Dr. Denise Renye: Whole Person Integration

10/10/2025

Is your phone quietly pulling you away from your partner?

Avoidance doesn’t always look like leaving the room.
Sometimes it looks like reaching for a phone instead of reaching for your partner.

But your phone doesn’t have to be barrier to love.

Connection begins with presence... and presence often begins with putting the phone down.

What small pause (and presence) could you bring into your relationship today?

10/09/2025

That wild, unforgettable s*x with someone emotionally intense? It’s not just chemistry—it’s your nervous system on high alert. 🧠💥

Dr. Denise Renye explores why chaotic relationships can spark passion, and how stability can be just as s*xy—when it’s built on trust, creativity, and emotional safety.

➡️ Unpack the difference between intensity and intimacy here: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/8/31/why-does-s*x-sometimes-feel-better-with-emotionally-intense-partners

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The key difference is that the fire comes from choice and creativity, not chaos. When passion comes from choice rather than chaos, it is sustainable and freeing. You can explore fantasies, play, and intimacy without fear or anxiety dominating the experience. Desire becomes a shared adventure instead

10/08/2025

Healthy s*x doesn’t have one look, one pace, or one definition.

It might mean planned intimacy.
It might mean laughing through the awkward moments.
It might mean slowing down, or wanting more connection than climax.

That’s not broken. That’s real.

Follow for more on intimacy & relationships ✨

10/07/2025

Safety in a relationship isn’t something you can fake.

Many couples think intimacy is about doing more — more s/x, more romance, more communication.
But often, what’s missing isn’t “more.” It’s safety.

When the nervous system feels safe, connection flows.

Arguments de-escalate faster.
Laughter returns more easily.
Sharing needs feels less risky.

If safety feels hard to hold in your relationship, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Couples therapy is a space to slow down, rebuild trust, and let your nervous systems rediscover connection 🤲 Reach out today for a consultation.

10/06/2025

When we expand our definition of intimacy, we create more opportunities to feel close.

Intimacy isn’t limited to passion or performance.
It’s about the ways we say “I see you, I hear you, I’m here with you.”

Sometimes it’s an inside joke that no one else understands.
Sometimes it’s reaching out to hold a hand in silence.
Sometimes it’s showing up with soup when your partner is sick.

These small, everyday gestures of presence are powerful.

They remind us that intimacy is woven through connection, safety, and trust... not just s/xual expression.

If this rings true for you - share it with your partner ♥️

10/05/2025

“Today it’s become more normalised to come out as gay, trans or q***r. That said, not everyone has access and money to move to places to feel safer or finds it easy. It’s a really disturbing time with conservative laws passing – for women’s rights and for LGBTQIA rights – it’s a blink away from going right back to a repressive and dangerous place. This is why community is important, because you need to have a place to meet to have fun, to be yourself, to be creative.”

Photographer Chloe Sherman captured her own world of femmes and butches, punks and studs.

09/30/2025

Dating someone with anxious attachment can feel like emotional whiplash—one minute you're close, the next, they're spiraling. But it’s not about manipulation—it’s about fear of losing connection. 💔

This guide is for partners trying to navigate the highs & lows with more empathy, boundaries, and emotional insight. You can build a healthier dynamic—together.

➡️ Tips for both partners on creating safety and space: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/8/28/what-its-like-to-be-in-a-relationship-with-someone-who-is-anxiously-attached

Arguments may flare up around perceived disconnection or distance, even if no intentional harm was intended. For instance, “I just needed a night to myself. It wasn’t because I’m losing interest or plan to break up with you.”  The partner may sometimes feel “smothered” or lose a sen...

09/27/2025

Disorganized attachment is complex.

If you’ve ever felt confused, second-guessed yourself, or wondered why love feels like walking on eggshells... you’re not alone.

This specific attachment style mixes longing for intimacy with fear of vulnerability.

And yet, disorganized attachment doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed.

It means the nervous system is caught between craving closeness and fearing it.
With patience, consistent safety, and therapeutic support, these patterns can shift 🤲

Have you ever experienced this pattern in your relationship? How was it for you? Let me know in the comments.

09/26/2025

Wanting more connection means you are tuned into your needs, listening to your body, and honoring your desire for closeness.

It is a reminder that you are alive, relational, and capable of growth.

It takes courage to admit that intimacy could feel deeper, safer, or more fulfilling.

So many of us were taught to settle and to pretend our needs are “too much.”

But longing for more is not too much. It’s human. And it’s hopeful.

S/x therapy is a space to explore that hope.
To get curious about what intimacy means for you and your relationships.
Link in bio to learn more about working together ✨

09/25/2025

Breakups take the nervous system out of fantasy and into reality.

What once felt safe may reveal indifference.
What once seemed ordinary may reveal neglect.

This is clarity... and clarity is healing.

Send this to someone you think might need it 💛

09/25/2025

Ever feel too needy in relationships? Constantly on edge waiting for a text back or reassurance? 😰 That might be anxious attachment—an adaptive survival response, not a flaw.

Learn how anxious attachment shows up in love, friendship & work—and how healing can begin through self-awareness, mindfulness, and consistent connection. 💫

➡️ Discover the signs and strengths of anxious attachment: https://www.wholepersonintegration.com/blog/2025/8/25/online-s*x-therapist-discusses-what-its-like-to-be-anxiously-attached

The reason therapists like me talk about attachment is that these early childhood relationships prime people’s future relationships. The patterns don’t disappear simply because a person got older. That means in adulthood, the person is still anxious. In their romantic relationships, they have a ...

09/20/2025

Small reminders. Big healing.

Your inner child doesn’t need perfect answers.

They need comfort.
They need words like “You are safe now” and “You are not too much.”

Simple reminders, repeated often, can feel like a soft place to land.

If you're interested in more Inner Child Healing - check out the course at my link in bio 🤲