02/10/2026
Ever notice how awful women can be towards one another sometimes?
For years I couldn’t understand why certain friendships shifted the moment I had success, confidence, or attention.
But I did start notice that whenever I found myself thinking mean thoughts, it had nothing to do with them and more to do with the other stressful things going on in my life. Sorry!!!!!
If feelings like this crop up now, I know I really need to check myself and deal with the real issue.
I also learned is that this isn’t random.
The female brain is wired for social hierarchy and safety. When status feels threatened, cortisol rises, empathy drops, and competition increases.
Instead of physical dominance, women compete through:
• exclusion
• gossip
• subtle aggression
• “pretty punishment”
It’s an ugly biological stress response.
Regulated women build community.
Threatened nervous systems build hierarchy and competition.
It’s not easy to fight biology, but this is one aspect I think we can learn to work around.