
10/30/2024
SELF LOVE STARTS WITH SELF ABANDONING
By the time the majority of my clients find me-
they have already learned to ignore their feelings, bypass their pain, and believe really nasty punishing self talk.
Same was true for me.
As my disconnection go thicker and wider from the SELF I knew as the true me I did whatever I could to cover and to hide that I was so far off from who I knew I truly was.
This led to a whole bunch of twisted and distorted (albeit normal looking to most) behaviors to keep up a front and suppress the burdening within.
The burden I began to realize was not just tight shoulders, a sore jaw and a twisted tummy.
It was ME.... my true self living inside of me... HOLDING all the STUFF that I could not.
It felt so heavy.
It manifested as anxiety in the form of perfectionist and superiority.
With those qualities I could LOOK good yet not necessarily FEEL good.
When I began my journey within my own spine ... the fog that was fogging others
and fogging my human self from seeing my soul self began to clear.
My first chiropractic session once I became present to my spine in a deep potent yoga class was terrifying.
I DID NOT want to be seen.
I wanted to be invisible and to be fixed!
I mean I thought I did.
Luckily I had some big hitting healers that guided me inward and to go deeper into my true self through my spine.
I will always remember this mantra.
"This is all about you. This is for you. You are the one receiving this. It is ok to be here"
I said this to myself why lying on the chiropractic table the first time I became present to really wanting to heal (before this I had been to healers and never let them really see me- and it was an equal exchange with those practitioners)
I said that mantra - because I was crawling out of my skin anxious to be seen- with worry that something ugly- dark and gnarly would be found and I would be embarrassed or humiliated for being such a gross person.
I write this because people come to see me now 30 years later and I can feel threads of this in them. I have yet to meet anyone as intense about it as me.
It may be my open heart and the soft way I am with clients- even the most challenging. I am intentional about the energy held in my space, my paperwork, and my words in a way that is disarming. I know this about myself. It also may be that many of my clients have already done so much inner work before finding me.
Either way- my highest intention in everything I do and all the tools I use and all the mastery I hold is a reconnection with love of the SELF.
When the burden is softening the nervous system expands and there is a sensation of celebration that comes with this. It isn't really mental- it is biochemical...
When we reunite with self love- our body tingles as if in celebration of our homecoming,
Do you know what I mean?
TY Summer Hokulani for capturing this photo