02/13/2026
Cheesy post for my gals 💘
I want to honor the many forms of love in my life today.
Valentine’s Day is not diminished if you’re single; it’s a reminder of the love that surrounds you everyday.
It’s taken me most of my adult life to detach my worth from having a partner. Yes. Seemingly everything is more interesting than being partnered. Theres a sacredness of being single if you’re willing. Being a woman is a gift in this universe. It’s relentless and powerful and life giving. Being interesting is not something my own mom modeled. I’m navigating what it means to deviate from the paradigm that was modeled to me and create space for a different lifestyle.
My 30s has lent itself to the greatest arc of my life (!!) and I continue to change while maintaining my values and self understanding.
My biggest breakthroughs, up levels and dark nights occurred when I was single. You’re confronted with yourself and single girl calendar management. Before my current relationship, I was consecutively single for the longest time since I was 16. Turning 30 was the midst of my Saturn return, peak pandemic and introduction to losing a parent. I vowed to date myself first and continue to say yes to things that I (previously) self selected if I had a boyfriend.
My capacity to love in this life is because of my steadfast friendships, humility and losses that make me whole. I hope you are reminded of love and its presence in your life outside of a partner. Tell someone you love them today, even if it’s yourself!
Mahal kita 🤎
