A unique system of therapy that explores, heals and builds the whole-you.
06/04/2022
Here's what makes depression so difficult...
1 Way To Help Yourself Out Of Depression:
During episodes of depression we operate with a very pessimistic perspective. This perspective feels like the truth. So it feels like if you were to pursue a more joyful life you'd be abandoning truth.
Your body and mind believe that depression is your best survival strategy and it latches onto your truth.
Consequently, your body and mind will do whatever it can to ensure the continuation of depression.
How can you help yourself out of depression?
Realize that there is no ultimate truth and there's no ultimate judge.
05/04/2022
Are you trying to think your way out of darkness? Swipe to see what you can do instead >>
What ways do you practice getting into a flow state?
Leave them in the comments to share with me and each other.
04/04/2022
Do you feel like you're constantly obsessing over how to get what you want without any signs that it's coming?
The universe loves energetically stable states. You, in full alignment, living out your purpose, puts you in a state of love. Love is a highly stable state. The universe WANTS you to be in that state.
So, you can relax. Optimize states of joy and love. Be playful with the actions you take. There are systems at play that are much more powerful than you are that want you to have what you want.
02/04/2022
The way that you interact with others is always a reflection of how you are subconsciously relating with yourself.
When you bring awareness to the way you're relating to yourself, you create the opportunity to make conscious choices about how you then relate to others.
Do you regularly take stock of how you're relating with others? What has it shown you about the way you're relating to yourself? Share your comments.
31/03/2022
Remember this next time you feel afraid...
How To Redirect The Experience Of Feeling Afraid:
You may think you're afraid. But actually, you're experiencing a sensation in your body that you've been conditioned to believe is scary.
Being afraid of sensation in our bodies can make it difficult to take actions that serve us.
What to do when you feel afraid:
Bring awareness to the feeling in your body.
Be with it for 90 seconds with acceptance and patience.
Realize that you can tolerate the sensation.
Decide what action to take.
Are you still feeling afraid?
Go to my website (link in bio) to anonymously ask me anything to get free advice from a licensed therapist.
30/03/2022
When we don't like what we're feeling, we attempt to bypass our feelings. One of the main strategies we use to bypass is to shift blame onto others.
Labeling others as "bad" and wanting to punish them becomes the story we focus on.
Notice how often you label people "bad" or a "perpetrator".
When you do this, you are engaging in an age-old dynamic called the Drama Triangle.
The drama triangle includes a:
perpetrator
victim
hero
When there's the presence of one role, there's always the presence of the other two.
Each of those roles is blaming the other, they're enabling each other, and all are investing energy into this dramatic dynamic so that they can avoid taking accountability for transforming a circumstance they don't like into a circumstance they like.
There are helpful strategies to step out of the Drama Triangle. That said, the first, most important step is to practice noticing it.
Interested in working with me 1:1?
Go to my website (link in bio) to schedule a free introduction call.
29/03/2022
If you're unsure how to hold space for someone who needs support, this is for you >>
The pressure we put on ourselves to know the right thing to say in emotionally uncomfortable situations can be enough for us to avoid making ourselves available for that person.
It's not that you don't want to be there for them, it's that you don't know how.
But they're not looking for your words.
They're looking for safety to explore themselves, and that is something you can give them.
If you need help in becoming comfortable with discomfort, I’m now offering a collective + curriculum called “The Self-Creation Container” where I’ll be guiding nine participants through the steps I took in moving beyond awareness and into embodying self-actualization.
To learn more and apply to join the group, visit the link in my bio.
26/03/2022
Needing for something to be true reflects a desire for external validation to give you permission to feel what you want to feel.
Use the frameworks you discover along your healing journey as tools not truth.
Do you find that you cling to 'frameworks of self' to validate why you are the way that you are? Share your thoughts in the comments.
24/03/2022
Are you someone who finds it hard to make decisions?
Most people are living life afraid of a projected future self who will be regretting the decisions that their present self makes.
What does regret actually mean?
Shame, guilt and judgement.
These sentiments make decision-making feel impossible.
As you practice compassion and forgiveness for your former self, you begin to project a future self who does the same to your present self.
Here's how to practice compassion for your former self:
In all interactions, these are the two most important things to understand: (1) what does the other person want?; and (2) how is the other person experiencing their present circumstance?
These apply to the way you relate to yourself. As you reflect on past decisions, meet your former self with curiosity. Really seek to understand what it was that your former self truly wanted, and how did they experience their circumstances?
When you relate to your former self with this level of curiosity and kindness, you free yourself to start to see decision-making as opportunities for playful experimentation.
If making decisions is a constant overwhelming struggle for you, learn how to practice living in love by working with me. Visit flynnskidmore.com to learn more about 1:1 coaching.
16/03/2022
You don't need to know who you are.
All you need to know is what feels really good in your body, what brings you joy, what feels right, what makes you feel expansive and energized.
Develop your ability to listen to and trust yourself. Follow what feels right. Use this as your compass to make decisions and create your life. As you live life like this, you'll look back in hindsight and realize "oh I was being the most myself!"
15/02/2022
They are who they are.
It is your responsibility to recognise their patterns.
The more you invest in blaming them, the more likely you'll end up in the exact same dynamic again.
14/02/2022
Is it hard to love yourself?
One of the hardest parts about our development is that, along the way, we learn that it’s not safe to be in a state of love.
We learn that love is conditional. That some things deserve love while others don’t.
We internalize the idea that we are not lovable. That we need to be worthy and earn love.
That’s not how love works.
Love is a state of being. When you experience it, it’s like a blanket that wraps every particle in the universe.
When you experience love, all things ARE love.
Practice savoring and loving what feels easy. Familiarize yourself with the experience of love and allow your mind and body to remember that it’s safe.
Then move on to the next easiest thing to love.
Ultimately, your mind and body will remember that love is actually your SAFEST state. And then love naturally extends toward yourself.
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Want to experience self-love at a new level?
I’m now offering a collective + curriculum called “The Self-Creation Container” where I’ll be guiding nine participants through the steps I took in moving beyond awareness and into feeling empowered and self-actualized.
To learn more and apply to join the group, visit the link in my bio.
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Stress in your body is significantly reduced with practices like movement, time in nature, healthy sleep, gut health and so on. With this reduced stress comes a heightened capacity to explore, process and heal from psychological trauma. The healing of psychological trauma, in turn, makes it easier to sleep, eat well, access the energy to move, and connect with people you love. As time goes on, the cycle of wellness becomes stronger, and so much easier to implement.
Knowing your body
One of the most important pieces of our work is helping you build your capacity to really know your body. Most people realize they are activated (which can look like stress, depression, running thoughts, etc.) hours - or days - after a triggering event.
When we are able to deeply listen to our bodies (it feels like there’s a lump in my throat and my chest feels tight and cold), we can recognize and soothe activation in the present. We also apply body-listening to the exploration of trauma to understand the ways we are experiencing pain and fear in-the-now.
Our bodies provide much more information than our thinking-minds. Integrating this information in your day-to-day lives gives you much more access to being present, seeing options, and experiencing peace. I’m really excited to do this work with you.
More about Flynn
I am prone to depression and for a long time I tried to seek every single "problem" with myself and fix it.
This approach just exhausted me and perpetuated depression. What I've learned is that this process isn't about fixing, it's about healing. And healing requires us to lend the same acceptance, warmth and support to ourselves that we give to those we love.
I am obsessed with learning about how we can heal and move toward love - and understanding the ways this process is embodied in our psychology, physiology, neurology, endocrinology, and every other ology. And I love taking what I learn and sharing it with others in a super approachable and relatable way (which is a never-ending process for me).
I believe that this work is for everyone. So I strive to do this work in a way that makes everyone feel welcome.
