Eva Van Prooyen, MFT

Eva Van Prooyen, MFT Therapy should be practical and incredibly useful.

​​​"Healthy, secure relationships are a source of vital energy…people feel good when they understand how to be successful partners"

I’m happy to answer questions you may have about therapy. I help couples, adults, and adolescents experience life more deeply; enjoy more satisfying relationships; resolve painful conflicts; and improve self-esteem, self-worth and emotional well-being. My work is collaborative, supportive, and informed by cutting edge science and over 15 years study with (PACT) a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. I emphasize growth and self-awareness for the individual and couple as a way to become a successful and skillful partner, based on the belief that “life is better when your relationships are healthy.”

I blend warmth and humor, with an understanding of attachment theory and interpersonal neurobiology, to help couples make positive and enlivening changes in their relationship. I aim to demystify how partners get into trouble in their relationship and decode the way out so they can thrive in a more secure, lovingly connected experience together.

#2 Putting 'we' before 'me'7 Traits That Keep Couples Together Way More Than Love, According To Experts
09/25/2025

#2 Putting 'we' before 'me'
7 Traits That Keep Couples Together Way More Than Love, According To Experts

Attraction may spark a relationship, but it's not what keeps the flame lit.

Knowing The Answer Could Save You Years of Heartache
06/29/2025

Knowing The Answer Could Save You Years of Heartache

Decode how you connect, protect, and push each other away. Understanding your attachment style — and your partner’s — could save you years of heartbreak. Knowing your own style is just the start. Becoming an expert on theirs is the real game-changer.

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/thirds-outsiders-and-intruders-how-to-protect-your-relationship-from-unseen-thre...
05/28/2025

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/thirds-outsiders-and-intruders-how-to-protect-your-relationship-from-unseen-threats

Understanding Thirds: Protecting Your Relationship When Outside Forces Threaten Your Bond

Emotional energy, attention, vulnerability—these aren’t neutral. Learn how to spot and manage the outside forces that quietly interfere with intimacy, and protect the bond you’ve worked hard to build.


Recognize and repair when outsiders interfere with intimacy. Learn how to spot and manage outside forces—like work, family, or old attachments—that can come between you and your partner, and build a stronger, more secure connection with practical tools and real-life examples.

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/7-essential-truths-to-unlock-longevity-in-a-lifelong-loving-relationship7 Essent...
11/01/2024

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/7-essential-truths-to-unlock-longevity-in-a-lifelong-loving-relationship

7 Essential Truths to Unlock Longevity in a Lifelong, Loving Relationship

Science, skill, nature, logic, and love all work together to create an environment of trust and understanding — for a relationship that withstands the test of time.

Dr. Stan Tatkin

Science, skill, nature, logic, and love all work together to create an environment of trust and understanding — where couples can navigate their imperfections while evolving into wiser, kinder, and more resilient partners, ultimately forming a lasting and fulfilling relationship that withstands th...

A toxic and controlling group or partner will isolate you from your support system. Understand the signs of coercive con...
06/04/2024

A toxic and controlling group or partner will isolate you from your support system. Understand the signs of coercive control.
Bravo to the creators of this 3-episode series!

After TikTok dancers join a management company and its associated church, unsettling details about the founder and their dark realities come to light.

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/breaking-freeCoercive control in relationships is insidious, and individuals may...
05/10/2024

https://www.evavp.com/relationship-blog/breaking-free
Coercive control in relationships is insidious, and individuals may unknowingly fall prey to emotional abuse disguised as ‘love and devotion. Break free from manipulative tactics by learning to recognize the signs early on.
SpotaSpider

Coercive control in relationships is insidious, and individuals may unknowingly fall prey to emotional abuse disguised as ‘love and devotion. Break free from manipulative tactics by learning to recognize the signs early on.

"Research suggests that just knowing about the four attachment styles can have a positive effect on your relationships ....
08/29/2023

"Research suggests that just knowing about the four attachment styles can have a positive effect on your relationships ..."

Do you identify as anxious, avoidant, disorganized or secure?

Successful conflict happens when we turn complaints into requests.
07/08/2023

Successful conflict happens when we turn complaints into requests.

There are many times in relationships when you and your partner need to have a difficult conversation. Approaching these conversations with the desire to be understood, and willingness to understand where your partner is coming from will help.

Subscribers to our Love Notes Newsletter receive helpful tools like one this every month. You can get this free download by subscribing here: https://bit.ly/30JWG2H

Better Together
06/21/2023

Better Together

No matter where you stand on marriage or commitment, your relationships and their quality will greatly influence (if not determine) your health and happiness in life.

That’s because you need other people for a whole lot of important things, only one of which is companionship. Adult human beings require at least one other adult human being to help with self-esteem, self-knowledge, self-discovery, and self-improvement.

You need another person for silly things, such as letting you know if you have spinach in your teeth, and more significant things, such as helping you understand what you don’t know (and there are tons of things you don’t know).

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Santa Barbara, CA
93101

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