The Relationship Place Counseling and Therapy

01/07/2026

𝐋𝐞𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐠𝐦𝐚 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬.

Therapy isn’t about fixing something that’s broken.
It’s about learning how to communicate, navigate conflict, and stay connected as life and relationships evolve.

At The Relationship Place, we believe support should feel normal , not shameful, and growth should be something you don’t have to wait until crisis to choose.

Strong relationships don’t happen by accident.
They’re built with intention, curiosity, and care.

What would change if relationship support felt as normal as a workout or a check-up?

01/06/2026

How Do I Know If We Need Therapy?

“Do we need therapy?”
“Is it really that bad?”

Here’s what to ask instead 👇
💬 Have we been able to solve our relationship problems on our own?
💬 Are things getting better or slowly escalating?
💬 Do we have the skills to communicate and repair when conflict happens?

Research shows most couples wait 𝟔 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 after problems begin before seeking help. By then, resentment has built up, communication has broken down, and hope feels out of reach.

But here’s the truth: it’s not that you’ve failed, it’s that no one ever taught you the tools for conflict resolution, communication, or emotional repair.

That’s exactly what therapy is for.
To learn. To understand. To rebuild… together.

If you’ve tried to get your relationship back on track without success, maybe it’s time to stop trying alone. 💛

#𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 #𝐃𝐫𝐃𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐌𝐜𝐍𝐞𝐢𝐥 #𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲 #𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 #𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝 𝐒𝐚𝐧𝐃𝐢𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭

12/31/2025

Things your relationship does NOT need to figure out before midnight:

• Where this is going
• Whether this year was “good enough”
• If you’re doing it the right way
• What next year has to look like
• How you’re supposed to feel tonight

New Year’s Eve can quietly put a lot of pressure on relationships to feel resolved, connected, or clear.
They don’t have to be.

It’s okay to end the year exactly as you are: together, apart, unsure, hopeful, or somewhere in between.

We’ll take things one conversation at a time in the year ahead.

Wishing you a gentle end to the year and a calm start to the next.
🤍 The Relationship Place

12/26/2025

Boundaries aren’t punishments - they’re clarity.
They show others what feels safe, what your limits are, and how to stay in relationship with you in a healthy way.

The right people adjust.
The wrong people resist.
And the people you outgrow?
They test limits to see what still works in their favor.

A partner who respects you won’t push past your boundaries- they’ll honor them with their behavior, not just their words.

Pay attention to who leans in when you express your needs…
and who only leans in when you make yourself smaller.

This season isn’t just about giving, it’s also about protecting your peace.
Are you learning to hold your boundaries without apologizing for them?
Comment below if this resonates

12/24/2025

Love doesn’t fall apart because couples don’t care.
They fall apart when emotional availability is out of sync.

One partner reaches out because they crave closeness.
The other retreats because conflict feels overwhelming.
Both responses come from nervous system patterns — not character flaws.

Healthy connection happens when both partners learn the dance:
The anxious reach becomes gentler.
The avoidant retreat becomes shorter.
Both stay present long enough to repair.

If you’ve ever felt like you were the only one trying- this one is for you.



anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional presence, repair, nervous system patterns

12/22/2025

12/19/2025

New year energy often starts with goals.
Lasting change starts with values.

ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) reminds us that goals tell us what we want to achieve, but values guide how we live along the way.
When growth is only about outcomes, missed goals can turn into shame and avoidance.

When growth is rooted in values, there’s always a way to return.
This is the foundation of the work we do in ThriveWays - helping men clarify what matters, build psychological flexibility, and take meaningful action even when life gets uncomfortable.
Progress isn’t about perfection.

It’s about alignment - again and again.
If you’re ready for a different kind of reset, ThriveWays is here.

CLICK LINK IN BIO TO READ THE FULL BLOG POST




12/18/2025

Flooding makes conflict feel impossible because your nervous system gets overwhelmed before your words can even form.

This isn’t weakness.
This isn’t avoidance.
This is biology.

When your body hits its limit, the most productive move is to pause, regulate, and reconnect later.

📲 Share this- Someone needs to know their shutdown isn’t a flaw — it’s a signal.



conflict overwhelm, nervous system shutdown, communication tools

12/16/2025

If you had to earn love growing up, your nervous system won’t trust love that feels easy.

When connection was tied to performance, perfection, or self-sacrifice, your body learned that love had a cost. So when someone shows up with steadiness or softness, it can feel unfamiliar —even unsafe.

That isn’t brokenness.
It’s conditioning.
Healthy love isn’t a test.
It’s a regulating presence.

You can learn to recognize safety.
You can learn to receive ease.
You can learn to trust love that doesn’t require you to shrink.

Save this if you’re unlearning conditional love.


 attachment patterns, emotional safety, soothing, earned love, childhood conditioning, relationship healing

11/25/2025

Most women don’t want a perfect partner- they want a present one.

We’re talking about the real relationship glue here:
the small moments, the turn-toward gestures, the “I see you” energy Gottman calls bids for connection.

Here’s the truth most men never get taught:
✨ Presence outranks perfection
✨ Gratitude is emotional leadership
✨ Knowing her inner world (your Love Map) builds trust
✨ Reducing her mental load is an act of love, not a chore
✨ Consistency > intensity, every time

When a man understands these fundamentals, the whole relationship shifts.

And if you want to go deeper into how & why this works we broke it all down in our newest blog:
“Guys, Gratitude & Gottman.”

🔗 Tap the link in our bio to read the full post.
It’s packed with insights couples keep telling us they wish they’d known sooner.

11/24/2025

💬 Say hello to Tierra Terrell, AMFT and a wonderful clinician on our team!

Tierra believes that healthy, fulfilling relationships are about more than avoiding conflict- they’re about feeling seen, understood, and safe while navigating the everyday ups and downs of life.

💡 She’s especially passionate about helping couples with topics many shy away from, like sexual desire discrepancy, transition to parenthood, and creating deeper intimacy rooted in growth, compassion, and pleasure.

⛱ Her style? Inviting, energetic, playful, and productive. She brings empathy and directness- addressing hard topics while making space for enjoyment and real change.

📍 Based in San Diego and offering Telehealth across California, Tierra welcomes individuals and couples across all backgrounds, orientations, and relationship structures.

If you’re ready to grow together or heal a disconnect, Tierra’s here to guide you

11/20/2025

You’ve probably heard us mention the 𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐦𝐚𝐧 𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝, but what does that really mean and why do our therapists use it?

The Gottman Method is an evidence-based approach to couples therapy developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman after over 40 years of research studying what makes relationships thrive (and what makes them fall apart).
Unlike generic “talk therapy,” the Gottman Method gives couples practical tools they can use right away to:

💛 Strengthen friendship and intimacy
💬 Improve communication and emotional understanding
⚡️ Repair conflict in healthy, productive ways
❤️ Rebuild trust and deepen connection

At The Relationship Place, we use Gottman tools and assessments to help you identify patterns, understand each other’s needs, and create a shared roadmap toward a stronger relationship.

And it works!

#𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐞 #𝐆𝐨𝐭𝐭𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐌𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐝 #𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲 #𝐄𝐯𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐁𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐝𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲 #𝐒𝐚𝐧𝐃𝐢𝐞𝐠𝐨𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐭 #𝐑𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐆𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬 #𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐲𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐬