Andrea Gurney

08/26/2025

Jesus modeled boundaries well!! 😇 May you, too, find the balance between togetherness and solitude, action and contemplation, speaking and listening.

08/22/2025

Give yourself permission to say no without needing to explain why. And remember: saying “no” to one thing allows you to say yes to something else.

What might you need to say no to?!

Remember this: Boundaries and self-care dance together! And you get to decide what boundaries you will hold to.

08/20/2025

Give yourself permission to say no without needing to explain why. And remember: saying “no” to one thing allows you to say yes to something else.

What might you need to say no to?!

Remember this: Boundaries and self-care dance together!

08/15/2025

Showing up for yourself, even when you’re not sure where your partner stands, is a sign of security. Being able to tolerate ambiguity and uncertainty = secure self. Secure attachment shows up for yourself first and then makes the way for deep connection with others.

08/08/2025

Research suggests that having shared values in your intimate relationships is key to long-term satisfaction and love. When you and your partner know what your values are and you share fundamental beliefs, there’s a foundation of emotional security and mutual understanding. It’s also easier to make decisions together and navigate challenges.

So for those out on the dating scene — especially those who are in the date-to-marry stage — have an explicit, honest conversation about your values. What’s your non-negotiable? What’s centering for you and your partner?

And for those married folks – it’s always helpful to revisit your top three shared values; this is especially important when there are big decisions to be made!

08/04/2025

I was a newbie at the National Alliance for Relationship and Marriage Education summit in DC last week, and I felt SO at home professionally. These were my people. For three days we talked about relationship science, marriage education, and our deep desire for human connection. What makes us flourish? Safe, supportive, intimate relationships my friend! And that is research-backed!

Swipe to the end for one of my favorite, fun attachment clips!

06/14/2025

“Nothing develops intelligence like travel.”

Intelligence, friendships, laughter, rest, adventure, community, growth, history, music, Lipizzaner horses, castles, scooters, gardens, sunsets, cappuccinos, cafes, palaces, creativity, art, more laughter and spritzs…

So much has been gained.
And I am so grateful.

06/04/2025

Standing on the site of devastation and destruction was chilling. Tears filled my eyes watching original footage from WW11 at the “end of terror” exhibit at Völkerschlachtdenkmal.

80 years later, the remnants of combat were still evident in the monument walls.

“Never in the field of human conflict was so much owed by so many…”

05/25/2025

04/19/2025

Oftentimes when we think about the threat of the third, it makes to envision a person. However, anything that is distracting to the marital bond can be a threat. What are some areas to be cautious of? 🩷

04/15/2025

Time is a hot commodity!! There are a million things that demand our attention. Make the time for the things that matter to you. It is very easy to put your marriage on the back burner, especially when life gets hectic. How can you make the time for your marriage?

04/08/2025

It takes BOTH of these factors to move towards acceptance after a hurtful experience. Otherwise, resentment builds and the hurt continues.