SCS Therapist

07/28/2024

You can’t teach children to behave better by making them feel WORSE. When children feel better they behave better.

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07/28/2024

10 lessons from "People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys" by Mike Bechtle:

1. Take Responsibility for Your Reactions: Understand that you have control over your emotional responses. Even if someone is trying to provoke you, you decide how to react. Taking responsibility for your reactions can help you remain calm and composed in difficult situations.

2. Set Boundaries: Establish clear and healthy boundaries with others. Let people know what behavior is acceptable and what isn’t. Boundaries protect your emotional well-being and prevent others from taking advantage of you.

3. Don't Personalize Others' Behavior: Realize that other people's actions are often a reflection of their own issues and not a personal attack on you. Detaching yourself emotionally from their behavior can help you maintain your peace of mind.

4. Communicate Clearly and Assertively: Practice assertive communication to express your needs and feelings without being aggressive or passive. Clear communication helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures that your voice is heard.

5. Manage Your Expectations: Adjust your expectations of others. Understand that people have their own limitations and may not always meet your standards. Accepting this can reduce frustration and disappointment.

6. Develop Emotional Resilience: Build your emotional resilience by practicing self-care, mindfulness, and stress management techniques. A resilient mindset helps you navigate difficult interactions without being overwhelmed.

7. Practice Empathy: Try to see things from the other person’s perspective. Empathy can help you understand their motivations and reduce conflict. It also fosters compassion and improves relationships.

8. Detach with Love: Sometimes the best way to deal with difficult people is to emotionally detach while still caring for them. This means you don’t let their behavior affect your inner peace, but you still show them kindness and respect.

9. Focus on Solutions, Not Problems: Instead of dwelling on the behavior of difficult people, focus on finding solutions to improve the situation. Problem-solving shifts your mindset from being a victim to being proactive.

10. Seek Support When Needed: Don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a professional counselor when dealing with particularly challenging individuals. Having a support system can provide perspective, advice, and encouragement.

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10 Lessons from How to Stop Worrying and Start Living: Time-Tested Methods for Conquering Worry

1. Focus on living one day at a time. Don’t let the worries of the past or future consume your present. Concentrate on what you can do today.

2. When faced with worry, consider the worst-case scenario and accept it mentally. Once you’ve accepted it, you can work on improving the situation from there.

3. Engage yourself in meaningful activities to keep your mind off worries. Staying busy helps prevent idle thoughts that lead to unnecessary worrying.

4. Understand that criticism is often a reflection of the critic’s issues. Learn from constructive criticism, but don’t let negative feedback dictate your self-worth.

5. Practice gratitude by regularly reflecting on the positive aspects of your life. Focusing on what you have, rather than what you lack, can diminish worry and increase contentment.

6. Realize that most of what we worry about never happens. Use the law of averages to remind yourself that the likelihood of your worries coming true is often very low.

7. Accept things you cannot change. Fighting against the inevitable only causes unnecessary stress and worry.

8. Break down your worries by analyzing the situation. Write down the problem, gather facts, consider options, and make a decision. Taking a structured approach can reduce anxiety.

9. Maintain a healthy lifestyle through proper diet, exercise, and sleep. Physical well-being significantly impacts mental health and resilience against worry.

10. Engage in acts of kindness and generosity. Helping others can shift your focus away from your worries and bring a sense of fulfillment and happiness.

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Very true...

07/28/2024

Final days of Summer! We always have a full week of opportunity for friendship, food, and fun! See you soon!