Leslie Kays MFT

11/20/2025

Communication is not about speaking what we think. Communication is about ensuring others hear what we mean. - Simon Sinek

11/19/2025

Modern life is not the same as it was for our ancestors though. The “threats” we feel now are much more likely to be interpersonal, rather than physical like an attack from a wild animal. To the modern mind, someone “getting” something we want, may not directly threaten our physical “life”, but it feels that way internally…. as though there are only so many resources and if someone gets them…we won’t. “I will lose this competitive game of survival”. That’s how it feels. Read more..…https://www.anxietytopeace.com/2024/05/dancing-with-your-shadow/

11/18/2025

5 Easy Ways To Communicate Better in Your Relationship

I’m sure you’ve heard this saying before: communication is the key to any relationship. It sounds cliché but it’s true. I think it’s really easy to tell people that communication is important in a healthy relationship but it’s not as easy to explain how to communicate. And if we’re neve...

11/17/2025

Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn't listening. - Emma Thompson

11/15/2025

There are many definitions of “Joy”, or what it means to lead a “Joyful life”. It depends on whether you ask a poet, a philosopher, or just an ordinary man on the street. This is because joy is a feeling that goes beyond words in a very real sense. We know it when we feel it in our body but often can’t adequately capture that feeling with mere words. Read more... https://www.anxietytopeace.com/2024/03/put-a-little-joy-in-your-life/

11/14/2025

A Complicated Grief

Sadness over a loss is normal, and everyone grieves differently. But some people experience an especially intense kind of mourning.

11/13/2025

The best way to solve problems and to fight against war is through dialogue. - Malala Yousafzai

11/12/2025

Unfortunately many of us do not extend empathy to ourselves in the same way we extend it to others. All too often we castigate ourselves mercilessly for our shortcomings and mistakes. Self-compassion is in short supply as we wonder what is “wrong” with us. How could we have done or said that thing? What must people think? Read more..…https://www.anxietytopeace.com/2024/02/there-is-nothing-wrong-with-you-the-value-of-cultivating-self-empathy/

11/11/2025

Selfishness vs self love – What’s the difference?

Ever been called selfish for choosing yourself? In this blog post we're going to be talking about the difference between selfishness vs self love.

11/10/2025

Good words are worth much, and cost little. - George Herbert

11/08/2025

Interestingly, our “memory making “mechanism is always trying to “fill in the blanks” and create a coherent story. It “tags” memories that have emotional resonance, and when associations to these memories occur in present time, new details emerge. With time, maturity, and the desire…these details can be digested and integrated into a meaningful story. Read more... https://www.anxietytopeace.com/2024/01/why-am-i-so-triggered-right-now-i-thought-i-dealt-with-this-already/

11/07/2025

Grief and mourning gone awry: pathway and course of complicated grief

Complicated grief is a recently recognized condition that occurs in about 7% of bereaved people. People with this condition are caught up in rumination about the circumstances of the death, worry about its consequences, or excessive avoidance of reminders ...