Michelle Hardeman-Guptill LMFT

04/12/2026

Jodi, 23, is dating Mark. 5 months in to their relationship, they spend most of their time together. Jodi is crazy about mark but she does notice his insecurity.

It starts when she mentions a co-worker and Mark asks if she ever had feelings for him. When she says no, he presses her harder not taking her word for it.

At a friend’s wedding, Mark notices her talking to someone and accuses her of flirting. “You would never know you have a boyfriend.” Mark says.

One day she’s late to meet him. “Where have you been?” He asks. His voice has changed. She can feel his anger. “I’ve been in traffic.” Jodi says. “Are you SURE you were in traffic?” Jodi is confused and caught off guard. “Let me see your phone” Mark says.

When Jodi hesitates, he is more upset. “Now I know you’re lying to me.” Her heart beats faster as she realizes he’s accusing her of something she didn’t do. She starts to defend herself telling him she was by herself in traffic on the way home from work. She starts to reassure him and promise him she’s honest. That she loves him.

What Jodi doesn’t understand is Marks accusations are a confession.

He assumes she is just like him. He assumes anyone he dates is like him: dishonest and disloyal.

Jodi and Mark date for almost a year before she ends the relationship. One day she’s making dinner and Mark was in the shower. As she puts dinner in the oven, she walks over to the couch where his phone’s sitting. It lights up with “I need to see you again. I miss you.” Her stomach hits the floor.

It’s Mark who lies and Mark who hides.

Pay attention to projections, that’s where you’ll find the deepest truths most people don’t want to admit

06/06/2025

05/27/2025

There are two types of magnetism.

The kind that draws you in quick - like a glittery roller coaster ride.
Loud music. Flashing lights. Wild spinning.
It’s thrilling at first, but you quickly realize you’re dizzy, disoriented, and not quite sure how you got strapped in.

In contrast, true resonance is like stepping into a warm cabin after a snowstorm.
You didn’t even realize how cold you were until you felt the fire, smelled the soup, and your shoulders finally dropped.
You take off your coat, hat and shoes, maybe even your socks and
You exhale.
You feel safe, met, and real.

One is driven by adrenaline - hooking your attention through intensity and charm.
The other is co-regulation.
It’s not about being dazzled; it’s about your system softening.
Real resonance doesn’t demand your attention...it invites your presence.

And honestly? I want my clients to want to stay with me.
Not get burnt out by me. Integrity is a deeply held value of mine and no bro-marketer is going to convince me to go against that value.

I’m speaking to both the folks who want to be magnetic in their material and in how they show up…
And to those seeking transformation but keep getting sucked into shiny coaches or programs that just don’t meet their deeper needs.

I’ve been in those programs.
I got caught up in the energy and charisma, only to discover that the coach and their team didn’t actually know how to implement what they sold.

And I’ve been in programs with people who weren’t all that flashy online…
But the moment I was in the room with them, I could feel how rooted, open-hearted, and confident they were in their work.

At first, I went for the shiny because I went for the adrenaline. That was familiar to my nervous system and
I just wanted something to happen so badly that I bit.

But I’ve learned how to be more discerning.
How to ask potent questions before I say yes.
How to feel the person out.
To look at their social media and see how they respond to dissent.
To pay attention to the body of their work—not just the branding.
And most importantly, to pay attention to how I FEEL when watching their stuff or interacting with them. Do I get the shiny adrenaline high? Or do I feel mirrored, attuned to and resonant?

We need tools to slow it all down and tap into our body’s wisdom.

The bro-marketing days of pressure and performance are dying. Thank God.
But we also need something to replace it with.

Presence.
Transparency.
Deep knowing.
Rooted confidence.
Beginners mind.
Curiosity.
Repair after rupture.
And a nervous system that isn’t pretending to be regulated...
it is.

As the world gets noisier, our need to get more centered grows.
And speaking from that place?
Changes everything.

If this resonates with you, I have a 3-hour workshop coming up on June 14 (online):

Speak from the Center
An embodied confidence workshop.

We’ll slow down.
Tune in.
And practice expressing ourselves from the place that actually knows.

Let me know below if you want in.

12/15/2024

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10/14/2024

Just a reminder.

I think it is time for you to "Slow the F*ck Down!" 😉😁

Link below 👇

10/04/2024

Prana Zone (Priyanka Varma, Myriam Martinez Women's Creative Wellbeing Coach and myself Neuro-Soma Transformations are so excited to share this video with you so that you can see us, feel us and get some inspiration to join us for Slow the F*ck Down: A Welness Retreat for Midlife Women on October 19th, 10-4 in Novato CA.

We share a bit about ourselves, what we are bringing to the retreat, and why we feel it is so important to slow down, especially if you are a caretaker in your life or business!