Sliver of Wisdom

Sliver of Wisdom Do you need support? I'm listening. We are listening. Y hablamos español. My name is Alesia. I am the founder of Sliver of Wisdom. Mi nombre es Alesia.

Very happily married after overcoming many traumatic experiences, I want to share the knowledge and wisdom I use to navigate parenthood, family, work, friendship, and love. Contact me for a confidence boost, advice, someone trustworthy, help making a decision, navigating a situation, support coping, help recognizing your responsibility or recognizing your accountability in a situation or just an a

ttentive and caring ear. I am happy to help and here when you need support and confidentiality. Soy el fundador de Sliver of Wisdom. Póngase en contacto conmigo para un aumento de confianza, consejo, alguien digno de confianza, ayuda para tomar una decisión, navegar una situación, apoyar el enfrentamiento, ayudar a reconocer su responsabilidad en una situación o simplemente un oído atento y cariñoso. Estoy feliz de ayudar y estoy aquí cuando necesite apoyo y confidencialidad.

04/10/2026

How does someone like me who's been through so much cope? How did I not shut myself in dark room and pitty party myself into an oblivious bad parenting habit after everything that has happened to me? How did I manage to keep not just myself sane, but also my daughter, and get complimented about my parenting skills? I'll tell you... Aside of the fact that I've always been the "underdog" - under appreciated, under estimated, under siege by almost everyone who has crossed paths with me, I have managed to keep other peoples judgements, criticisms, and opinions completely separate of my own. I've literally chatted myself out negative thinking and was able to convince myself that other peoples issues were not about me. I might have literally stepped out of my body, looked at myself, and gave myself the one-finger scolding.

How I got here is not by any means an easy task.

I walked around with very little confidence most of life, and then to top that off, bad family relationships, bad friendships, and some very awful work environments. Life was never a walk in the park for me. If I'd have had my dreams come true when I was, say 23 yrs old, first out of the family home and on my own, I would have been married out of high school, already working on children (to get that out of the way), but that wasn't the case.

Instead I walked through hot coals. I could have given up. Surely that's what everyone around me expected, but I didn't...

Yes, I was carrying the world upon my shoulders, and I'm sure that if someone else felt as much stress and distress as I did, they'd feel like they had the world on their shoulders too...

The weight of everyones world is different.

To be continued...

03/23/2026

I am my child's first line of defense. I am her protector and her first whisper of wisdom. I am her guide, her teacher, her gatekeeper, and will teach her to be better than I ever could. I always communicate with my daughter (silently, quietly, and sometimes loudly), walk her through the steps when she doesn't understand what I am saying, and take the time to help her understand the who, the what, and the why of things. I have been doing this since the moment she first understood something I'd said.

I was a single mom and hope that teaching my daughter in a way that she could understand would help her to navigate the world around her and would help me raise a knowledgeable, aware, conscious child. I need my daughter to be able to navigate the world around her if something should ever happen to me. I want her to know the this's-and-that's without having to rely on the world around her to teach her. No one knows a persons intentions.

Can you put into words the role you play in your child's life? How much do you value that role? Let's talk about.

02/28/2026

I'm not a religious person but I wholeheartedly believe in God and my Ancestors, and I will tell you until I'm blue in the face that he/they have always been by my side. I have never once felt alone or abandoned by them at any moment in my life. It doesn't matter that I can't see them or touch them. Their existence is real to me; having known them or knowing of them; feeling them; communicating with them, and witnessing the spiritual protection they provide me has been enough proof for me. All of my faith is in them .

Before this beautiful era of my life, I clawed my way through a very long path of bad experiences.
- Rejection by my biological father.
- Trauma from:
• a hyper-strict momma
• alcoholic partners
• conpeople.
• selfish people
• unfaithful people
• stalkers
• cheaters
• people who take advantage
• indecisive people
• jealous/envious people
• several forms of abusive people
• liars
• violent people
• people addicted to drugs
• people who betray and gossip
• Bullies and spiritual attackers

It has not been an easy life experience.

I think that because I have been through so much in my life, I've had a tendency to really try to preserve any small great experiences by over committing ,over extending, giving more, accepting less, silently forgiving... But, here I am. Still in good spirits, still loving, still hopeful.

I could not ask for anything more than what God/Ancestors have given me thus far, and yet the blessings keep coming.

What has your personal life experience been like? Are you someone that has progressively moved forward without any obstacles put in your way or are you someone who's constantly had obstacles put in your way that seemed to come out of nowhere? Tell me about it.

02/27/2026

Sometimes, people are so full of ideas that they just can't help it. Ideas that have been in the making for however long that just need to make their way out. Sometimes these ideas are an effort to nudge an expansion of the mind, sometimes they are to help execute a process smoother, sometimes they are to encourage change. Almost everyone has ideas. I would be surprised if someone didn't have at least 5 or 10 that roll around in the depths of their mind (if not more). Ideas are not always about overstepping, controlling, or stealing. Sometimes ideas are just put out to make something better or smoother, or different than the usual. Not everyone is trying to control, be in competition with, or steal from everyone else. Sometimes people are just trying to make a change that will cause an impact or forward movement out of the hum-drum. I'm always full of ideas. Brewing ideas is 2nd nature to me. I don't want to suffer or get stuck in the same idea my ENTIRE life if it's not bringing me joy. I enjoy hearing people's ideas and I love to share my ideas. I love to brew ideas that will make my life smoother, make my job smoother, and even make someone else's situation smoother.

Do you have any ideas that you want to share? Are you ABLE to share them? How does it make you feel when you are able to freely share your ideas without any judgement, suspicion, or accusation? Tell me about it.

As Artificial Intelligence becomes more and more sophisticated in time, human connection will eventually dissolve and ar...
02/24/2026

As Artificial Intelligence becomes more and more sophisticated in time, human connection will eventually dissolve and artificial connection will become the norm. Human connection offers so much; real life emotion, compassion and empathy. It is so vital to connect with people on a human level that will give you a sense of relationship, a sense of community, a sense of real life acknowledgement and celebration. When Artificial Intelligence takes over, we will potentially be creating connections with technology which runs on electricity (that can go out/run out/short). People will potentially become best friends with a machine that will never be able to put itself in your shoes, house different perspectives offered by human connection or relate back with warmth and love. It will become a cold, cold, world out there with only plastic and metal parts to keep you (and not even warm).

What are your thoughts about this upcoming change. How do you think it will affect YOU? Let's talk about it.

02/19/2026

The thing about me is, I have been in the workforce since I was 14 years old. This happened after my mom said, "if you want long hair and want special products for it, then you need to get a job and buy them yourself", so I did both. She took care of the basics and anything I earned was pretty much mine (not without suggestions of course - a mom will always be a mom).

My very first job experiences were in Retail Customer Service. I started there because I was following in someones footsteps; it made total sense to me to at the time to start there. I could still focus on home life, and it was easy.

When I was ready to leave the "Retail Customer Service" scene, my next job was at a tech company. I signed on to be a wire-wrapper (doing exactly as it sounds). It was exactly what I thought it might be - easy; maybe too easy. After this job, I was ready to completely transition into an actual, long-term career.

I then followed what may have been the most important direction I ever received in the same footsteps as before that would change the trajectory of my life forever. I "got an office job" (it's always so funny to say that but I keep the direction going by offering it to all of my Retail Customer Service friends all of the time).

My first "office job" was mostly a great experience with a sprinkle of not so great (majority won); however, my eventual manager at this job (where I was an Inside Sales Representative under her) was an awe inspiring, highly communicative, patient, SUPER experienced, genuinely professional woman who was full of ideas; driven and goal-oriented . I still think of her admirably to this day and always take a moment to appreciate what an influence she had on me and the rest of my career.

From leaving that first "office job" moving forward, I committed to learning "all the things" I could - everywhere, anywhere, and anytime that would make me a better "office job" person - in better words, Administrative Professional. Not a toxic Administrative Professional (not competitive or low moral) - a curious, creative, adaptable, solution-oriented team player who's always willing to learn and grow; full of ideas and new perspectives. Always a consistent presence who could receive, guide, and accomplish. I'm not a competitive person or employee or human. Anything that I progress to, I like to know that I have earned it; earned it by my hard work, experience, ideas, etc. Anything that is not for me is not for me.

I say all this to introduce some of my character traits. Whether I was born with them or accumulated them in my career or just picked them up by admiring someone successful in their strides. They are part of me and I think I may be too old to shake them.

What are some of your strong character traits? Where/when did you develop them? How do they affect your life during this time? Are you still working on them/some? Let's talk about it.

02/19/2026

Most of my life, I really don't depend on anyone outside of myself for my happiness. It was a hard lesson to learn of which I started learning long ago on my journey of existing, constantly being judged, and being betrayed by my closest relationships within many of my social circles.

That is never to say that I have not 'welcomed' some kind of support from family, friendships, or love along the way. That is to say that I don't depend on receiving any (from anywhere) and I most definitely do not chase it.

In all actuality, I'm pretty self-sufficient. I pray a lot (because I believe in God/Source) and also tend to go inside of myself to find support; I have faith in myself. I'm a strong person all by myself; I have a lot to offer myself. I draw on all my inner strengths; sum up a plan to make it through and proceed to actively exercise it sometimes troubleshooting within myself (sometimes quietly - sometimes out loud). I ask myself, what is best way to handle this"? I am not alone - I have God, and I'm not afraid of not having anyone to lean on.

Currently though, I am lucky enough to have an amazing husband who loves and supports me to no end, and three wonderful girls who by just existing motivate me to be sharpen my strengths; gain more wisdom; and really just appreciate my existence and the wisdom I already have to offer.

What or who do you depend on for support? How does that make you feel? Let's talk about it.

01/21/2026

All of my daughter's life I have been fighting off gaslighting from the other half of her family with regards to wills and testaments, last wishes, inheritances, money, things... I have honestly fought this subject until I was blue in the face arguing the declination. You see, my daughter is not for sale. Not her person and most definitely not her soul. My life's goal is to provide my daughter the security that she will need to feel safe and unattached to enablers, people with bad vices, entitlement issues, narcissistic tendencies, selfish or negative energy. I want my daughter to be humble and grounded; her feet placed straight in front of her. I have long stated that my daughter does not need for "things". Things come a dime a dozen. Things are ok to have but are replaceable. My daughter needs love, connection, community, growth, self confidence, security, consistency, vision, creativity, encouragement... Things that will solidify her foundation. Someday, I will be able to give her that place that will be her home; her security; her sanctuary. The place where she can rest her head whenever her heart desires and do it with peace of mind and heart without having played pawn to receive it; without having been deceived or played games with to have it. One way or another, I will make that happen. Are you a parent? Have you ever practiced protecting your child(ren)'s future from being a pawn in people's ridiculous games; protected their future from a weak foundation? Let's talk about it.

12/30/2025

Recently, my little family was invited to a Christmas event for the community put together by a nonprofit organization. The purpose of the event was to spread the holiday spirit and hand out gifts to children who otherwise may not get many for Christmas.

At first thought, it was a lovely invitation grown from partnership, a sweet event to look forward to, but as I stood in line for the program I had this flush of memories. As I stood there with my daughter (with no material needs whatsoever), I paused and was taken aback to the times when my mom was a 'receiver' of these community services. It was no longer just an invitation but a reminder of my childhood of hard times that my mom was able to get through with community help. I found myself feeling this flush of emotions. My heart suddenly felt heavy and my eyes teared up from the memories. There I was standing with my daughter, enjoying this community event completely in tact in life; there because I wanted to be there not because I needed to. It made me feel vulnerable. Before me, my momma stood in those lines to fulfill our Christmas wishes, sometimes to have food on the table, and sometimes to help someone else have food on their table.

I'm not sure if the moment was happy or sad considering that my momma did all that without batting an eye. She did it with a backbone and with intent to keep her family happy and healthy.

Have you ever had a moment like this? A moment when emotion came flooding back to you and put you in state of vulnerability; maybe of gratitude; maybe of sadness? Let's talk about it.

11/27/2025

Before I was married, I think I had always unconsciously been searching through the essence of couples for that one couple who's marriage "impressed" me. That one marriage that I could look up to; that real, old love, real respect, true partnership, genuine affection, that you rarely ever saw.

Thank goodness I didn't have to search far or long. My Grandma and my Grandpa were it.

Each of them had their own specialty; first and foremost, love, support, and strength; additionally my Grandma the caretaker; the old wives tales, and my Grandpa so full of life's wisdom. My Grandpa; there are very few men that I have truly respected in this life of mine and he was the 1st. You see, I spent SO much time at my grandparent's home that I really can just call them parents too. They were so - just everything beautiful, and then some. That's not to include that they were also my moms foundation; her spirit, her strength, her shield, her life. We knew how special they were. We all knew as soon as they were gone. My daughter and I visit them every time we step out to see my mom and even so many times before then as if they lived just up the road.

Now, I am married, and God knows how much I love my Esposito. I'm so grateful to have had their beautiful marriage to look up to. Thank God I was smart enough to connect their representation of love and partnership to what I wanted to have my life. Thank God for my patience (while almost giving up) calling that into my reality. Maybe my grandparents helped my husband come along to me.... It wouldn't surprise me.

Do you find yourself connecting to representations of what you would like to see in your life; now or in the future or dream of these beautiful things with the hope that they will come to you too? Are you or have you been patient until they have manifested into your life? Tell me about it. I'm listening.

11/18/2025

When I was growing up, people thought I would be pregnant young, without a partner, and living off the government. It's quite possible that's what was thought of me because I was a sensitive kid. I was all feeling, all emotion, all about soul and spirit. People thought that my that would be my downfall and my curse.

I wanted to change that perspective, but not for anyone else but for myself, because for a moment I started to wonder if it would indeed become my truth. Little to no tenderness surrounded me; so much tough love, some abandonment, a lot judgement, curses, bullying, and criticization can really wear on a person and create a rebellious response .

IMPOSSIBLE!

The thing is, I have really big faith in God and myself. I mean B. I. G. faith, so I started channeling my faith and advocating for myself, to myself. I had a good argument for why I needed to. I was more than that and no one saw that but me. I fought really hard to shift my thoughts away from what other people thought. I was super hard on myself and I would absolutely NOT let that come to fruition. That's not how I imagined my life to be.

I started to look around me to see what I could lean on. How do I start learning more? Who could I learn from? How can I get my foot in doors and start to make myself proud? Forget anyone else's approval! I needed to make myself proud; prove to MYSELF that I could do it; this; that; and anything else.

I started a good thing looking around leaning on learning rather then feeling sorry for myself or wallowing in my sorrows. My mantra became, "Get it together. Tomorrow, is a brand new day to make things happen!"

And now, here I am.

My mantra has helped me so many times. I would keep saying it to myself everyday to embed it inside of me and ever since - it has become me. It comes from my faith in myself; from a good place in my mental space, and it comes from my biggest supporter, me!

Have you ever fought your way out of a box that people built around you? What was that box? How did it make you feel? I'm listening.

11/18/2025

I'm not here for applause. It's never about applause for me. It's about learning, experiencing, participating, and exuding the good of what I learned of that into the world. I'm not here to burden, or curse, or pressure anyone for anything. I am a loving person and a hard worker and everything around me is a learning experience for me no matter who, what, where, why, how large or how small. Investing myself into learning from someone or something or someplace fills one of my cups.

I enjoy taking my learning experiences and adding them into my personal life skill set and then pulling them back out when I can use them. There is always room to learn and there's always room to teach. I'm excited when I can offer a learning experience, a different perspective, advice, or a thought.

What is learning about for you? Let's share our thoughts.

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