Roxanne Permesly

09/19/2022

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation and psychological control that is often seen in abusive relationships. This is a great article from DivorceMag about the specific signs of gaslighting and what it feels like to the victim when they are subjected to it.
https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/top-10-signs-you-are-the-victim-of-gaslighting

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04/27/2022

Children lie at all ages, for various reasons. This article breaks down the primary reasons why kids lie (at various ages) — and what to do about it.

📰 https://lifehacker.com/an-age-by-age-guide-to-why-kids-lie-and-what-to-do-abo-1848643184

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Children lie at all ages, for various reasons. Here's how you can productively address it.

03/07/2022

The timing of a divorce doesn’t necessarily make it more or less complicated; the issues are just different. This article discusses the considerations found to be top of mind with spouses who are separating after 10, 20 and 30 years of marriage.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/frawleypollock/2021/09/27/divorce-by-the-decade-whats-top-of-mind-when-people-split-10-20-30-years-in/?sh=4e62111513ee

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People often ask whether it’s easier to divorce at one time or another in a marriage. The answer is no: Timing doesn’t necessarily make a divorce more or less complicated; the issues are just different. Here's what tends to be top of mind with spouses separating after 10, 20 & 30 years of marria...

02/10/2022

Sometimes the circumstances that lead to divorce can cause feelings of resentment or vengeance, and forgiveness may be difficult. This article outlines “5 Signs You Are Ready to Forgive After Divorce.”
https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/5-signs-you-are-ready-to-forgive

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Are you ready to forgive after divorce? Think of your children, wish your ex well, and learn to let go. Find more about how to forgive here.

01/20/2022

All couples face conflict. This article talks about the difference between problems that are solvable or perpetual:
https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-conflict-solvable-vs-perpetual-problems/

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When thinking about conflict in a relationship, it is important to understand the difference between a solvable problem, a perpetual problem, and a gridlocked perpetual problem.

12/17/2021

Two trees 🎄– Two dinners 🍗 – Two sets of presents 🎁
For some kids that have divorced parents, this may sound familiar: “Dear Santa, can you figure out where to be? ‘Cause I can’t quite figure out where I belong either. And I still want all those things I put on my list.”

This article gives 11 tips to get you through co-parenting at Christmas: https://masandpas.com/co-parenting-at-christmas/

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11/29/2021

🧸 Play is practice for real life in a child’s world. Fun and imaginative pretend play has significant educational value. This article discusses “The Importance of Pretend Play in Child Development.”

📰 https://www.brighthorizons.com/family-resources/Importance-of-Pretend-Play-in-Child-Development

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11/21/2021

This is a great article about "The Myths and Facts About Therapy." Real-world therapy has very little in common with fictional scenes on TV. Nope, it is not all about the mother (and I bring that to you as a daughter and a mother myself!)

📰 READ MORE: https://www.webmd.com/depression/ss/slideshow-therapy-myths-and-facts

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False ideas scare many people away from a therapist and the quick relief these helping pros can provide. See if you can tell the myths from the facts in this slideshow from WebMD's medical editors.

11/12/2021

💬 I hear it often: “But he just doesn’t listen… Yes, but she goes on and on and on.” How do you make a conversation work? This timeless article discusses “The 7 Cs of Communication” and how to communicate in the most effective way possible.

📰 https://edexec.co.uk/the-seven-cs-of-communication/

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Think of how often you communicate with people during your day

11/05/2021

Sometimes you get into therapy, start a medication, and still... depression. Sometimes it is just complicated. Don’t give up. This article discusses treatment-resistant depression: symptoms, possible causes, and how to manage it.

➡ https://www.webmd.com/depression/treatment-resistant-depression-21/treatment-resistant-depression

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Learn about the diagnosis, causes, and symptoms of treatment-resistant depression, and find out about ways to manage the condition.

11/01/2021

Tis always wonderful to have a best friend… and to hold and foster that in your marriage. This article from the Gottman Institute shares, “Simple Ways to Strengthen the Friendship in Your Relationship.”

https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-simple-ways-strengthen-friendship-marriage/?utm_source=email&utm_medium=mm&utm_campaign=mm_495_10122021_friendshtmyrw

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Being friends and lovers solidifies your relationship with your partner. Learn how to strengthen the bonds of love through friendship.

10/22/2021

10/22/2021

There are four main categories of parenting styles. While using one parenting style does not guarantee success, this article from CNBC tells why experts agree that one method is the most effective.

➡ https://www.cnbc.com/amp/2021/10/05/child-psychologist-explains-why-authoritative-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-smart-confident-kids.html

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A child psychologist and mother of two breaks down what authoritative parenting means — and why researchers agree it's the best type.

10/17/2021

🎃 Halloween as divorced parents can be a nightmare. This article share some Tricks to make it a Treat!

➡ https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/halloween-as-divorced-parents-helping-kids-enjoy-the-holiday

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Halloween as divorced parents can be a nightmare — avoid giving your kids a hard time on this holiday by being prepared with our 3 tips.

10/11/2021

👨‍👨‍👧‍👦 There are many different effects of divorce on kids. If the behavior of your children becomes too much to handle, or you have a hard time dealing with them and your situation, you may need to seek help from an expert. This article discusses the “Effects of Divorce on Kids and How to Help Them Cope.”

➡️ https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/effects-of-divorce-on-kids-and-how-to-help-them-cope

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The effects of divorce on kids include behavioral issues, mental health concerns, and school performance. Learn how to help them here.

09/26/2021

😌 A sense of CALM remains necessary for well-being. Finding calm is a skill that can be learned. In this article from Psychology Today, “The High Cost of Calm - Why relaxing is so much work,” proposes some of the most effective techniques for you, your loved ones, and your children.

➡️ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/202105/the-high-cost-calm

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Why relaxing is so much work.

09/18/2021

😂 Although the pandemic may have squeezed the levity out of your relationship, do you still find ways to share moments of laughter? Being playful brings joy and laughter into social interactions and may help build strong bonds in romantic relationships. This article from Psychology Today gives “4 Reasons Why Being Silly is So Good for Relationships.”

📄 READ MORE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/202107/4-reasons-why-being-silly-is-so-good-relationships

📞 Questions about relationships and counseling? Call (941) 365-8813 or visit RoxannePermesly.com.

New research on playfulness shows how it can build a better relationship.

09/11/2021

Stay married or get divorced? It’s not such an easy decision as there are so many things to consider including what has happened and what might lie ahead. It is a decision to be based on emotions, yes, but also logic. 📄 This article shares the Top 9 Signs It May Be Time to File.
https://www.divorcemag.com/blog/how-do-you-know-its-time-to-call-it-quits-and-file-for-divorce

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Marriages have their ups and downs. One minute you may be happy, the next, frustrated & upset. So, when is it time to call it quits and file for divorce?