Jason N Linder, PsyD & Associates

08/05/2025

Couple therapy isn’t the only option — especially when one partner isn’t sure they want to stay.

💡 Enter Discernment Counseling — a short-term, structured approach designed for mixed-agenda couples: one leaning out, one wanting to work it out.

In my latest post, I explain how this model offers clarity, direction, and respect for both partners — no pressure to fix what one may not want to fix.

If you're a professional working with ambivalent couples (or are one yourself), this post is for you.

Discover how discernment counseling helps couples on the brink of divorce—especially when one partner wants to separate and the other wants to stay.

07/15/2025

As a -informed  with extensive training in both Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( ) and , I’ve spent years studying how these two powerful modalities can work in tandem. My research, clinical work, and consultations have consistently pointed to one truth: we heal in relationships, and using them, especially when we can access the emotional injuries that keep us stuck, can accelerate healing.
In this post, I unpack the most compelling insights from my dissertation and subsequent clinical work:
Why EMDR can accelerate EFT by targeting attachment-based trauma
Why this fusion can depersonalize couple conflict and deepen emotional safety
The ongoing tension between risk and reward in using EMDR within couple dynamics
Whether you’re a seasoned trauma therapist or just beginning to explore the overlap between EMDR and EFT, this piece offers a practical lens — grounded in research — on how this complex integration can work well.

07/15/2025

As a -informed therapist with extensive training in both Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy ( ) and , I’ve spent years studying how these two powerful modalities can work in tandem. My research, clinical work, and consultations have consistently pointed to one truth: we heal in relationships, and using them, especially when we can access the emotional injuries that keep us stuck, can accelerate healing.

In this post, I unpack the most compelling insights from my dissertation and subsequent clinical work:

--Why EMDR can accelerate EFT by targeting attachment-based trauma

Why this fusion can depersonalize couple conflict and deepen emotional safety

-The ongoing tension between risk and reward in using EMDR within couple dynamics

Whether you’re a seasoned trauma therapist or just beginning to explore the overlap between EMDR and EFT, this piece offers a practical lens — grounded in research — on how this complex integration can work well.

What if the key to accelerating healing in couple therapy isn’t just in the present moment, but buried in the unresolved past?

07/07/2025

Torn between admiration and outrage over ? I am. You're not alone—and here's why I think it matters. Making sense of our tangled feelings toward polarizing public figures.

Few public figures stir as much admiration, detestation, inspiration, and frustration as Elon Musk. I’ve been fascinated by Elon Musk since learning about him in 2013, despite abhorring his sociopathic behavior, narcissistic tendencies, and his penchant for spreading misinformation and disinformat...

06/30/2025

Said “yes” to too many things again? Same. In this piece, I explore the psychological roots of why we keep overcommitting—and what we can do to stop the cycle.

Wondering why you chronically overbook yourself, regret it often, but struggle to stop? Here are 4 reasons why.

06/09/2025

Venting can definitely feel good—but is it keeping you stuck? What if all that venting in therapy is actually slowing your growth? Feeling better isn’t always healing. I believe therapy isn’t just for blowing off steam. Here’s what I think we’re missing.

What if unloading our frustrations through venting is actually keeping us stuck? Maybe the key to real change is holding on to just enough discomfort to spur action.

05/31/2025

Harnessing can be crucial for meaningful, long-term .

05/16/2025

Always an honor when training agencies repost my work! https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/importance-eye-movements-emdr-therapy-11-reasons-why-n-linder-psyd

05/11/2025

As an and , I'd advocate that most clinicians do for phases 4 to 6, most of the time, with most clients, instead of alternative methods of .

"Focus in the brain is anchored to our visual system. Activating our visual field increases acetylcholine and epinephrine for optimal neural plasticity.

04/28/2025

I got sick of many saying “it’s in your head,” responding to issues and . Here’s my rebuttal rooted in .

04/28/2025

I got sick of many saying "it's in your head," responding to issues and . Here's my rebuttal rooted in .

A common misconception is that mental health suffering is "just in your head." Here's why it's dangerously untrue, and how to help instead.

04/05/2025

Ever think you’ll be after you conquer a significant goal, only to find the resulting happiness to be disappointingly transient? Here I briefly explain the underlying phenomenon.