Dr Kristin Zeising Clinical Psychologist Certified Sex Therapist

03/28/2026

03/26/2026

Pleasure does not have an expiration date!

03/23/2026

What would change if you trusted your yes… and honored your no - when it comes to your body, your desire, and your s*x life?

03/02/2026

Calling a breakup a “failed relationship” assumes the goal was endurance at all costs.

What if the real failure is staying past the point of respect, attraction, or alignment?

I see couples every week who think the presence of conflict means something is broken. In reality, conflict is often the invitation to grow - either together or apart.

A relationship can be deeply meaningful and still not be forever.

Maturity isn’t measured by how long you stayed.
It’s measured by whether you stayed true to yourself.

When I was a graduate student studying the psychology of romantic relationships, I read many papers that described breakups as “failed relationships.” They implied that the end of a relationship is necessarily a bad thing because a good relationship is supposed to last forever. This kind of language also suggests that the partners just didn’t try hard enough—they “failed” to figure things out.

However, breaking up doesn’t always mean that people involved made the wrong decision. Sometimes, breakup is the right call—and if the relationship wasn’t in a good place, ending it creates new opportunities. Also, staying in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve succeeded, especially if you’re not happy or the relationship isn’t really working.

The “failed relationship” language is emblematic of some of the problematic assumptions built into a lot of academic research on relationships, including the idea that longer relationships are inherently better, that *any* relationship can work if you try hard enough, and that shorter relationships just have less value and meaning.

It’s time to rethink the way breakup is discussed!

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01/10/2026

Eating sushi on my way to a women’s retreat about embodiment, sensuality, and desire feels… on theme.

11/17/2025

A recent presentation on menopause, midlife s*xuality, and what actually happens to desire as our bodies change.
This is some of my favorite work - helping women understand what’s normal, what’s possible, and why pleasure doesn’t end at 40, 50, or 60.
Midlife isn’t a decline, it’s a reset.
If you’re curious about this stage, tell me what you want more conversations about.

10/03/2025

What worked in your 20s won’t always work in your 40s and 50s. Midlife is about getting creative with pleasure - on your own terms. Here’s a clip from my chat on Crazy Stupid Midlife

10/02/2025

Stepped into The Intimacy Speakeasy hosted by — a warm space for real talk about connection and vulnerability.
We explored what intimacy means emotionally, physically, and relationally.
It felt so refreshing to have the kinds of conversations most of us are hungry for (but rarely get to have). 💜

07/26/2025

Enjoying a quiet Saturday morning while putting the finishing touches on tomorrow’s presentation: Reclaiming Desire, Pleasure & Sensuality After 50 ✨

I’m getting ready to gather with a beautiful group of women to explore what it means to get out of our heads, into our bodies, and back in touch with what truly lights us up.

There may be feathers, essential oils, and chocolate involved… because pleasure deserves props 😏

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07/09/2025

Some people look at s*xual compatibility as a matter of destiny—you’re either naturally compatible with someone, or you aren’t. Others, however, think of compatibility as something that you grow and maintain over time.

On average, research finds that those who adopt the growth mindset tend to be the most satisfied, which tells us that your mindset really matters when it comes to s*x!

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07/02/2025

Psychology terms that are consistently misused 😯



via igototherapy

06/07/2025

S*x therapy isn’t just about having better s*x—it’s about liberation, healing, and reclaiming our bodies from shame.

I’m here at AASECT surrounded by some of the fiercest minds in s*xual health—pushing boundaries, challenging outdated norms, and exploring how to better support people navigating desire, identity, and intimacy.

These are the conversations the world still wants us to whisper about.
But we’re not whispering.

Feeling grateful to keep learning, unlearning, and showing up for this work.

Curious—what’s one thing you wish we talked about more openly when it comes to s*x, intimacy, or healing?