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"Deep Resilience” is about finding our grounding, core peace, courage and wisdom during these challenging times. Can we ...
05/28/2025

"Deep Resilience” is about finding our grounding, core peace, courage and wisdom during these challenging times. Can we be open to what is happening in the world and respond with compassion and right action? … Join me for a by-donation, public webinar this Saturday from 10 am to 12:30 pm Pacific Time (May 31st). Details in my recent newsletter, linked below in comments. See free resources there too. ... Plus coming events in England.

In my latest newsletter: How BIG can our spirituality be? Coming live events (global webinar in May and Suffolk in July)...
05/14/2025

In my latest newsletter: How BIG can our spirituality be? Coming live events (global webinar in May and Suffolk in July). Special, newly released audio files Mr. Sydney Banks made for my father, Roger Mills.

See link below.

I had the opportunity to interview Dr. George Pransky about his new book, “The Secret to Mental Health,” as well as his...
04/07/2025

I had the opportunity to interview Dr. George Pransky about his new book, “The Secret to Mental Health,” as well as his thoughts on staying resilient in challenging times. The result was a dialogue between Dr. Pransky and I that was sweet and funny and at times, I think, profound. You can tune in at www.ksqd.org for the live stream. 6 pm Pacific Time, today, Monday.

In this special, more personal program, Ami Chen Mills interviews her colleague, author and psychologist Dr. George Pranksy--who, with her late father, Dr. Roger Mills--helped to bring an "innate mental health" psychology, based on the spiritual insights of a ninth-grade educated welder living in British Columbia, Canada to the field and to the world. Monday at 6 pm on KSQD.

Dr. Pransky is a founding professional of the psycho-spiritual paradigm called the Three Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness. He is the author of several books including The Relationship Handbook, The Secret to Mental Health, and Unbreak Your Heart. His unique perspective on human interaction has earned him national recognition as a speaker and thought leader. He is co-founder, along with his wife Linda, of Pransky & Associates and a member of the Executive Committee of the Three Principles Global Community.

Is it OK to be angry at this time? And if so, how angry? And what KIND of angry? Someone asked me a question about activ...
03/26/2025

Is it OK to be angry at this time? And if so, how angry? And what KIND of angry? Someone asked me a question about activism, anger and burnout and this essay is my response. See link in comments.

Is there something wrong with you?
10/23/2024

Is there something wrong with you?

THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH ME

It’s been a few months since I was at the 3 Principles Conference, and one particular talk has really stuck with me.

In fact, it’s stuck with me so much, that I’ve been sharing its simple message with clients and groups, ever since!

It was a comment from Shane Kennedy – the chap who captured so many of Syd Banks’ conversations on video tape, releasing them over the years, through his company, Lone Pine Publishing.

He was talking about how he wasn’t really a teacher of the 3 Principles, nor did he consider himself particularly knowledgeable. But he explained that years ago he had one simple, common-sense insight that he’s held on to, and worked from, and let grow over time, and it’s changed his life completely (into what he calls a beautiful life, full of adventure and tragedy).

***

So often, we get a brief glimpse behind the curtain, having a moment of insight about ourselves, or the nature of things — “Oh yeah… of course!” — and it feels great. There’s a feeling of okayness, of coming home, of being at one with the world.

A couple of days or weeks later though, we’re back to taking it all for granted — a new normal has been established — the mind has become restless again and is off on another of its seeking adventures: What’s the next insight I’m going to have?

The mind loves having experiences, especially ones where we get to feel great, and it’s attached “having an insight” to “feeling great” so that’s what it does. Creates another of its stories; this time: “I’ll be happy when… I have an insight.”

It leads to a life of perpetual seeking - the nagging feeling that “there must be more…”

It’s such a little monkey! 🐒

***

Not long after the conference, I was invited to speak in a private group, and was asked what was one of the main insights I’d had about myself, since coming across the 3 Principles.

I’d considered this before, and while there are a few stories I have told about insights I’ve had, I think the main one was realising, beyond a shadow of doubt, that there was absolutely nothing wrong with me (a belief I’d been innocently operating from for 40+ years, prior to that moment).

And because that realisation happened quite a few years ago, and I’ve just taken it on as a fact of the human make-up in general (it’s the “Innate Health” in us all that I’m always banging on about), I think I’d maybe started taking it for granted.

The host of the group reflected it back to me, saying something like, “Blimey! That sounds like a pretty life-changing realisation to have!” … and I suddenly re-remembered what a MASSIVE deal that was!!

I mean, just look at the difference in how we’d show up in life, with (or without) that realisation:

➤ There’s something wrong with me ➡️ Constant seeking of fixes, coping mechanisms and exhausting attempts to “better” ourselves; approval-seeking and endless striving for more… all of it guaranteed to never reach any kind of resolution

➤ There’s nothing wrong with me ➡️ None of that nonsense makes sense any more.

And it’s important to know this, because the way life is set up, it will certainly look like there’s something wrong with us, on an almost daily basis!

➤ My business isn’t going how I expected it to: there’s something wrong with me
➤ I have a habit I don’t like: there’s something wrong with me
➤ There’s tension in a relationship: there’s something wrong with me
➤ Parenting feels like a struggle: there’s something wrong with me
➤ I don’t like the way I behave in that particular situation: there’s something wrong with me

… and on and on it goes.

***

I think this is what Shane was talking about when he said to be grateful for the one simple insight you have had, and work your way outwards from there.

Because every time I fall back into the simple truth that there’s nothing wrong with me — or with you, or with anyone! — life flows effortlessly. (And I too, get to live a beautiful life, full of adventure and tragedy.)

So what’s your one simple insight you’re innocently taking for granted?

Let me know, I’d love to hear!

And how about relaxing back into that insight, and living life from that place, just for today?

💟

Giles

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My latest newsletter, with a voter guide. Sending love and peace and hopes for a much brighter day for us all. https://c...
10/22/2024

My latest newsletter, with a voter guide. Sending love and peace and hopes for a much brighter day for us all. https://conta.cc/3AaW4aY

My teen daughter and I have gotten good feedback on this podcast we created together, especially from folks who are bran...
10/15/2024

My teen daughter and I have gotten good feedback on this podcast we created together, especially from folks who are brand new to a 3 P psychology. This is our episode introducing the Principles. Find pod link in comments.

10/09/2024

I have been working with a wonderful, kind, end-of-life vet for our little dog, Coco. When she found out I was planning to go to Nevada to canvass for Harris and other Democrats, she waived the fee for her consult.

"Thank you," she said.

"My adrenals have been over-functioning," she told me. "I think a lot of us have post-trauma from 2016."

Yes. Don't know if this is "post-trauma or "pre-trauma." I have this background "high keyness" that spikes with any personal issue or problem that comes my way. It's been a couple weeks.

I found solace yesterday in the vigil for all who have lost their lives in Gaza, Israel, Palestine and Lebanon. This was a gathering of caring, loving people allowing all the feels. We sang and prayed and spoke to one another, holding candles in the darkening night.

I find solace and comfort in the kindness of people like my vet.

If you are feeling tense or anxious, I just want you to know I feel you. When this is over, we will find a new world (one or another) and we will make our way with all our courage, wisdom and community.

09/22/2024

In our society, we like to talk about mindfulness and breathing and self-care and taking breaks, but as long as our economy and systems are set up toward maximum profits and endless growth and constantly accelerating "innovation" ... as long as our psychology is directed toward extreme wealth and outer displays of "success" and "happiness" ... as long our social safety net is as frayed and fragile as it is, so that people feel afraid of becoming ill, losing a job, aging, retirement or eviction, because there is no net to catch them ... we are, overall, trapped in systems which do not allow for true self care and slowing down.

Having said that: I do believe that self-care and thriving are possible in any society. That is the gift of insight, spiritual connection and true self-empowerment. We can each find our way with wisdom. But the time for just individual self-care is past.

If the system remains in place as it is, it not only generally wears down the society, but, as we see with climate and ecology, will self-destruct, leaving millions if not billions in dire straights (it already has in many regions of the world)

Systems respond to the thinking and values of humans who create them. We CAN create systems that are slowed down, that incorporate wisdom and self-care and compassion (four-day work week, health care for all, housing as a human right, no billionaires, an indigenous/elder/femme led council to direct economic growth or non-growth within the limits of Earth's carrying capacity.)

Now is the time to dream.

09/21/2024
09/08/2024

THIS IS HOW WE DO IT

A few words from Senator Bernie U.S. Senator Bernie Sanders

One of the tools that the Oligarchs use to maintain their position of power is to make it appear that real change is impossible, and opposition is useless. They have the power. Ain’t nothing we can do about it. That’s the way it is and always will be. Give up trying.

Fortunately, these masters of the universe are wrong. Very wrong. As progressives we have made enormous progress in recent years, and continue to do so. And we should be extremely proud of what we have accomplished.

A few examples:

When I was elected to the U.S. House of Representatives in 1990 I started the Progressive Caucus. We had 5 members. Today, under the very effective leadership of Rep. Pramila Jayapal, there are close to 100 members. Many of them are young, people of color and very effective. The Democratic Caucus in the House is now more progressive than it has been for a very long time.

In the last 3 1/2 years, under President Biden, we passed some of the most progressive legislation in modern American history. We passed the $1.9 trillion American Rescue Plan which supported the needs of working families and took this country out of the COVID caused economic downturn far faster than anyone imagined possible. Further, we have begun to take on the powerful drug companies, made the largest investment in rebuilding our infrastructure in American history, put more money into transforming our energy systems than any country in history and have cancelled the student debts of almost 5 million Americans. Among other things.

These developments did not take place by accident. They occurred because, together, we put together a progressive and popular agenda and had a president willing to work with us.

And let me give you another example which indicates the kind of progress we have made in recent years. Take a look at the official platform of the Democratic Party. Trust me. I know that party platforms are not binding but, nonetheless, they are extremely important. The platform matters because it is a document that enshrines the values and goals of the Democratic Party. It's a document to which we can point and say, "This is what Democrats believe, and this is what we must fight for.”

Now it wasn't long ago that many of the issues we are fighting for were considered "radical" and "fringe" by many people in the Democratic Party.

The first time I introduced Medicare for All legislation, I couldn't find a single Senator to co-sponsor the bill. Today it is a mainstream position of the Democratic Party.

In 1993, I introduced a bill, the Living Wage Act, that would have raised the minimum wage to $5.50 an hour. That bill had only a couple dozen co-sponsors. Another "pie-in-the-sky" idea.

Oh how times have changed since our first presidential campaign.

In 2012, the last platform before we ran, the Democratic Party platform started the health care portion of the platform by saying "We believe accessible, affordable, high quality health care is part of the American promise"

In 2024, it begins by saying "Health care should be a right in America, not a privilege."

In 2012, the Democratic Party platform talked about partnering with states to "move toward" paid leave.

In 2024, it talks about a "national paid family and medical leave program, guaranteeing every American worker up to 12 weeks of paid time off to care for a new child or loved one to recover from an illness, in cases of domestic violence, or military deployment."

In 2012, there was no mention of expanding Medicare.

In 2024, it says "We'll look to expand traditional Medicare coverage to include dental, vision, and hearing services, which are so key to health and quality of life, by making the wealthy and big corporations pay their fair share."

In 2012, the platform said "We will raise the minimum wage, and index it to inflation."

In 2024, it says "We also raised the minimum wage for federal contractors to $17.20 an hour, and will keep pushing Congress to increase it to at least $15 for all Americans."

In 2012, the only talk of prescription drugs was about closing the Medicare "doughnut hole."

In 2024, it takes on the greed of the pharmaceutical industry when it includes, "Big Pharma has ripped off Americans for years, charging two and three times more here than in other countries for the exact same medications."

In 2012, there was little mention of student debt or loans and talked about plans to ensure payments are only 10% of a graduate's income.

In 2024, there are paragraphs about efforts to cancel student debt and how the crushing burden of these loans holds back our country.

In 2012, there was no discussion of public financing of elections.

In 2024, it says "Democrats will also fight to strengthen public financing with small-dollar matching for all federal candidates."

In 2012, there was no mention of private prisons.

In 2024, there are paragraphs and it starts with a pledge to "end state-level use of private prisons and detention centers."

How did this happen?

If you think it happened by accident, or because the leadership of the Democratic Party woke up one morning and just decided to start fighting for these ideas, you would be mistaken.

They happened because of you.

They happened because of every donation, every phone call, every door knock, every text message, every social media post, every packed rally and town hall supporting not only our presidential campaigns, but candidates who pledge to fight for these ideas.

That is how change happens. That is the political revolution we talk about.

But, it goes without saying, there is much, much work left to be done.

Right now, our job in the next 2 months is to come together, defeat Donald Trump and elect Kamala Harris as our next president. But, in the process, we must never lose sight of our long term goal. And that is to implement a progressive agenda, including many of the strong provisions in the Democratic Platform.

06/29/2024

As I have said, this is my town square. There are others, not as large and maybe more “real." I want to just share that since the debate on Thursday, I have felt varying degrees of—not anxiety—but sadness.

Depression, I suppose.

Not clinical. Just bummed out. The memes are all funny. We can joke. But I do not want to pretend to be so “spiritual” that I do not understand the weight of what a second Trump term would be like for us, for the world, for any hope for climate mitigation, all the beautiful species, clean energy, or even well organized, rational and compassionate responses to anything at all. I know Joe Biden is complicit in Gaza too. It’s all such a sh*tshow.

With Trump, it will be billionaires, hedge funds, fossil fuels and private equity (along with Christo-f@scists gunning for the End Times) running us all into the ground as we spiral out in late stage capitalism and patriarchy. It’ll be … oh, you know all the stuff … Probably like Russia. SNL will be the first to go. Just like in Russia. Then CNN (don’t know why MAGA hates them so and not MSNBC), and then another and another until the world goes dark that way.

You know what will happen to women, girls, our girls, my girls, to trans kids and adults and their families. To the entire LGBTQ+ population, to Black people and POC who wish to study their own histories and advance their own freedoms, and dignity and for all of us who wish to heal, together, and grow together and generate new paradigms for living, who can see a different future, blocked by greed and a thirst for power.

Maybe there will be a revolution. Some have said a civil war. I feel like no one has the energy for either. I know there will be violence against POC, as there was in Christchurch, at the Walmart in El Paso, at synagogues, in Buffalo, etc. etc. The tone of the leader awakens that same tone in those who wanted an excuse and an outlet for their rage anyway.

There will be pockets of light and community. We still have love and will always have love … but I remember those four years of this dark, awful, ridiculous, cruel cloud upon us.

And I am sad. I will do my show. (And please join us, yes!) I will keep my head down and do my best and pray for the best and GOTV and support the candidates and support all the good, wonderful, excellent humans in this world who care and who share and can see beyond their own, personal worlds.

Does Biden still have a chance? Yes. Absolutely. And even then, so much work to do. But more time. More space … to do it in.

But today I am sad. That is OK. I am going for a walk. How about you? How are you?

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