Eveline Smilack, MFA, LMFT

11/06/2024

Today, you are not alone. Talk to friends, a therapist, your support network. And if you need more help, here are some resources.

We are stronger together.

02/07/2022

From "The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace"

01/14/2022

Ways to calm and focus the mind..

Our attention gets hijacked by everything from the stress in our lives to the ding of our phones. Neuroscientist Amishi Jha shows how we can cultivate the ability to focus on what really matters.

01/08/2022

12/27/2021

12/22/2021

12/05/2021

“Making more time for downtime will create the conditions for those thunderbolt insights to strike—and help you stay sane, creative, and productive over the long term.”

Making more time for downtime will help you stay sane, creative, and productive over the long term.

12/03/2021

Connect to yourself. Find yourself. That is the remedy for loneliness

11/01/2021

Do you find yourself people pleasing? Do you fill in the gaps of relationship deficits? Do you soothe attachment anxiety through giving what you hope to receive? It’s a pattern that leaves everyone’s needs unmet. Caring for yourself and your needs is key. Call to learn more. 

"When you’re a people-pleaser, you unconsciously wear a facade of niceness that hides your true feelings from your family, colleagues, friends, lovers."

08/31/2021

Being stuck in flight/fight/free and trauma responses can be exhausting. We need to practice new things to help build change.

The most powerful way to combat anxiety is to consistently work on building your resilience and mental strength. "Along the way, you'll learn to appreciate or even welcome certain kinds of mistakes for all the new information they bring you," says neuroscientist Wendi Suzuki.

08/15/2021

This

“You are not lost. You are here. Stop abandoning yourself. Stop repeating this myth about love and success that will land in your lap or evade you forever. Build a humble, flawed life from the rubble, and cherish that. There is nothing more glorious on the face of the earth than someone who refuses to give up, who refuses to give in to their most self-hating, discouraged, disillusioned self, and instead learns, slowly and painfully, how to relish the feeling of building a hut in middle of the suffocating dust.”
―Heather Havrilesky

artwork by instagram.com/marypelc

08/07/2021

"Aggression usually begins when someone hurts our feelings. The first response is very soft, but before we even notice what we’re doing, we harden. So we can either let go and connect with that softness or we can continue to hold on, which means that the suffering will continue."

We can suppress anger and aggression or act it out, either way making things worse for ourselves and others. Or we can practice patience.