EMDR with Melissa

03/01/2025

11/19/2023

I have openings for older teens and adults. Please call 3086328080.

03/28/2022

I currently have spots open to do EMDR therapy. Please contact Hope for Change Counseling 308-632-8080. To see if EMDR is right for you.

03/04/2022

Luckily, for every Horseman of the Apocalypse, there is an antidote, and you can learn how and when to use them below.

02/19/2022

Have you ever reflected on an argument you had with your partner and just thought, “We do not get each other”? Or maybe you find yourself wondering, “Why does this matter so much to them? Why can’t they see it from my perspective?” Or even, “Why does this matter so much to me?”

The latest release from the Gottman Relationship Coach, Dealing with Conflict, is here to help you uncover the answers to those questions and more.

Every individual is unique, which means every relationship is an equally singular combination of dreams, opinions, viewpoints, and proclivities. Dive deep into the inner world of your relationship and gain an understanding of each other to ease communication and conflict—only on our new Gottman Connect platform.

Purchase the Gottman Relationship Coach: Dealing with Conflict today and work toward “getting” each other, even in conflict: http://bit.ly/3iaoR1K

Please note: This post is not intended to address situations of abuse.

02/19/2022

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01/15/2022

"One of my favorite strategies to teach people is that they’re actually allowed to pause difficult conversations. The Gottman Institute's research illustrates how we can become emotionally flooded and actually completely unable to communicate properly during emotionally charged conversations. This is why the whole “don’t go to bed angry” advice is actually super flawed. You can and should take breaks when you’re overwhelmed and talking about something hard.

I know some of us want to finish convos like NOW and we want a resolution. So, when someone asks you to table a conversation or to take a break, it can really create anxiety.

Whenever you decide you need a break, it’s important to address it, make it clear, and give some type of security that you will be returning to the conversation later. The goal here is to create safety, calm down, and come back to it later. This isn’t the strategy to use when you want to avoid talking about something and brush it under the rug.

If you need more time than you initially said, fine. Tell them! What’s important here is that you’ve stated your need, used the time to regulate yourself and gain clarity, and then returned to the conversation to either continue or let them know what you may need."

Learn how to love smarter by taking a break. Read more on the Gottman Relationship Blog: https://bit.ly/3nK4HQJ

Illustration and copy by Whitney Goodman, LMFT (Whitney - sitwithwhit)

01/02/2022

For depressed adolescents, medication can be a lifeline. It’s untreated depression we should worry about most. Discussing antidepressants and teen suicides.

12/03/2021

4. Don’t take radical action.

10/22/2021

The bond between our parents is as important as their individual behaviors.

10/10/2021

Get tips to help children with an adjustment disorder. Adjustment disorders are an unusually strong or long-lasting reaction to an upsetting event which causes a child to become depressed or anxious, pick fights or refuse to go to school.