection.Loneliness.Shame.U...
03/13/2026

Addiction doesn’t just grow in the presence of substances.
It often grows in the absence of connection.

Loneliness.
Shame.
Unspoken pain.
Feeling unseen or emotionally alone in your life.

When people feel disconnected from themselves, from others, or from a sense of belonging, they often reach for something that helps them numb, escape, or regulate what feels unbearable.

Substances.
Compulsive behaviors.
Work.
Scrolling.
Shopping.
Relationships that temporarily soothe the ache.

Addiction isn’t simply about willpower.
It’s often about pain that hasn’t had a safe place to land.

Healing tends to begin when people experience:

• Safe relationships
• Emotional honesty
• Compassion instead of shame
• A place where their story can finally be heard

Connection doesn’t magically erase addiction.
But it often creates the conditions where recovery becomes possible.

You weren’t meant to carry it alone.

—
If you’re struggling with patterns that feel hard to break, therapy can help create the kind of connection that supports real change.

Kimberly McNary, Licensed marriage and family therapist MFC #80011

On this International Women’s Day, I’m thinking about the women who came before me and the women I had the privilege of ...
03/08/2026

On this International Women’s Day, I’m thinking about the women who came before me and the women I had the privilege of raising.

My maternal & paternal grandmothers graduated from college in the 1930s, at a time when that path wasn’t expected—or encouraged—for many women. Her courage quietly opened doors that women like me would later walk through.

I’ve also had the honor of raising three strong daughters who are now women in their own right—capable, thoughtful, and resilient.

And along the way, I’ve been surrounded by extraordinary women: friends, colleagues, mentors, and clients who show me every day what strength really looks like.

As a therapist, I get a front-row seat to women doing some of the bravest work there is—healing, setting boundaries, rebuilding after loss, and choosing themselves again.

Today I’m celebrating the women who came before us, the women beside us, and the women still finding their voice.

Strong women don’t just appear.
They are supported, encouraged, and sometimes lovingly challenged into becoming who they are meant to be.

Happy International Women’s Day.

When one woman heals, she doesn’t just change her life—she changes the story for the women who come after her.

As a trauma informed therapist that helps clients work through tough experiences and feel regulated in their nervous sys...
02/14/2026

As a trauma informed therapist that helps clients work through tough experiences and feel regulated in their nervous system, breaking old patterns that don’t serve us now, creating healthy responses to situations that once triggered, creating more flexibility in life where rigidness used to be, increasing our positive sense of self, cultivating clarity where confusion once lay, here is my Valentines wish for you:

Valentine’s Day can be complicated for nervous systems that have learned love wasn’t always safe.

For those whose hearts learned vigilance before they learned rest…
For those healing from relationships that hurt…
For those grieving what never was…
For those practicing trust again, slowly…

Today is not a deadline for happiness.
It is an invitation to gentleness.

Healing does not ask you to rush toward love. It asks you to become safe enough to receive it.

And sometimes the greatest milestone is this:

Your nervous system begins to understand
that love no longer requires self-abandonment.

If today feels tender, honor the wisdom in that.

Tenderness is not weakness — it is evidence that your heart stayed open.

Move at the pace of safety.
Love can meet you there.

Cheers to 2026! 🎉
01/01/2026

Cheers to 2026! 🎉

January often brings pressure for reinvention. But healing isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about returning to who...
01/01/2026

January often brings pressure for reinvention. But healing isn’t about becoming someone else—it’s about returning to who you truly are.

This year, instead of resolutions, what if your focus was:
- Restoring safety in your body
- Deepening your relationships
- Creating space for emotional clarity

Let’s make this a year of inward growth. If this is something you’re longing for, therapy can be a powerful place to begin.

New Year's resolutions can be stressful, instead, focus on and have compassion for how far you've come!🌱 You’ve survived...
12/29/2025

New Year's resolutions can be stressful, instead, focus on and have compassion for how far you've come!

🌱 You’ve survived hard things
🧠 You’ve worked on your healing
💬 You’ve learned to ask for what you need

That’s progress. And it counts—whether or not it fits on a list.

Wishing you rest, clarity, and peace as the year turns.

Merry Christmas — however you're showing up today. Whether you're surrounded by love or sitting quietly alone, feeling j...
12/25/2025

Merry Christmas — however you're showing up today.

Whether you're surrounded by love or sitting quietly alone, feeling joy or grief, connection or confusion… there's no "right" way to feel on a holiday.

Take what you need. Step away when you must.

And if nothing else, breathe.

Not everyone looks forward to going “home for the holidays.”Sometimes that means:Walking on eggshellsManaging old trigge...
12/22/2025

Not everyone looks forward to going “home for the holidays.”

Sometimes that means:
Walking on eggshells
Managing old triggers
Grieving emotional disconnection

If this is your experience, you're not broken. You're noticing what hurts.

Honor what your hurt needs this season (declining the invite, limiting your time at 'home" or with family that is hard to be around, and process in your therapy what you want for next year!

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