My name is Michael Jeffrey Singer. I was asked to write a little about who I am, which is quite a question, isn’t it?
My Hebrew name is Meir Yehuda, which means “One Who Brings Light”. I am the son of Frank and Miriam, the brother of Neil, Leslie, Susan and David, and ex-husband of Toni and Sabine. But I’m most proud and honored of being a father to Gabriella and Joseph. And really, this is just one way of describing myself.
I am also a child of God who struggles daily with this physical body. I am a spiritual being, like everybody else, longing to be loved, held, heard, and seen. I have struggled with abuse, depression, migraines, and even drug use. I used to think I was too broken to be loved. I had reached a point in my life when I knew there had to be so much more than just suffering. So, I went looking for answers, guided by questions we all face at one time or another: “what is my purpose for being on Earth? Why such sadness and pain? Why am I really here?”
These questions forced me to face and examine this train wreck called “Michael”. I discovered that I wanted so much more than to live day-to-day, pay bills, content with constant pain, and chase the occasional moment of happiness. A deep longing to find out if I was more than the sum of my struggle and pain began to surface.
On this journey of finding out who the hell I was, I learned that I was not a complete train wreck, nor broken. I saw just how abusive I was being to myself. I believed without question whatever I was told long ago, so much so that I continued telling myself these very same destructive things even as an adult. In healing myself, I was able to begin seeing clearly when other people were unconsciously abusing themselves, and I could appreciate their pain and struggles because I’ve been there.
My healing journey showed me that I have this big, beautiful, compassionate heart, and that I want to make a difference in the world. I discovered a longing to assist people on their journey of finding out the truth of who they are. Through my years of education and training, I learned that I could not hold other people’s pain and sadness if I didn’t learn to be with my own first. I learned that I am not here to really fix anyone; each of us has our own unique journey. I believe we are all wounded, and that life is an opportunity for a soul retrieval, a chance to embody the truth of who we are and not what we were told or coerced into believing. We are all beautiful light beings.
I deeply relate to Chiron, the archetype of the Wounded Healer. I believe we choose to incarnate into the world, which is choosing to go into pain so as to learn our life lessons.
My business is called Santa Barbara Healer, but I am not the healer. You are. You are the only one who can do the true healing for yourself. I am an intuitive and I can see what stops you from your deepest longings. I am able to assist you in letting go of your pain. With my gifts, my heart, my soul, and your commitment to change, miracles will happen. This is not work, nor do I treat this as a job. This is my calling, my passion and my life’s work. We cannot do this healing business on our own. As much as I tried for years to fix myself, I found I also needed love and support from other people.
I have learned to hold people with loving tenderness and compassion, and without any judgment or criticism. Being human, we can be unaware of the abuse we heap on ourselves. Often, we don’t know how to be compassionate with ourselves and we beat ourselves up instead of healing ourselves. I hold a space of unconditional love, so that my clients may tap into their own unconditional love within. They find the truth of who they really are, and that they are not their trauma, pain, cancer, drugs, or abuse.
You are not what happened to you, you are so much more than that! We each have suffered losses, and everyone faces struggles in their life. It is the inevitable part of being human. In over twenty years of working with people, I have found that we are stronger, smarter and more beautiful than we ever give ourselves credit for.
In my sessions, I get to reflect back to my clients their own magnificence, their heart and soul, and their light, so that they can share their gifts with everybody else. I believe we can change the world one person at a time. If I can assist you with encouraging your light to shine a little brighter, your light will help others shine brighter too.
Together we can let go of some of the darkness, pain, and sadness that is in the world these days. The world needs your light.
I have never met anyone who is not struggling with something, but that struggle is your healing journey back to wholeness, back to joy, and back to your true home.
Many blessings and much love on your healing journey,
Michael
www.SantaBarbaraHealer.com
