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Blissful Heart Coaching, Santa Fe, NM (2025)

11/04/2025

You built it so young, you think it's just your personality.

The independence that looks like strength but feels like isolation. The "high standards" that keep everyone at arm's length. The "I'm fine" that's become your default response to everything.

This isn't who you are. This is who you learned to be when love felt uncertain.

"Don't be too much" became emotional minimalism.
"Don't be needy" became never asking for help.
"Stay strong" became never showing your cracks.

That controlling voice in your head convinced you that armor equals safety. But the protection that once kept you safe is now keeping you separate from the very connection your soul craves.

Your authentic self knows the difference between boundaries and walls. She knows that true strength includes softness. That independence can coexist with intimacy.

The woman beneath the armor? She's not too much. She's not needy. She's not weak.

She's human. And she deserves to be known.

💭 What armor have you been wearing so long that it started to feel like skin?

11/03/2025

I used to think I was broken.

That there was something fundamentally wrong with me because I couldn’t make relationships work. Because I kept running when things got difficult. Because I had built walls so high that no one could really see me.

But I wasn’t broken. I was just bridled.

Bridled by patterns I learned early. Bridled by armor that once protected me but eventually imprisoned me. Bridled by the belief that staying meant getting hurt, so leaving felt safer.

Everything changed when I learned the difference between protection and connection. When I discovered that vulnerability wasn’t weakness, it was the bridge to everything I’d been searching for.

This is what Unbridled Authenticity™ taught me: We’re not meant to live small, armored, or performing. We’re meant to live free, genuine, and fully expressed.

Your wild, authentic self isn’t chaotic. She’s guided by your deepest truth. And she’s been waiting for you to slow down, listen, and finally come home to yourself.

Maybe you’ve been running too. Maybe the armor kept you safe once, and what if it’s time to lay it down and finally be unbridled? 🩵

10/31/2025

It wasn’t infidelity that almost broke us, it was the story I believed about love. 💔

For the first time ever, I shared publicly how my childhood trauma nearly destroyed my marriage when we were newlyweds.

I was convinced my husband was cheating every time he traveled for work.

The sleepless nights.

The checking up.

The constant fear of being blindsided again.

But the truth was he never cheated once in 32 years.

It wasn’t him; it was my unhealed story running the show.

This week’s video is probably the most vulnerable thing I’ve ever posted.

If you’ve ever felt like your past wounds keep showing up in your relationships, or that fear keeps you from trusting the love that’s right in front of you, this one’s for you.

👉 Watch: https://youtu.be/sq-GnN8Qcd4

You can’t make love feel safe by managing it. You make it safe by healing the part of you that learned it wasn’t. 🩵

10/21/2025

You make tough calls at work without flinching, but in relationships, you overthink, poll friends, and second-guess what you feel.

That’s not weakness. It’s conditioning.
You were taught to trust your mind more than your body.

Fear is loud and urgent.
Intuition is calm and grounded.

Slow down.
Breathe.
Ask your body: “Is this fear? Or is this my truth?” 🩵

🎧 Free Inner Child Meditation: https://blissfulheartcoaching.myflodesk.com/inner-child-meditation

10/21/2025

Horses don’t fix us; they remind us how to come home to ourselves.

Through presence. Through breath. Through truth.

The wisdom they offer in the barn translates to every part of life, even here. 🩵

10/18/2025

If you’ve been following along
this week, you might be feeling a mix of things:
😔 Awareness of how often you silence yourself
💧 Grief for all the moments you didn’t speak your truth
🔥 Maybe even anger toward the people, or systems, that taught you to stay quiet

This is part of the Unbridling Process™.

Before we can release old patterns, we have to see them clearly.
And sometimes, seeing them hurts.

But here’s what waits on the other side of that discomfort:
✨ Relationships built on real connection, not performance
✨ Less resentment and more ease
✨ Freedom from constant self-monitoring
✨ Access to your authentic desires and voice
✨ The quiet aliveness that comes from being fully expressed

Voice Reining is just one of the five Bridling Patterns I work with in my Unbridled Authenticity™ framework:
🐴 Herd Approval Seeking
🐴 Self-Shrinking
🐴 Intuition Bridling
🐴 Boundary Trampling

Each one once protected you.
Each one can now be released with compassion.

If Voice Reining resonated and you’re ready to go deeper, my free Inner Child Meditation will help you reconnect with the part of you who spoke freely, before life taught you to hold back.

🩵 Link in bio.

Next week, we’ll explore another Bridling Pattern.
Until then, practice speaking one small truth.
Your voice matters. Your truth deserves space.

Love doesn’t require your silence,it requires your authenticity.

🩵 You were born to run free. It’s safe to use your voice again.

📸: .salon

10/17/2025

Three small ways to start releasing Voice Reining this week 🩵

1️⃣ State a simple preference without justification.
When asked what you want, give an honest answer, and resist the urge to justify it.
Then pause and breathe.
Notice the urge to explain yourself, and let it pass.

2️⃣ Speak one small truth you’d usually suppress.
“I’m not in the mood for company tonight.”
“That comment hurt my feelings.”
“I actually like the other option better.”
Start small. These micro-moments build the muscle for bigger truths later.

3️⃣ Pause every time you say “I don’t know.”
Ask yourself: Do I really not know, or am I reining in my truth?
You don’t have to say it out loud yet. Just start noticing.
Awareness always comes first in unbridling any pattern.

Here’s what I know about you:
You have a voice. It’s been there all along, waiting beneath the reins.
You don’t need to find it; you need to stop silencing it.

After you speak, take a slow breath and notice: your body just practiced safety in authenticity. 🌿

Which of these feels most doable for you this week?

📸: Ashlie Woods

10/16/2025

Here’s how Voice Reining quietly shows up in relationships 👇

💔 In conflict:
You say “I’m fine” when you’re not.
You minimize what’s bothering you.
You apologize for your feelings.

🍽️ With preferences:
“I don’t care, whatever you want” becomes your default, even when you DO care.
You defer to others’ choices and convince yourself you’re “easygoing.”

🔥 During intimacy:
You can’t say what you want.
You fake enjoyment to protect their feelings.
Your pleasure becomes secondary to avoiding awkwardness.

🗣️ With opinions:
You check for approval before you finish your sentence.
You soften your stance.
You add “Maybe I’m wrong” to things you actually know.

🚫 When setting boundaries:
You plan what to say, then change your words to keep the peace.
You over-explain and justify.
You back down at the first sign of pushback, or never bring it up at all.

The cost?
The people in your life never get to know the real you.
You end up carrying resentment for unmet needs no one even knows you have.
The connection feels safe on the surface, but empty underneath.

And the deepest cut is that you lose connection with your own truth because you’ve reined it in for so long.

Voice Reining doesn’t protect your relationship, it starves it.

As you read this, notice what happens in your body:
Does your chest tighten?
Does your breath shallow?
That’s your nervous system remembering how hard you’ve worked to keep peace.

💬 Which part hits home the most for you?

📸: Ashlie Woods

10/15/2025

“Stop being so dramatic.”
“Nobody wants to hear that.”
“If you can’t say something nice…”
“You’re being too sensitive.”
“That’s not how you really feel.”

These are the "bridled beginnings" of Voice Reining.

So many women I’ve worked with can trace this pattern back to specific moments when they learned that their authentic voice was somehow wrong, too much, or unwelcome.

Maybe you expressed anger and were told, “Nice girls don’t get mad.”
Maybe you shared excitement, and someone rolled their eyes.
Maybe you asked for something and were called selfish.
Maybe you disagreed with an adult and faced consequences.

Those moments imprinted your nervous system with the clear message: speaking your truth isn’t safe.

So you adapted. You became careful with your words.
You learned to read the room before speaking.
You mastered the art of saying what others wanted to hear.

That was intelligent. It helped you navigate difficult situations and keep connection when you were young and dependent.

But here’s what happens in adulthood:
That same pattern that once protected you now prevents your partner, your friends, and even your colleagues from truly knowing the real you.

You can’t create intimacy while hiding your truth.

This is five-year-old me, the little girl who hadn’t yet learned to rein in her voice. 💛

The good news? Once you recognize where Voice Reining started, you can begin to loosen those old reins.

💭 What message did you receive about your voice as a child?

🩵 You didn’t lose your voice, you protected yourself. Now it’s safe to speak again.

10/14/2025

Let’s talk about one of the most common bridling patterns I see in accomplished women:
✨ Voice Reining, which is when you silence your truth.

🩵 Voice Reining is one of the five Bridling Patterns™ in my Unbridled Authenticity™ coaching model. These Bridling Patterns™ are the subtle ways we learned to tame our true selves.

Last week, we explored how the armor that protects you at work can wall you off in love and relationships. This week, we’re going deeper into one specific way that happens.

Voice Reining is when you:
🌿 Say “I don’t know” when you actually do know
🌿 Apologize before sharing your opinion
🌿 Over-explain simple preferences
🌿 Change your words based on someone’s expression
🌿 Stay quiet when something bothers you
🌿 Speak more softly or tentatively than feels natural

This isn’t about being shy or introverted.
It’s a learned survival pattern.
At some point, you discovered that speaking your truth came with a cost: dismissal, anger, rejection, and being told you were “too much.”

So you learned to rein in your voice.
To soften your truth to make yourself more "palatable."

And now? That pattern is running your relationships, even when the original threat is long gone.

👉 This week, we’ll explore how Voice Reining developed, how it shows up, and, most importantly, how to start loosening those reins.

Which of these patterns feels most familiar to you?

📸: Kruse

10/11/2025

If you’ve been nodding along this week, thinking, “Yes, this is exactly what I struggle with,” I want you to know something:

Your perfectionism isn’t a character flaw.
Your independence isn’t the problem.
Your need for control isn’t something to shame.

These were intelligent adaptations. They kept you safe. They helped you succeed.

And now, they’re ready to evolve.

Because the same woman who can run a company, manage complex projects, and keep everything together can also learn to soften, receive, and love with her whole heart.

It just requires different skills that you probably weren’t taught.

This is the heart of my Unbridled Authenticity™ work: helping you identify the “bridled beginnings” where you first learned to suppress your authentic nature, recognize which of the five core Bridling Patterns™ are running your relationships, and practice coming home to your unbridled, whole self.

If you’re ready to start this journey, I created a free Inner Child Meditation to help you reconnect with the part of you who once loved openly, before life taught her to armor up.

It’s a gentle 15-minute practice that many women have used to begin softening the walls around their hearts.

✨ Grab it here: https://blissfulheartcoaching.myflodesk.com/inner-child-meditation

Remember, love doesn’t require your perfection. It requires your presence.

📸:

10/10/2025

Three small ways to practice unbridling in relationships:

1️⃣ Sacred Fence Practice:
Say no to something small you don’t actually want to do. Not a big boundary. Start small. Notice how your body feels when you honor your truth instead of automatically accommodating someone's request.
This isn’t about building walls. It’s about creating healthy boundaries that protect your authentic self while still allowing closeness.

2️⃣ Freedom Breath Reset:
When you catch yourself going into “manage and control” mode in any interaction, pause.
Place your hand on your heart. Take three slow breaths. Ask yourself: “What would compassion for myself look like right now?”
Your nervous system needs to relearn that vulnerability is safe.

3️⃣ Inner Child Joy Check-In:
Think back to a time before you learned to armor up. What did little-you love? What made her feel free? Do one small thing this week that reconnects you with that unbridled version of yourself.
Maybe it’s dancing in your kitchen, singing loudly in the car, or wearing something that makes you feel playful instead of polished.

The strategies that once protected you may no longer be serving you.
You can soften without losing your edge. You can be both powerful and present.

Which practice will you try first? Tell me in the comments. 👇

📸: Shelby Duncan

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