Gay Therapy Center

04/10/2026

A strong relationship gets stronger when a couple learns how to talk about triggering topics in a way that brings them closer together. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2016/23/does-dont-ask-dont-tell-work-in-open-gay-relationships

04/10/2026

The beginning of a relationship, during the “in love” stage, is delicious. We feel euphoric. We enter into the intoxicating feeling that we are “at one” with another person.

However, according to long-range studies, the romantic obsession stage only lasts an average of about two years.

Then what?
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/01/gay-psychotherapist-what-do-you-do-when-the-in-love-feeling-wears-off

04/09/2026

Why are there so many hair stylists who are gay? Why are our homes so often featured in interior design magazines?

Why are we often the tastemakers of the fashion industry?

Why is there an entire décor resale website named Previously Owned By A Gay Man”?

Is there a special gay “taste” gene yet to be discovered?
https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/05/gay-counseling-why-are-there-so-many-gay-hairdressers

04/08/2026

Someone recently asked me to briefly describe the most important tasks of psychotherapy. It's a great question. Here are my top three tasks of LGBT psychotherapy. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2012/11/gay-therapist-reveals-what-are-the-top-three-tasks-of-therapy

04/08/2026

When you didn't get enough of something as a kid, it can have lifelong consequences. If you're a gay man, you probably didn't get the validation you wanted and needed growing up. Luckily, there are ways to learn how to provide that validation for yourself.

Gay Therapy Center Founder and Director Adam Blum explains how here:
https://youtu.be/kRt9Jz4xpOg

04/07/2026

Have you noticed that it seems like gay men are busy all the time? Take a look at the reasons why in this blog post AND better yet, what you can do to feel like you deserve to relax.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2019/14/why-are-gay-men-busy-all-the-time

04/07/2026

Pay attention to your reaction and try to be conscious of any pre-conceived negative judgment that you have around HIV. Some people still believe that only a slt or someone who is self-hating would be careless enough to get HIV. That just isn’t true, and comes from a place of prejudice. Having HIV doesn’t define a person, and may not even say anything about them at all. If you feel yourself going into a place of judgment, just acknowledge it as a first step to letting it go. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2017/14/so-the-guy-you-like-just-told-you-hes-hiv-positive-now-what

04/06/2026

1. Find gay friends with whom you identify.
2. It takes a while: keep looking until you find them.
3. Don’t expect your parents to “get it”, but don’t tolerate rudeness or disrespect.
4. Only date kind men.

What are the other 26? Read them here: https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2014/04/30-ways-to-combat-internalized-homophobia

04/05/2026

"Most people don’t know that there is a ton of great research about relationships. There’s even some very fine academic research about LGBTQ relationships.

Based on laboratory studies from prominent scientists John Gottman, PhD. and Robert Levinson, PhD., here are five relationship truths that may surprise you."

Read more on 5 surprising truths about LGBTQ relationships from GTC Founder Adam Blum here:

You may not realize it, but good problem solving and conflict resolution is not that important in long-term relationships.

04/04/2026

Last week, Adam joined Zachary Zane for an episode of Sexplain It Live on the Men’s Health Instagram page!

They took questions from listeners about s*x, including a discussion of casual s*x and how to approach tension with a partner’s family member. You can read a condensed, edited version of the conversation on the Men’s Health website, or watch the full conversation on their Instagram.

https://www.menshealth.com/s*x-women/a39387026/boyfriend-mom-onlyfans/
https://www.instagram.com/p/Ca5RlOftZX0/

04/03/2026

The answer is through exploration of fantasy with your partner based on your own core erotic themes.

This is not easy for many people to do. Your partner has great power to hurt you. We risk being belittled for our fantasies, or having them ignored. That's why poor communication skills often lead to poor s*x.

If you and your partner are not good at supporting each other with your words and actions then it's difficult to imagine a productive conversation about something as vulnerable as s*x. https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/01/gay-therapist-explains-what-keeps-s*x-exciting-in-gay-relationships https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2013/01/gay-therapist-explains-what-keeps-s*x-exciting-in-gay-relationships

04/03/2026

“I don’t want to be selfish.”

When I hear this statement in my psychotherapy practice, I get suspicious.

Often it is code for “I’m afraid of expressing my needs.”

Here’s the thing about our needs: it feels so good when they get validated by others. Maybe this blog post will inspire you to pay a little more attention to them.

https://www.thegaytherapycenter.com/adam-d-blum-mft/2015/5/gay-therapist-stop-worrying-about-being-selfish