Dr. Denise Renye: Whole Person Integration

12/11/2025

This is the honest truth about the holiday season...

Not every invite is an obligation.
Not every tradition is worth repeating.

When the nervous system is running on fumes, more stimulation does create more connection. It causes overload.

Serenity comes from noticing:
• What brings spaciousness?
• What brings stress?
• What does the body actually need?

Prioritizing calm isn’t withdrawing from the season:
it’s choosing a version of it that doesn’t cost well-being ✨

12/10/2025

It is common to think connection should just “happen.”But for many, connection requires learning a new relationship with the nervous system.When safety becomes real, communication opens.And repair feels possible.The relationship becomes something that can be returned to, rather than defended.If you or your partnership are in this unfolding,I offer therapy sessions that support steady, embodied connection.

12/09/2025

💛 Dating someone with secure attachment can feel like a breath of fresh air.

They’re steady, emotionally available, and consistent—someone who listens, validates, and supports you without drama. They enjoy closeness without feeling overwhelmed, respect your need for space, and handle conflict with calm, collaborative communication.

That said, even securely attached partners are human. They hold up a mirror to your patterns, gently encouraging growth and self-awareness. The result? Relationships that feel safe, trusting, and deeply connected—but still require effort and intentionality from both people.

Discover what it’s really like to date someone securely attached: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/10/20/what-its-like-to-date-a-securely-attached-partner

Someone with secure attachment can model for their partner what healthy, constructive communication, emotional regulation, and relational balance look like. They’re able to attend to their own needs because they have healthy boundaries , which means the relationship has intimacy and independenc

12/06/2025

It is common to think connection should just “happen.”

But for many, connection requires learning a new relationship with the nervous system.

When safety becomes real, communication opens.
And repair feels possible.

The relationship becomes something that can be returned to, rather than defended.

If you or your partnership are in this unfolding,
I offer therapy sessions that support steady, embodied connection.

You are invited to book a short connection call through the link in my bio.

12/04/2025

Being yourself should never require permission.
And yet, for many trans and nonbinary people, safety, acceptance, and dignity are still conditional.

Trans Awareness Week is a reminder to listen more closely, honor lived experiences, and create spaces where identity is not questioned, doubted, or debated.

Affirmation begins in the small moments:
language
tone
presence
curiosity.

Care that is consistent, not symbolic.

So to everyone claiming space in their identity: you deserve to be seen and safe 🤲

12/04/2025

💔 Dating someone with avoidant attachment can feel like an emotional rollercoaster.

They might seem distant, emotionally unavailable, or hard to reach—but it’s not about lack of care. For someone with avoidant attachment, closeness can feel overwhelming or unsafe, so they protect themselves by pulling back. This push-pull dynamic can leave their partner feeling unsure, unheard, or lonely even when physically together.

The good news? Avoidantly attached individuals can heal and grow. Their independence can bring stability, and with patience, self-work, and sometimes therapy, they can learn to stay present, open up emotionally, and build deeper trust and intimacy. ❤️

Understanding, patience, and consistent communication make all the difference.

Read my full guide to dating someone with avoidant attachment here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/10/14/what-its-like-to-date-someone-with-avoidant-attachment

Because of the withdrawal, dismissal, or silence, the partner may start to question if their needs are “too much.” They may think to themselves, “Should I not have said that? Was I too honest and real? Why did they pull away? How can I make them come back?” Alternatively, they might wonder i...

12/01/2025

Grief during growth is normal.
It’s the nervous system adjusting to new safety.

There is nothing to rush.
Nothing to force.
This can be slow.

The Childhood Healing Course was created for this stage of healing 💛
Link in bio to explore

11/29/2025

Sometimes it’s not the relationship that’s struggling...
it’s the nervous system.

Fight looks like defensiveness.
Flight looks like withdrawal.
Freeze feels numb.
Fawn keeps the peace at any cost.

None of these responses mean intimacy is impossible.
They mean the body is still bracing... and as long as we’re braced, calm can’t fully emerge.

Therapy can help create the internal safety needed to stay present in connection.
If that feels like a next step, my door is open.

11/28/2025

The “adult” self and the “inner child” are often both present in a moment of emotion.

Emotional maturity is when the adult self steps forward... not to silence the younger self, but to *hold* it.

Not: “Get over it.”
But: “I see what this reminds you of. I’m here now.”

That shift changes everything in intimacy, conflict, and self-trust.

Repost if you agree ✨

And if you're interested, check out my Inner Child Healing course: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/innerchildcourse

11/25/2025

💬 Healthy relationships don’t just happen—they’re nurtured. I often see couples assuming “no news is good news,” but small disconnections can quietly grow if left unspoken. That’s why I always recommend regular relationship check-ins.

A check-in is a dedicated time to pause, reflect, and reconnect—sharing gratitude, airing frustrations safely, and aligning on goals or plans. It’s like preventive care for your partnership: 20–30 minutes can strengthen trust, deepen intimacy, and keep your relationship intentional.

Whether your love story is brand new or decades in the making, scheduling your first check-in this week could make a world of difference. ❤️

Read my full guide to making check-ins simple and effective here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/10/1/why-relationship-check-ins-are-a-must-for-every-couple

Healthy relationships do not just happen. They are nurtured. In the rush of daily life, couples often assume that if there is no obvious conflict, things are “fine.” Yet many disconnections grow quietly, unnoticed until they become big enough to cause distance or resentment.

11/21/2025

📱💔 Is technology keeping you from real connection in your relationship?

In our digital age, screens can be more than tools—they can become shields, helping us avoid difficult conversations, emotional intimacy, and even presence with our partners.

In my latest article I share how scrolling, notifications, and constant digital distraction can create distance, and offers practical ways to turn toward each other instead of tuning out:

✨ Create device-free zones
✨ Notice the urge to check out
✨ Name the discomfort
✨ Practice micro-moments of presence

Choosing presence—even in small ways—builds trust, deepens intimacy, and reminds us that connection isn’t about perfection, it’s about willingness.

Read the full article here:https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/9/25/how-technology-can-be-an-avoidant-tactic-in-romantic-relationships

Presence requires slowing down enough to notice what is happening inside and between you and your partner. That can feel uncomfortable. When conflict arises, when intimacy deepens, or when needs are unmet, being present might stir fear of rejection, shame, or inadequacy. Picking up a phone or turnin