Jay Reid Psychotherapy

12/07/2025

We don’t have to hold the other up in our own minds to keep them intact and having goodwill towards us

12/06/2025

For scapegoat survivors, the holidays can stir up everything you’ve worked so hard to move past.

Even if you’ve gone no-contact, the season can bring up memories of being blamed, bossed around, or expected to show gratitude for mistreatment.

In this week’s video, I break down:

• The 3 most common holiday traps for scapegoat survivors
• Why you might feel pulled back into the old role
• A real-life case example of how these patterns play out — and how they start to shift
• What it means to live by your rules, not the narcissist’s, even in close proximity

If you're determined to protect your progress — and your self-worth — during this time of year, this will help.

👇 Comment “Free Tool” or “Holidays” below, and I’ll send you this week’s full video link plus a free downloadable tool to help you stay steady before, during, and after any stressful interaction.

12/06/2025

For scapegoat survivors, the holidays can stir up everything you’ve worked so hard to move past.

Even if you’ve gone no-contact, the season can bring up memories of being blamed, bossed around, or expected to show gratitude for mistreatment.

In this week’s video, I break down:

• The 3 most common holiday traps for scapegoat survivors
• Why you might feel pulled back into the old role
• A real-life case example of how these patterns play out — and how they start to shift
• What it means to live by your rules, not the narcissist’s, even in close proximity

If you're determined to protect your progress — and your self-worth — during this time of year, this will help.

To go with the video, I created a free downloadable tool to help you stay steady before, during, and after any stressful interaction.

It helps you map out what sets you off, what keeps you grounded, and how to plan for recovery if things go sideways.

Learn how to get this tool in this week’s video.

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Get Your Free Tool to Navigate Stress During the Holidays for Scapegoat Survivors.

Identify what increases and what reduces stress for you. Use that awareness to protect your inner experience from the stressors the holidays can present: https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/weekly-tool-dec-5-2025

Breaking the Scapegoat Spell Group Class
This work is hard to do alone. That’s why I’ve created a live, 8-week online course specifically for scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse: https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/breaking-the-scapegoat-spell-group-page

Free e-book: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse as the Scapegoat
Learn why a child is scapegoated by a narcissistic parent, how they have to adapt and the path towards healing: https://lp.jreidtherapy.com/optin

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12/03/2025

It may be possible for the scapegoat survivor to know how oppressed they feel

12/02/2025

How Therapy Begins to Change the Definition of Closeness

11/29/2025

The scapegoat child must find a way to limit their parent's hostility towards them

11/27/2025

The parent’s reactions to the child’s honest expressions create a dilemma for the scapegoat child

11/25/2025

What Closeness Meant for the Scapegoat Child

11/25/2025

If you were the scapegoat child, then being vulnerable didn’t mean being understood, it meant being humiliated.

Over time, you may have learned to shut down the parts of yourself that felt most tender, your sadness, your longings, your fears, because those were the parts most often used against you.

But that protection comes at a cost.

When vulnerability feels dangerous, it becomes hard to access your full emotional range. You may end up feeling flat, isolated, or disconnected from others, even when you want closeness.

This video explains how that reflex to avoid vulnerability formed, why it still shows up in your body and mind today, and why common strategies, like forcing yourself to open up, often backfire.

More importantly, it offers a different way forward, one that doesn’t require you to betray yourself in order to feel connected.

If you were the scapegoat child, then being vulnerable didn’t mean being understood—it meant being humiliated.Over time, you may have learned to shut down th...

11/24/2025

If you grew up under a narcissistic parent, you may have had to shut down your body’s natural energy just to stay safe.

That energy didn’t disappear, it went into hiding.
In today’s video, I walk you through how to gently and powerfully reclaim it.

You’ll learn:
• Why your body’s vitality felt like a threat to your parent
• How that led to chronic tension, disconnection, and shame
• A step-by-step plan to reconnect with your energy and feel alive again

It’s a deeply personal and practical conversation I think you’ll find helpful.

💬 Want to go deeper? Comment “free webinar” below and I’ll DM you a link to “How to Defy the Narcissist’s 2 Biggest Rules”, a guide to help you release old beliefs of being defective or undeserving and make steady progress in your recovery.

11/23/2025

How Scapegoat Survivors Learn that Closeness Doesn’t Mean Changing