Infertility counseling center

05/05/2025

nfertility is hard. Your words can either lift someone up or unintentionally add to their pain. Here’s a guide on what to say—and what not to say—to someone facing infertility.
What to Say:
“I’m here for you.”
Let them know you’re available to support them, whether they need to talk or simply have company.
“I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m praying for you.”
Acknowledge that you may not fully understand, but you’re there for them in spirit.
“Would you like to talk about it, or would you prefer space?”
Respect their emotional needs. Some may want to share, others may need time to process.
“How can I support you during this time?”
Offering support allows them to express what they truly need, whether it's a distraction or help with day-to-day tasks.
“You are so strong for going through this.”
Acknowledge their strength in facing this difficult journey. Infertility is tough, and validating their resilience can mean a lot.
What Not to Say:
“Just relax, it’ll happen when you least expect it.”
This can feel dismissive. Infertility is not about relaxing; it’s a difficult and complex medical disease (Source: WHO) issue that can’t be solved so simply.
“Have you tried [insert method]?”
Offering unsolicited advice can make them feel pressured or misunderstood. Wait until they ask for suggestions.
“It’s God’s will, just trust His timing.”
This can minimize the emotional weight they carry and may feel invalidating during a time of deep grief.
“There are other ways to have children, like adoption.”
Adoption is wonderful, but adoption is not a means to end infertility. Trust that they will hear God call them to adoption if that is God's will for them.
“At least you’re not dealing with [insert other hardship].”
Comparing struggles can be hurtful. Validate their pain without diminishing it by comparison.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” – Romans 12:15

04/29/2025

Infertility is a constant healing from things you can’t talk about. ❤️‍🩹
• It’s hiding how you feel when people ask, “When are you having kids?”
• It’s going to baby showers and birthday parties, while wishing for your own child.
• It’s the disappointment every month when the test is negative.
• It’s the stress on your relationship from worrying and overspending.
• It’s going through a loss and being afraid to speak about it.
• It’s affecting your friendships, vacations, and personal life because it’s hard to have fun when you're thinking about what’s missing.
Infertility takes so much from you. ❤️‍🩹

04/25/2025

04/24/2025

I’m not the person I once was.
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Not the same woman, wife or friend.
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I’m the mother immersed in early motherhood.
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I struggle to make it anywhere on time. I’m always covered in children
or some sort of stain. And I regularly have to leave early.
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I don’t have as much time to give my husband. I forget to tell him how
much I love and appreciate him. Yet I rely on him so much more.
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I haven’t seen some of my friends in months. I regularly forget to
check in with them or message them back. I can’t remember the last
time I caught up with them without children in the middle.
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And this adjustment hasn’t always been easy.
Some days I miss parts of the woman, the wife, and the friend I used be.
The reliable one.
The consistent one.
The relaxed and carefree one.
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But the changes have been worth it.
Because I have gained so much.
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I have experienced growing, birthing and feeding babies. I’ve seen a
mental and physical strength in myself that I didn’t know I had.
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I have felt the privilege of being an entire world to another human.
To have the honour of helping them on their path to create their own.
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I understand what it is to be loved in a way only a mother knows. To
be wanted and needed so deeply. So purely and without condition.
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Since becoming a mother my priorities have changed.
My values have changed.
I have changed.
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But it’s the best sort of change.
Every single change is, no matter the difficulties that come with some of them.
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These changes have been the making of me.
A new me.
The mother born into me.
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And I will keep changing.
I will keep evolving alongside my children, as we move through the
seasons together.
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Because that’s what it takes to be a mother.
That’s what comes with a love like this.
It’s growth.
It’s adapting.
And above all, it’s moving in the direction of your heart.

04/11/2025

03/19/2025

The wonderful thing about mom is that you appeared in her life.