09/03/2025
What if your fear isn’t the problem… but a clue?
Most fears—abandonment, rejection, failure, change, loneliness, judgment—aren’t random. They’re signals of unmet needs that got buried deep in your nervous system.
👉 Fear of abandonment = a need for safety + belonging.
👉 Fear of rejection = a need for unconditional acceptance.
👉 Fear of failure = a need to feel worthy + capable.
👉 Fear of judgment = a need for love + understanding.
Here’s an example:
“Emily” (name changed), a new mom, came into therapy completely overwhelmed. On the outside, she looked like she was “doing fine”—but inside, she was terrified of failing her baby. Every cry triggered panic: “I’m not enough. I’m doing this wrong. What if I ruin my child?”
Through Brainspotting, we found an eye position connected to that fear of failure. Her body responded almost immediately—memories came up of being criticized as a kid, only praised when she got things “perfect,” and ignored when she made mistakes. Her nervous system had learned long ago: failing equals rejection.
By staying with that Brainspot, her body could finally process and release those old survival strategies. She began to realize on a deeper, felt level: “This fear isn’t about me as a mom right now—it’s about my unmet need for acceptance from back then.”
The shift was powerful. Instead of living in constant self-doubt, she started noticing her fear without spiraling. She could pause, breathe, and remind herself: “I am enough. My baby doesn’t need perfection. My baby needs me, present and connected.”
✨ That’s what Brainspotting does—it helps uncover the unmet need underneath the fear so your nervous system can finally heal. You don’t just “cope” with the fear—you release it, and create space for safety, connection, and trust in yourself.
Your fears aren’t weakness. They’re survival strategies that made sense once. And your nervous system is capable of so much more healing than you realize.
