Margaret C. Wang, LMFT Psychotherapist

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Margaret C. Wang, LMFT Psychotherapist

Margaret C. Wang, LMFT offers psychotherapy in the state of California via telehealth. Wang, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, IMF #132544
M.A.

Santa Clara University Counseling Psychology

I offer individual and group therapy via phone and video, while ensuring that the telehealth medium is secured and confidential. Maybe you look amazing on paper but your insides don't mirror that. Or you feel stuck and your fears are holding you back. I'm excited to tell you that you can get everything done EVEN IF it doesn't seem like there's enough time in the day. When working with clients, my focus is on making sure that you feel heard and understood. I find that it is so important to approach my work with non-judgment and openness. Whether you are working through intergenerational trauma, or are hoping to overcome symptoms of depression, I am here. I find that it's imperative that we collaborate and you determine your goals because you know yourself best. I’m here to help you better manage whatever circumstances are leaving you feeling helpless, and I will equip you with the skills to cope with difficult emotions.

03/16/2026

We don't need to minimize our feelings.

This means that we can create space for conflicting emotions. Because emotions aren’t logical or illogical; they just are. Our reactions don't have to "make sense."🤔

Here's an example of holding conflicting emotions: We might be angry at a family member for responding a certain way AND we might be grateful for the person's love and care. It's much easier for us to process events as black-and-white, but most likely, there's a bit of gray, and that's more complicated to process. 🌫

DM me if you're having a hard time experiencing emotions in the gray area. 🌚

03/11/2026

I’m going to say something that feels uncomfortable to admit out loud:

I’m not a big fan of networking. 🫣

When your daily life involves deep listening and constant communication, the idea of a high-energy networking event can feel incredibly overwhelming. To make it through, I’ve started setting a "low bar" for myself.

For me, a "win" looks like:

• Having just one meaningful conversation with someone I’d actually want to talk to again after the event.
• If I talk to five people or have three deep chats, that’s a massive bonus!

I also preserve my energy by being very conscious of what I do before the event—limiting my interactions and keeping them short so I don't show up already drained.
If you're an introvert or have a "high-talk" job, maybe this "low bar" strategy is exactly what you need to actually enjoy your next event. 🌿

The strategy: "Doable Scorecard" from
Pooja Venkatraman, MBA.

03/10/2026

Just had to include this.

Jill has always been a role model to me: she's kind, humble, and so very intelligent. Without her encouragement, I wouldn't have finished college. I very much struggled during that period. We'll leave that story for another day. She's the one who always believed in me and said exactly what I needed to hear. I could go on, but this isn't about me.✨️

⚠️If you know someone who has a kid who's applying to college, please go out and buy her book!⚠️

I read it, and found some wonderful nuggets, even though I'm not in that category.

📚My thoughts on her book:

What a wonderful resource for parents, students, and/or their support team, as students apply to college!

This was such a helpful guide: it's equipped with practical tools all throughout the book-- from FAFSA to college essay examples.

These strategies and templates make this experience less overwhelming. Dr. Jill Constantino's book embraces the realities like finances and honors parents and their process.

It relates to the experiences of both the student and parent alike. We need more of these books on our shelves-- like a delicious cup of hot chocolate, comforting during what can be such a stressful period!

03/09/2026

"I have thinner skin than I’d like to acknowledge."

Ever had a stranger yell at you and felt it rattle your entire system? 🫨 I was recently at the airport, just trying to rearrange my luggage, when someone snapped at me.

In that moment, it wasn't just "Adult Margaret" standing there. It was "Little Margaret" feeling scared and needing comfort, and "Teenage Margaret" who wanted to yell back a list of things to that person. (Borrowing from Internal Family Systems).

Processing mean-spirited interactions isn't about "brushing it off" instantly. It’s about:
acknowledging the hurt instead of forcing yourself to move on sometimes.

Self-regulation (I use a hand on my heart and deep breathing).

Integrating the parts—checking in with what your younger selves need in that moment of conflict.

We can’t control mean people, but we can control how we show up for ourselves afterward.

Drop a 💜 if you've felt sensitive from time-to-time.

03/05/2026

Recently, a generous friend took me on a series of museum trips. It was a wonderful experience, but one small comment from him stayed with me. He mentioned that a friend joining us later was highly extroverted.

For me, as an introvert who can "turn it on" and appear extroverted when the situation calls for it, that heads-up was a gift.
It allowed me to:

✨ Prepare mentally for the social energy required.
✨ Set realistic expectations for my own capacity.
✨ Give myself permission to take breaks when I felt "cranky" or drained.

In leadership, we are often expected to be "on" indefinitely. We mask our fatigue, over-function to meet the needs of others, and ignore the subtle physiological cues telling us we’ve hit our limit.

Sustainable leadership requires the courage to say: "I need a break."

This is exactly why Victoria Montgomery and I are partnering for our upcoming webinar. We aren't just talking about shared visions and role clarity; we’re talking about the energy required to lead.

In our webinar, we will dive into:

The Critical Leap: Understanding the emotional load required to lead and when the energy expenditure is worth the outcome.

The Wise Mind Exercise: Integrating your emotional responses with rational facts to make better, more grounded decisions.
The Burnout Iceberg: Identifying the "below the surface" signs in yourself and your team before they lead to disengagement.

Negotiating Boundaries: How to communicate your capacity and protect your "non-negotiables" without sacrificing your success.

When we give ourselves consideration and grace, we create the space to offer the same to our teams.
Join us to reclaim your energy and lead with a regulated nervous system.
🗓 Monday, March 9, 2026
⏰ 12 PM CST
💰 Investment: $20 (Link in comments to join!)
Stop shrinking. Start contributing.
I’ll see you there.

03/04/2026

I recently spent some time in NYC. It was incredible, but in the quiet moments between the fun, I found myself struggling to stay grounded.

As someone who isn’t exactly a "city person" and identifies as a highly sensitive person (HSP), the constant stimulation takes a real toll. I had to make a conscious, extra effort to stay in tune with my body and decompress.

Whether you are navigating the concrete jungle of Manhattan or the shifting landscape of a new professional role, transitions are taxing. It’s totally normal to feel untethered when your environment shifts.

The secret? You have to work extra hard to imitate elements from your regular space and translate them to the new one.

Don't abandon your anchors:

Movement: Find a way to inhabit your body, even if it’s just a 10-minute stretch.

Spiritual piece: Take some moments to breathe. Practice your breathing exercises in a way that makes sense for you.

Creative Outlet: Keep a channel open for expression so the stimulation has somewhere to go.

Why does this matter for your career?

Because when we lose our internal footing, we start to shrink. We wait for "perfect confidence" before we speak. We hide behind a mask of invincibility because we don't feel steady enough to be seen in our messiness.

Leadership isn’t about being invincible.
We’re often taught that to lead, we must have every answer perfectly polished. But true leadership maturity is actually found in the courage to be seen—even when the conversation feels risky, overstimulating, or uncomfortable.

If you’ve been waiting for "perfection" before speaking up, you're missing out on your own impact.

On March 9th, Victoria Montgomery and I are breaking down the "invincibility" myth and replacing it with practical grounding.

✨ Webinar Focus:
Moving from "I need to control this" to "I am here to empower this."

🗓️ The Details: March 9 @ 10am PT / 12pm CT
💰 Investment: $20 (Link in comments to join!)
Stop shrinking. Start contributing.
I’ll see you there. ☁️

03/03/2026

Stop Silencing Your Own Insights 🌪️
"It’s not my place."
"They won’t listen anyway."
"Better to just save my energy."

We’ve been sold a lie that leadership means being "invincible." In reality, true leadership is the messy, uncomfortable courage to be seen and heard when it matters most.

On March 9th, we’re hosting a workshop to help you dismantle that inner critic and reclaim your voice. We’re going deep into:

✨ The Critical Leap: Knowing exactly when to speak up and how to do it effectively.

✨ Permission to Lead: Unlearning the "inherited" scripts that tell you to play it safe.

✨ Grounding Your Response: How to stay calm and rational when you face pushback (without losing your cool).

✨ Identity Anchors: Shifting your mindset from "control" to "empowerment."
You don’t have to choose between being a "nice person" and being an "effective leader." You can—and should—be both.

🗓️ Date: March 9 @ 10am PT / 12pm CT
📍 Location: Hosted on Zoom (Link in bio!)
💰 Investment: $20 per person | $150 for a whole group of 10

Stop shrinking. Start contributing. See you there. ☁️

Art by Martha Jungwirth

03/02/2026

"It’s not my place."
"They won’t listen anyway."
"I should just save my energy."

Ever felt that internal friction?

The moment where you have a critical insight but you shrink back because taking up space feels... risky? 🌪️

We’re taught that leadership is about being "invincible," but true leadership is actually about the courage to be seen and heard—especially when it feels uncomfortable.

On March 9th, Victoria Montgomery, M.S. and I are hosting a workshop to help you move past the "inner critic" and reclaim your voice.

We’re diving into:

✨ The Critical Leap: How to identify when speaking up is worth the energy, and how to actually do it.

✨ Permission to Lead: Re-writing the "inherited" scripts of success that tell us to stay quiet or play it safe.

✨ Grounding Your Response: Practical ways to stay calm and rational when you face pushback or resistance (without losing your cool or your confidence).

✨ Identity Anchors: Shifting from "I need to control this" to "I am here to empower this."
You don’t have to choose between being "nice" and being "effective." You can be both.

🗓️ March 9 @ 10am PT / 12pm CT
💰 $20 per person | $150 for a group of 10
📽Virtual and replay available!!

Link in bio!

Stop shrinking. Start contributing.
See you there. ☁️

02/26/2026

Your therapist sees YOU, not just your diagnosis.
🚩 vs ✅

A diagnosis is a tool for understanding, not a cage for the soul. 🧠✨

Too often, societal messages tell us that seeking help means that we are "crazy" or "violent."

This stigma leads to pathologizing—the moment we start seeing a person only through the lens of their disorder rather than as a whole human being.

As therapists, we have to look closer at how a client "shows up" in session. Is our clinical perspective clouding our ability to see the person in front of us?

Self-awareness is the most important tool in our kit. We have to ask ourselves:
Am I defining this person by their symptoms?
How does my own comfort (or lack thereof) affect the way I hold space for them?

This commitment to seeing the "whole person" isn't just a clinical tool; it is the foundation for a type of leadership that prioritizes human connection over a facade of invincibility.

We’re taught that leadership is about being "invincible," but true leadership is actually about the courage to be seen and heard—especially when it feels uncomfortable.

On March 9th, Victoria Montgomery, M.S. and I will be hosting a workshop to help you move past the "inner critic" and reclaim your voice.

We’re diving into:

✨ The Critical Leap: How to identify when speaking up is worth the energy, and how to actually do it.

✨ Permission to Lead: Re-writing the "inherited" scripts of success that tell us to stay quiet or play it safe.

✨ Grounding Your Response: Practical ways to stay calm and rational when you face pushback or resistance.

✨ Identity Anchors: Shifting from "I need to control this" to "I am here to empower this."
You don’t have to choose between being "nice" and being "effective." You can be both.

The Logistics:

🗓️ March 9 @ 10am PT / 12pm CT
📍 Hosted on Zoom (Link in bio!)
💰 $20 per person | $150 for a group of 10
Stop shrinking. Start contributing. See you there. ☁️

02/25/2026

What can Alysa Liu teach us about performance — and leadership?⛸️

1️⃣ Even as an Olympic gold champion, she reminds us: it’s about mental peace.
She reframed what success meant for her — and that shift allowed her to let go and actually enjoy her performance.🏅

2️⃣ Technical mastery ≠ showing up when it counts.
You can have the skills. But can you regulate your nervous system in the moment?💨

3️⃣ When we focus on what makes us feel most alive, we loosen our grip on the outcome.
That’s true in sports.
And it’s true in leadership.

In leadership, we’re often focused on meeting everyone else’s needs — our teams, clients, organizations.

But what happens when our needs go unmet?
When support is missing…
When burnout is overlooked…
When your perspective feels dismissed…
The answer isn’t to push through.

It’s to pause and ask:

What do I need right now to lead effectively?
Sometimes it’s a boundary.
Sometimes it’s a recalibration.
Sometimes it’s naming that the current dynamic is unsustainable.
Mental peace isn’t passive.
It’s a performance strategy.

That’s exactly what we’re diving into in our upcoming workshop:

02/19/2026

Sometimes the people around us don’t have the tools to respond to stress or emotional cues. And we’re left feeling unseen, unheard, or even victimized by the dynamic.

When that happens, the answer isn’t always to push through.

The first step is an internal shift:
✨ Let yourself feel what you’re feeling — fully.
✨ Ask: How can I respond differently next time?
✨ Take responsibility… and then move forward without beating yourself up.
✨ Notice if this reaction connects to an older wound — something familiar from earlier in life.

Leadership starts with how you manage your internal response.

That’s exactly what we’ll explore in our upcoming workshop: Difficult Conversations
Without the Stress Spiral

Jaymee Lewis-Flenaugh, Ph.D. and I are bridging psychological awareness with communication strategy — so you can move from feeling flooded or unseen to leading with clarity and authority.

💡 Key Takeaways:
• Identifying physiological communication triggers
• Supportive leadership language
• Firm boundaries + accountability
• Strategies for repairing professional trust
🗓 Monday, Feb 23, 2026
⏰ 3–3:45pm EST
➡️ Registration link in bio
If this resonates with where you are right now, DM me. You don’t have to navigate this alone. 🤍

02/17/2026

Happy Lunar New Year!!
Today I wanted to share about my response to "You're not even that Asian"...

My experience now: it doesn't matter what others think (as much). I am the only one who can determine what "enough" looks like.

I became more interested in learning about my heritage because 1) before I hated how it made me different, and therefore had to shut off that part of me or did not want to be associated with it and 2) now there's been some time and space where I've been able to look at my internalized racism and how I make sense of my Asianness.

I'm continuing to accept myself again and again.

Now it doesn't have to be determined by others.

We're all in different places in our journeys.

Grateful for my younger self that protected me. And for friends and family who have supported me along the way.

All's to say -- Happy Lunar New Year, whatever that looks like for you!! Wishing you all good luck, prosperity, and long life!! 🧧✨️💜

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