07/18/2025
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According to Daniel Goleman (the psychologist who popularized the term "Emotional Intelligence"), to be self-aware you have to be able to distance yourself from your feelings as you experience them.
When a feeling comes up, it's helpful to notice it without judging it, identifying with it, or letting it consume you.
Feelings do pass — when we allow them.
Feelings are not just reactions to what’s happening now; they’re predictions based on what has happened before. Our nervous system draws on past experience to interpret and respond to the present.
They give us important information, but they're also not always relevant to the context at hand; triggers are a perfect example of this.
And just because we feel a feeling, does not mean we ARE that feeling.
This distinction is important for allowing the feeling to move, and to use that feeling as a signal giving us information about our deeper needs.
You aren't sad or depressed, you're feeling sad or depressed.
You aren't an angry person, you experience anger often.
You aren't anxious, you feel anxiety.
Holding space between yourself and the feeling allows the you who’s experiencing that feeling to look at the feeling and decide what you'd like to do (and more you practice inserting space, the more natural this process becomes). Take a few deep breaths? Start self-soothing? Vocalize a need? Lean in and simply let it wash over you?
You do get to choose, but emotional self-management does take time and practice.
If you fully identify with the feeling, it can easily take over and you react instead of respond to the situation at hand.
Are you able to notice feelings or do you often feel consumed by them?
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This is a year long program for those committed to intentionally meeting themselves with more safety, generosity, compassion, and accountability as they begin to break old cycles and patterns of relating to themselves, others and the world.
And it’s done in small, supportive, heart-centered community.
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