The Relationship Place Counseling and Therapy

05/22/2026

When a couple walks into our practice because their relationship feels unstable, they often want to go straight to the middle of the house: Manage Conflict. But here is the foundational truth of
Gottman Method Couples Therapy: You cannot successfully manage conflict if your foundation is crumbling.

Dr. John Gottman’s research found that a secure relationship is built like a house, floor by floor.
If you try to resolve a fight without a solid foundation underneath you, the walls shake.

Here is how the blueprint works from the ground up:

- The Foundation (Love Maps, Fondness, Turning Toward): This is your friendship. It’s how well you know each other’s inner worlds, how often you show appreciation, and how consistently you acknowledge each other’s micro-bids for connection.

- The Structural Support (The Positive Perspective): When your friendship foundation is strong, you naturally give each other the benefit of the doubt during misunderstandings.

- The Upper Floors (Managing Conflict & Supporting Dreams): Only when safety and friendship are locked in can you effectively navigate disagreements and help each other build a life of shared meaning.

If your relationship house feels a bit unstable lately, you don’t have to rebuild it alone.

🔗 Click the link in our bio to explore our Gottman-based therapy options and intensive programs designed to help you secure your foundation.

Save this post as a quick visual checklist for your relationship health check-ins.

05/19/2026

What does it truly mean to thrive?
In our latest blog post, Jeffrey Young, MA, LMFT, pauses on this powerful word, reminding us that to thrive is “to be fully, particularly, recognizably alive in your own way.”
When Jeffrey founded Thriveways, it began as a men’s mental wellness program “because that is where the need was loudest and the silence had lasted the longest.” But the core philosophy was always meant for something bigger.
Today, Thriveways is broadening to reflect what it has always been about: the conviction that individual growth and relational health are not two separate projects. “They are the same project, viewed from different angles.”
Because “the interior life of one person becomes the lived condition of the people who love them,” women have naturally begun reaching out. And Jeffrey’s answer is clear: the program always had a place for them.
Thriveways is now welcoming women and men for individual therapy, coaching, and small-group programs.
Whether you arrive at thriving as an individual or as a couple, we do not flourish alone. Real change has to survive contact with the people who know us.
🔗 Head to the link in our bio to read Jeffrey’s full, beautiful reflection on this new chapter: “The Many Ways to Thrive: What Thriveways Has Always Meant.”
https://www.sdrelationshipplace.com/many-ways-to-thrive/

05/07/2026

It’s a common misconception that family therapy is only for parents with young children.
In reality, some of the most transformative work happens when families reach out to address patterns that have been building for decades.

Family therapy with adult children is about breaking intergenerational cycles and moving from a “parent-child” hierarchy to a healthy peer-to-peer relationship.

As we grow, the “scripts” we used in childhood often stop working, but we keep playing the same roles. In therapy we can look at how these roles create perpetual conflict or emotional distance.

“Family therapy is changing. More and more, families are reaching out, not for young children, but for older teens and adult children, often after years of unaddressed patterns.”

By addressing these patterns now, you aren’t just fixing the present, you are changing the legacy for future generations. 🏠❤

✨ Want to learn how to navigate these complex dynamics? Head to website to read the full blog: Family Therapy with Adult Children: Breaking
Intergenerational Patterns That Have Been Building for Years.


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04/15/2026

“Working with Monica stands out far above and beyond.” 🌟

We are so proud of the incredible work Monica does with our couples at The Relationship Place! When you’re facing “roadblock issues” that have impacted your partnership for years, you need a therapist who isn’t afraid to get to the heart of the problem.

Our clients recently shared how Monica’s expertise in the Gottman Method has helped them:

* Move past long-standing emotional conflicts.
* Find resolutions that leave both partners feeling loved, respected, and prioritized.
* Build a relationship that is “as strong as it’s ever been.”

Whether it’s her calming presence or her commitment to providing real solutions, Monica sets her clients up for success both in the office and at home.

Thank you to our clients for these 𝟱-𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿 reviews and for trusting us with your relationship journey!

Ready to work with Monica? Book your consultation at the 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝗯𝗶𝗼.

04/09/2026

04/09/2026

𝗗𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 in your 40𝘀 and 50𝘀 is a whole different ballgame.

As we age, our lives become beautifully complex, we have aging parents to care for, children to worry about, and a lifetime of 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗷𝗼𝘆 to share. This is our time to celebrate how far we’ve come and find a partner who truly 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗿𝘀 that journey.

But how do we navigate this stage of life in a way that leads to a successful, 𝗹𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽?

I’m thrilled to be part of the MYA Scientific Advisory Board, where we are diving deep into the science of connection for those of us dating later in life. Let’s make this season of life your most fulfilling one yet.

Check out .matchmaking for more insights!

04/08/2026

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗲?

It is one of our most frequently asked questions, and the truth is, it’s more common than you might think. You don’t have to wait for your partner to be “ready” to start making 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 in your life and relationship.

Many people come to us individually to work on their own patterns, gain clarity on their partnership, or simply find a place to start. Sometimes, when one person begins to shift the way they show up, it 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗼𝗿 for their partner to join the process later.
Whether you are coming in as a couple or starting the journey on your own, we are here to support your growth.

Have more questions about how we work? Head to the 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝗯𝗶𝗼 to read our full FAQ page.

03/25/2026

𝗦𝗮𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗼 𝘁𝗼 one of our wonderful therapists here at The Relationship Place- 𝗔𝗹𝗲𝘅𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗿𝗮 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗲.

Alexandra works with individuals, couples, and families who are standing at one of life’s crossroads. Whether you’re navigating the beautiful chaos of new parenthood, feeling the weight of workplace burnout, or sensing that something in your relationship just isn’t clicking the way it used to- she’s here for all of it.

What makes Alexandra’s approach so special is the care she brings to the 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 person. She holds space for how race, sexual orientation, socioeconomic background, and lived experience shape your story, because your identity isn’t something to work around, it’s something to honor. Her work is culturally humble, trauma-informed, and rooted in real, evidence-based tools that actually help you move forward.

If you’ve been waiting for a therapist who truly 𝗴𝗲𝘁𝘀 it… the complexity, the nuance, the fullness of who you are- Alexandra might just be your person.

Reach out whenever you’re ready. We’ll be here.

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03/24/2026

𝗔 𝗳𝗲𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗸𝗻𝗲𝘄.

Our very own works with men every day on the quieter skills, the ones that don’t make headlines but make relationships actually work.Here are three Mindful Masculinity tips from Jeffrey- for better living and better loving…

𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘆, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘂𝗿𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝘆. Before you speak, check in with yourself. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘐 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸? That pause is where reactivity stops and real connection starts.

𝗢𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗿𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗲𝘀𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲. 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘁 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘱. 𝘓𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘯. Six words. That’s it. Small course corrections keep small moments from becoming big ruptures.

𝗕𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲. Pick one thing today: phone down at dinner, actually listening instead of waiting to talk. Presence is how you show someone they matter, without saying a word.

Which one did you need to hear today? 👇

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03/04/2026

Have you grabbed your ticket for the book swap yet?

We’re getting everything ready for today March 3rd from 6-8pm, and we’d love to see you there.

It’s the perfect low-pressure evening to clear off your shelves, find your next favorite read, and connect with the community.

Just a reminder of how it works:
1. Bring at least one book (or a whole stack!).
2. Check in and lay them out.
3. Browse and chat.
4. Take home up to four “new to you” books.
The Details:
* When: Tuesday, Mar 3 | 6 pm – 8 pm
* Tickets: $5 (Link in bio to snag yours)

Whether you’re coming solo or bringing a friend, we can’t wait to host you. See you there!

03/03/2026

What if you could accomplish six months of therapy in just one weekend? 🏝️

Life is busy. Between the kids, the laundry, and the never-ending to-do list, your relationship often gets pushed to the back burner. That’s why we created the Therapy Getaway Intensives

Imagine having the space to truly focus on your partner without distractions. Using the Gottman Method, we dive deep into repair and reconnection, giving you the tools for long-term satisfaction- not just a temporary fix.

It’s an investment in your future, condensed into a weekend that could change everything.

Ready to recharge your love? Visit the link in our bio to learn more about our upcoming Intensives.

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