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08/04/2024

Are you getting ready to your ?
I’m training for the Walker’s Haute Route, starting in and hiking 10-15 miles per day (Keep in mind I’m 65.) hut to hut about 130 miles, to I’m especially looking forward to the views. and and all the beautiful mountains, valleys and glaciers. Start to and or plan now. Start fulfilling your dreams in your one precious life, so you can dream up more. A doesn’t have to be for older people.
In my teens I lived in 🇬🇧 (thanks Dad) and studied maths and physics. Got a C on my French A Level and 770 on my AP French test (US), so something measurably good came out of that. Thank you comprehensive school, England.
In my 20s I worked at Sugarloaf, studied Spanish in Mexico, went to college.
In my 30s I lived in 🇮🇹 and learned to speak good including the subjunctive at the
In my 40s I raised a wonderful person
In my I through hiked the trail, half of the , moved to and hiked 28 out of 54 14,000 foot peaks. It counts so long as you start 3000 feet below the summit, so it’s not quite as big of a deal as it sounds.
In my I lived in for 2 years.
And in 2020 I would have hiked the but for the So here we are, 4 years later, a dream.
Really, what do you dream of doing? Share in the comments (only if you’re not a client). Maintain confidentiality, no HIPPA or GDPR confidentiality violations!
Natasha Walter-Fisk
dealing with anxiety at its roots so you can live your life in peace with glimmers of joy. One way to do that is to prepare for and fulfill your dreams. letsdealwithit.com

04/03/2024

What is your dream? Mine is to hike from Chamonix to Zermatt via the Walker’s Haute Route in view of Mont Blanc and the Matterhorn. Started . Thank you for all the amazing trails , bridges, lakes 15 pound pack today. Working my way up. This is a great start.
Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com

11/01/2024

May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you live in peace.
pauldennistontraining.com’s
Loving kindness guided meditation is lovely.

Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com, getting at the roots of anxiety to set you free.

27/07/2023

Gently stop…

And breathe…

What do you notice now?

Reminder:
Take a moment and
notice what you feel,
physically and emotionally.
Notice what you’re thinking.

How are you?
What do you need
right now?
How can you
meet that need?

Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com


Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I work exclusively online because I love to combine travel and work.
Your matters. You’re an adult now.

07/04/2023

I’m in for a month.
Ferry ride from to Cozumel,
Beach walks.
Full moon.
Yes, there’s a lot of seaweed in paradise.
And you’re ok anyway.
Natasha Walter-Fisk

LetsDealWithIt.com
Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of or is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize and , incorporating your .
Your matters.

25/03/2023

Perfectionism
Over Planning
People Pleasing
at
Work


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Perfectionism looks really good at work, but it means overworking and endlessly checking your work.
The emotional roller coaster that goes with it is a strain too.
Perfectionism is often
generated by fear.
It can be so draining.

Over planning at work looks good too.
But it requires serious mental energy to think through what could come up and make plans in case it does.
You think to yourself, “If this happens then we’ll activate Plan B, but if this other thing happens we’ll follow Plans X, Y and Z...” Some days you run out of letters in the alphabet…
The anxiety and effort are exhausting.

People pleasing can take many forms: perfectionism, over planning or strategic, subtle fawning.
(Fawning on people sounds like,
“Oh King / Mom / Dad / Perpetrator, you’re so wise and wonderful!” Implicit in fawning is the fearful thought, “Please, please! Don’t kill me! Don’t say ‘Off with her head.’”)

The emergency responses of
1. Fight
2. Flight
3. Fawn on People or
4. Freeze / Collapse
are hard wired in us at birth.
We first felt these responses when we felt threatened when we were little.

Many of us continue to feel threatened under certain circumstances,
and work is a big one.
The fear of losing our jobs,
displeasing authority figures (or anyone)
or being unpleasantly surprised
trigger us to feel one or more of our
hard wired
Emergency Responses.

’s examples of how trauma can show up at work on March 25, 2023? inspired this post. Thank you.

When you think of all the ways a person can overwork and the
drive that makes us do so,
think:
burnt out, exhausted, weary…
medical leave, quitting.
Save yourself!
Get help!
Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com

Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize

12/03/2023

The burdened internal system
Center
Self: This is the deepest essence of every person. When differentiated, Self acts, as a wise, compassionate leader, able to heal and lead the system.
Top
Managers: Protectors, act preemptively to keep you feeling secure by controlling people, events, and other parts. Carry burdens of responsibility, fear relinquishing control will lead to worse outcomes. Protect against anything that leads to vulnerability, pain, or instability.
Right
Firefighters: These protectors spring into action whenever pain from other parts, especially exiles, gets activated or threatens to overwhelm. Firefighters repress exiles, release pressure and get out of danger fast. Can overpower managers efforts to control the system.
Common firefighter, behaviors and traits:
Abusing substances, attempting su***de, binging, overspending, affairs, dissociating, distracting, cutting.
Left
Exiles: These parts have been rejected or traumatized, holding wounds, memories, terror, pain, shame. Young, often frozen in time, hiding for protection, eager to share their story. Protectors fear this will destabilize you.

matters

06/03/2023

An overview of IFS principles
1 Multiplicity
The human mind is naturally divided into parts. The parts of one person demonstrate different temperaments, talents, desires, ages, and gender. Together, they form an internal family, which organizes in the same way as other human systems. Each part, in its non-extreme state, wants what is best for the internal system. …
Parts are forced into extreme states by their environment… Extreme or isolated parts will use a variety of strategies to gain influence within the internal system in order to have their goals met, often becoming polarized with other parts, who have conflicting goals. The parts will only relinquish their protective or extreme rules when they believe it is safe to do so.
The goal is *not* to fuse all these personalities. Instead, the IFS therapist seeks to restore leadership, balance, and *harmony* in the internal system, such that each part can take its preferred valuable role.
Once internal and external constraints are removed, a part always reveals an innate drive toward balance and health.
From The Mosaic Mind: Empowering the tormented selves of child abuse survivors, by Regina, A. Goulding and Richard C. Schwartz(pp. 10-11)
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Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com

Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize incorporating your
Your matters and so does everyone else’s.

03/03/2023

A basic premise of IFS is that people have an innate drive toward and wisdom about their own health. They not only try to maintain steady states and react to feedback, they also strive toward creativity and intimacy. They come fully equipped to lead harmonious, internal and external lives.

From that basic premise, it follows that when people have chronic problems, these inner resources and wisdom are not being fully accessed. Elements in the systems in which they are embedded or that are embedded within them are constraining their access to these resources.

IFS therapy is designed to help people find and release these constraints.

From The Mosaic Mind: Empowering the tormented selves of child abuse survivors, by Regina, A. Goulding and Richard C. Schwartz p. 39 quoting (Schwartz, R.C., Internal Family Systems, 1995, p. 19 )

Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com


Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize incorporating your
Your matters and so does everyone else’s.

03/03/2023

A basic premise of IFS is that people have an innate drive toward and wisdom about their own health. They not only try to maintain steady states and react to feedback, they also strive toward creativity and intimacy. They come fully equipped to lead harmonious, internal and external lives.

From that basic premise, it follows that when people have chronic problems, these inner resources and wisdom are not being fully accessed. Elements in the systems in which they are embedded or that are embedded within them are constraining their access to these resources.

IFS therapy is designed to help people find and release these constraints. From The Mosaic Mind: Empowering the tormented selves of child abuse survivors, by Regina, A. Goulding and Richard C. Schwartz p. 39 quoting (Schwartz, R.C., Internal Family Systems, 1995, p. 19 )
Natasha Walter-Fisk
LetsDealWithIt.com

Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize incorporating your
Your matters and so does everyone else’s.

01/03/2023

Hi I’m Natasha. If getting at the roots of is what you want, you might like to work with me. I customize incorporating your

Your and so does everyone else’s.

26/02/2023

INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS
Lucky me, out of 10,000 people on the waiting list worldwide, I won the lottery and got into an in-person Level 1 Training.
Expect lots of quotes and concepts.

Hi I’m Natasha and getting at the roots of is my jam. I customize and incorporating your

23/02/2023

EMDRIA Foundation’s Racial Equity Support Initiative (RESI) aims to increase the number of BIPOC individuals who are EMDR Certified Therapists and EMDR Consultants. The initiative offers financial support to assist Black, Indigenous People of Color (BIPOC) individuals achieve these designations. We will accept applications for six weeks, beginning February 20 and closing on March 26.

The EMDRIA Foundation awarded two dozen candidates in December 2022. The program has opened for applications for the spring of 2023.

I am EMDRIA Certified and an EMDRIA Consultant-in-Training and enthusiastically encourage you to apply! We need more EMDR Certified and EMDR Approved Consultants who are Black, First Peoples, Native American, Latinx, Asian, Pacific Islander… so many peoples and so little space

14/02/2023

Dealing with anxiety and trauma draws on your resilience. If you don’t have much, it can be nurtured and can develop mightily. Life circumstances can prevent you from developing resilience. And life circumstances can also help you develop resilience. You might have a lot of resilience already. Your resilience might be all about roots, root systems, who loved you in childhood, (attachment), who modeled resilience for you (Vicarious resilience is a thing, just as vicarious trauma is a thing.), who gave you strength to grow from a child into an adult… and, drawing a metaphor to plants, the people who gave you those qualities may have helped you grow the capacity plus the ability to draw fresh water, oxygen and sunlight from your environment (be it a harsh environment or a nurturing one).
You can develop attachment even if you just had a short period of time with that support and care. And get this, you can develop resilience even if the support and care doesn’t come from a person; it could be a pet or a doll, comic, book, movie, a TV show, etc. You could develop resilience from a stranger telling you, Honey, what they’re doing isn’t ok…
And on a separate topic, here’s how I’m filling my bucket during this break: sailing, taking photos, going on walks, enjoying the weather, rain or shine, again.

01/01/2023

Martinelli’s bubbly apple juice .chen

23/10/2022

A glorious day in

19/10/2022

David Archer, amazing EMDR Approved Consultant in Canada, is offering group consultation. https://archertherapy.com He's offering anti-racist consultation and Consultant-In-Training hours. He explains things so well, is super insightful and I could go on forever about his work. He speaks at EMDRIA conference, has two published books and is really wonderful. Sign up!

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