The Queer, Nerdy Therapist

04/19/2024

How many times have you heard the words "good" and "bad" describing coping skills? I know I've heard about "good" coping skills and "bad" coping skills more times than I can count. We have a tendency to classify things as "good" or "bad" with little wiggle room. Things are either good or they're bad. If you were to think of "good" coping skills, what would you think of?...

How many times have you heard the words “good” and “bad” describing coping skills? I know I’ve heard about “good” coping skills and “bad” copin…

01/24/2023

Therapy. We all know that word, right? Well, most of us probably have at the very least heard of therapy. There’s even multiple types of therapy: Speech therapy, physical therapy, massage therapy, occupational therapy, and mental health therapy. At it’s core, therapy can be defined as “treatment intended to relieve or heal a disorder.” These days, though, the word therapy has become pretty commonly known to mean mental health counseling....

Therapy. We all know that word, right? Well, most of us probably have at the very least heard of therapy. There’s even multiple types of therapy: Speech therapy, physical therapy, massage therapy, …

11/22/2022

Avengers: Infinity War is without doubt the most heartbreaking movie in the MCU. Spoiler alert: the Avengers lose. Thanos gets all the infinity stones and snaps 50% of life in the galaxy out of existence. Fast forward 5 years to Endgame. Our band of heroes has been beating themselves up mentally over their ‘biggest failure.’ Naturally, being the heroes they are, they find a way to undo the Snap and defeat Thanos, thus saving the day!...

Avengers: Infinity War is without doubt the most heartbreaking movie in the MCU. Spoiler alert: the Avengers lose. Thanos gets all the infinity stones and snaps 50% of life in the galaxy out of exi…

11/14/2022

I remember when Frozen first hit theaters everyone was talking about how amazing it was that Disney finally made a movie that focused on and celebrated the relationship between two sisters. Don't get me wrong, Frozen does a great job of highlighting Elsa and Anna's bond and the love they have for each other. Here's the thing though: Frozen isn't the first, nor is it the only Disney movie to feature sisters....

I remember when Frozen first hit theaters everyone was talking about how amazing it was that Disney finally made a movie that focused on and celebrated the relationship between two sisters. Don& #82…

10/17/2022

The media has been portraying mental health for a very long time. My last post gave examples of how we as a society talk about mental health badly, so I want to highlight the ways movies, books, and tv shows get mental health right. I have to give credit where credit is due, because there are plenty of works with absolutely wonderful portrayals of mental health....

The media has been portraying mental health for a very long time. My last post gave examples of how we as a society talk about mental health badly, so I want to highlight the ways movies, books, an…

10/10/2022

It's not exactly a secret that as a society we don't talk about mental health well. Between the stigma directed at mental health and misunderstandings about what mental health disorders even are, there's a lot of problems with the way mental health issues are handled. Honestly, I could write a whole novel about this topic, but that's far too much information for a blog post, so I'm going to focus on one particular issue that I don't think gets addressed enough: the ways mental health is made into a joke....

It’s not exactly a secret that as a society we don’t talk about mental health well. Between the stigma directed at mental health and misunderstandings about what mental health disorders…

10/06/2022

Representation of LGBTQ+ characters within fiction has steadily been growing, which is amazing to see. It's even better to recognize that many of the works featuring LGBTQ+ characters are portraying them in fantastic ways. I want to take some time to highlight a few authors who have LGBTQ+ characters that are dynamic, well-written characters. I'm going to start with one of my favorite YA authors: Cassandra Clare....

Representation of LGBTQ+ characters within fiction has steadily been growing, which is amazing to see. It’s even better to recognize that many of the works featuring LGBTQ+ characters are por…

09/28/2022

I know it's been a super long time since I last posted a blog entry. I do apologize. Life is crazy and I've been trying to keep up with everything. I do have a lot of posts planned, and I'm hoping to be able to start working on them soon!

08/08/2022

There’s a common misconception that something needs to be “wrong” with you in order to go to therapy. In fact, going to therapy has been incredibly stigmatized in the past. It’s only recently that going to therapy has started to become normalized. And it should be. Therapy is incredibly useful, and it can be incredibly helpful. Sure, if you have mental health issues like chronic anxiety and/or depression or something more severe, like schizophrenia, therapy is essential to learning how to live with those conditions, but you don’t need to have a long term mental illness to benefit from therapy....

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/08/08/why-i-think-everyone-needs-therapy/

There’s a common misconception that something needs to be “wrong” with you in order to go to therapy. In fact, going to therapy has been incredibly stigmatized in the past. It’s only recently that …

07/26/2022

LGBTQIA: it’s an acronym many of us heard before. However, not everyone knows what all the letters mean. Particularly, the “A.” I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard someone say that the “A” stands for Ally. That’s not even a little bit true. There’s actually 2 words that the “A” indicates: asexual and aromantic. So let’s talk about asexuality and aromanticism are....

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LGBTQIA: it’s an acronym many of us heard before. However, not everyone knows what all the letters mean. Particularly, the “A.” I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard someone say that the …

06/01/2022

So let's continue talking about how LGBTQ+ characters are represented in the media. Today I want to talk about a show that had a HUGE impact on representation of the LGBTQ+ community. Will & Grace was a show about a gay man named Will and his straight female roommate Grace that ran initially from 1999-2006 and was then rebooted from 2017-2020....

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/06/01/lgbtq-representation-in-tv-film-part-2/

So let’s continue talking about how LGBTQ+ characters are represented in the media. Today I want to talk about a show that had a HUGE impact on representation of the LGBTQ+ community. Will &a…

05/19/2022

TV and Movies have had q***r characters for a surprisingly long time. As the LGBTQ+ population has become more visible and acceptance has (supposedly) increased, we have seen the number of q***r characters increase in pop culture. But, it's very important to discuss the fact that representation is not always a good thing. In fact, many q***r characters are presented in ways that reinforce harmful stereotype about LGBTQ+ people, which ultimately can do more damage than anything else....

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/05/19/lgbtq-representation-in-tv-film-part-1/

TV and Movies have had q***r characters for a surprisingly long time. As the LGBTQ+ population has become more visible and acceptance has (supposedly) increased, we have seen the number of q***r ch…

05/09/2022

So you've decided to go to therapy. That's amazing! Seriously. Going to therapy is a scary thing. You have to open yourself up to a stranger and put yourself in an inherently vulnerable place. You have to be honest with yourself and with the therapist. You'll probably have to talk about things that have hurt you deeply. Therapy is wonderfully helpful, but it's inherently scary....

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/05/09/how-to-find-a-therapist/

So you’ve decided to go to therapy. That’s amazing! Seriously. Going to therapy is a scary thing. You have to open yourself up to a stranger and put yourself in an inherently vulnerable…

05/02/2022

Before going any further, please note that there will be SPOILERS for Encanto! So everybody's been talking about Encanto a lot. Like a lot. And for good reason. It's a pretty amazing movie in a lot of ways. The music is catchy, the characters are well-developed, there's not a cheesy love triangle dominating the screen time, and there's no mustache-twirling bad guy....

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/05/02/the-most-significant-lines-in-encanto-and-why-theyre-significant/

Before going any further, please note that there will be SPOILERS for Encanto! So everybody’s been talking about Encanto a lot. Like a lot. And for good reason. It’s a pretty amazing mo…

05/02/2022

I can't count the number of people I've talked to (both professionally and personally) who talk about putting others first. Our society tells us that others are more important than ourselves. Read my blog post talking about why that's not a great thing!

https://theq***rnerdytherapist.wordpress.com/2022/05/02/how-life-gets-in-the-way-sometimes/

Hey everyone! So I know it’s been an impressively long time since I updated, but I promise I didn’t forget about all of you. I’ve updated a couple of things in the blog. Some of y…

05/02/2022

05/02/2022

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