Lisa Angelini, Holistic Psychotherapist and Life Coach

01/14/2026

Andrea and Lisa speak candidly about the rise in unresolved grief and how avoidance of loss, endings, and disappointment is shaping modern relational patterns. They discuss why so many people present with a high tolerance for poor or harmful behavior, often rooted in early attachment and childhood wounds.

The conversation highlights a common therapeutic theme: clients attempting to make others change to avoid their own pain, while losing connection to self-trust in the process. As therapists, they reflect on how relationships continue to act as powerful mirrors, revealing wounded parts that are asking for attention, compassion, and integration.

https://www.andreaatherton.com/podcast/episode/7ae4efcf/ep-235-clinical-insights-into-endings-attachment-and-the-courage-to-let-go

01/13/2026

Betrayal doesn’t just wound the heart.
It dismantles the identity that trusted, hoped, and believed.

That’s why forgiveness after betrayal happens in layers.
Some parts of us may soften.
Others are still grieving what was lost—and that matters.

Forgiveness isn’t spiritual bypass.
It doesn’t excuse harm, erase boundaries, or remove accountability.
And it doesn’t have to be spoken or rushed.

In my book, I explore betrayal as a threshold,
a moment when what we thought collapses,
and pain becomes the ultimate transformer rather than a life sentence.

Betrayal can feel venomous—like the strike of a rattlesnake—but even the poison can become a teacher, showing us where to protect, where to let go, and where transformation is possible.

You don’t forgive to excuse what happened.
You forgive, in your own time, to reclaim what was lost within you.
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01/08/2026

When a relationship becomes toxic, a person slowly adapts to the behavior—the frog-in-the-boiling-water effect. The heat is turned up gradually, so you don’t notice how dangerous it has become until you’re already harmed.

You are not going crazy. You have endured daily insults to your mind, repeated injuries to your nervous system, and months—sometimes years—of lies and gaslighting. In any relationship, this takes a toll.

When the inner land that was once sovereign becomes unstable, unpredictable, and disorienting, reality itself begins to fracture.

After a while, these infractions begin to feel normal. You become desensitized to the abuse of power. You develop a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior. What you come to deem acceptable is enough to make others recoil in horror.

Do with this what you will—but don’t turn away from what this kind of harm actually does to a person.

01/08/2026

In Episode 235 of Love Anarchy, I joined Andrea Atherton for a grounded, clinical conversation about the relationship patterns showing up more than ever in therapy rooms in 2025.

We explored why so many people remain emotionally tethered to relationships that no longer serve them—and how unresolved grief, fear of change, and early attachment wounds quietly shape modern relational dynamics.

Rather than focusing solely on saving relationships, we talked about the deeper work many clients are being called into: repairing the relationship with themselves, rebuilding self-trust, and learning how to grieve what no longer works with clarity and compassion.

Healing doesn’t always mean staying.
Sometimes, it means choosing yourself.

🎧 Episode 235 | Love Anarchy Podcast

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01/06/2026

Some of you may know I’ve been in the process of writing a self-help book in the genre of a teaching memoir—where personal story and practical guidance are woven together.

The first full draft of my book is complete.

I’m now in the quieter phase—listening for what wants to be clarified, strengthened, or distilled. At its heart, this book offers a soul-centered approach that pairs psychology with ancient wisdom to help you rise from heartbreak with clarity and power.

I want to share a short excerpt from the introduction.

As a clinical expert in trauma and relationships, I believed my training offered a measure of protection against devastation. I was wrong.

When my relationship abruptly unraveled, my professional certainty shattered along with my heart. Traveling between the United States and the rugged landscapes of Scotland—a place that had called to me for decades—I confronted a humbling truth: expertise does not shield us from being wounded. In some ways, it deepened the fall—creating a false sense of invulnerability that left me unprepared for the depth of heartbreak that followed.

This book was born in the space between clinical authority and raw vulnerability.

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01/06/2026

January is a Pause,
Not a Performance Review

January often arrives carrying an unspoken demand: Do better. Be better. Fix yourself.

But for more than two decades—both personally and professionally—I’ve written about why New Year’s resolutions so often fail. Not because people lack discipline or motivation, but because lasting change isn’t born from January pressure. It’s built slowly, through habits, compassion, and consistency over time.

And honestly? Many of us are exhausted.

So what if, instead of beginning the year by asking “What should I improve?”, we started with a different question:

What if you congratulated yourself?
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01/05/2026

What happened to you is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility. Your past shapes your present and inevitably impacts those around you—especially in your closest relationships. Unaddressed projections can harm both your partner and your connection.

It’s time to step up: clean up the patterns, show up with accountability, and commit to integrity. True integrity means confronting your blind spots and breaking the cycle of hurt. Lean in, do the work, and become the cycle breaker you were meant to be.

01/03/2026

Would you tell your younger self, your little girl or boy, that they need to settle for love that feels inconsistent, or for someone who disregards their emotions? Would you tell them they’re only “good enough” for that? Of course not.

You deserve someone who is all in; someone who truly sees, adores, and grows with you. Let’s uncover the deeper reasons why you may have accepted less and explore where you might not be showing up fully for yourself.

You are worthy of a relationship where both partners uplift and inspire each other; a sacred connection built on mutual care and growth. It doesn’t have to be this hard.

Let’s claim the love you truly deserve. Are you ready?

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01/01/2026

The new year is upon us and while we may feel relieved to say goodbye to chapter 2025, many of us may feel either trepidatious or indifferent about what’s next. So many of us have lived through what feels to be craziness on galactic levels, and these happenings were more than our most anxious minds could have made up. However, the calendar is turning and there is much we need to remember.

The most important tidbit here is getting in touch with your soul. You are the master of your experience, even when you cannot control what’s going on around and outside you. Your journey is your own and you always have your own internal compass. Sometimes we need to adjust the frequency to realign with it, but it’s always present. We all long for clarity, that feeling when what you know aligns with what you feel . . . that rewarding feeling when you know the right decision to make.

During these times, how can you sift through the rubble to find your clarity, to reacquaint with your inner compass? You do the next right thing. You become aware of your breath. You quiet your inner chatter and wash the dish in your sink while feeling the warm soapy water glide over your hands.

I used to observe my grandmother as she moved through her household tasks, and I believe she was in this space. She would often look out the window as she washed her pots, with a special quiet stillness about her. Her hands would smooth over laundry with purpose, as she hung her sheets to dry in the sun.

When you do the next right thing with intention and love, you begin to notice things just out of reach beneath the inner chatter. You slow down, while still moving forward. Perspective shifts as you notice what arises and do the next right thing. All the while, you are becoming closer to your own inner compass, which is the place that guides you on your journey.

We are turning the page to a new year. I hope you choose yourself, while doing the next right thing. I hope you find joy in the things within your reach, and that you continue to stretch towards that which feels beyond. There is much to be grateful for, and together we create caring, supportive community. Notice that which your proud of and set some new goals that you would like to accomplish. Before you know it, you will be back in touch with your inner knowing and feeling more alive with purpose.

12/26/2025

I wrote this before I knew I’d author a book about sudden disorienting heartbreak — and now it’s a line in it. 📕

Sometimes we are broken open to a level we are not prepared to experience. When a heart breaks, it often feels like the end of something, but in the process of mending, we often discover a greater depth within ourselves.

The cracks and scars become openings for growth, empathy, and an expanded capacity for love. We can experience the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of vulnerability.

Lean in and become the alchemist. 💫✨

12/23/2025

Deep down inside I believe first and foremost we all want to be loved; to give love and receive love. This is the most basic human need and one for which we are hard wired.

Over the years of my career, I have heard this desire expressed, albeit in different ways from the homeless person to the billionaire.

Many try to fill up what they describe as a "hole" inside of them with food, drugs, alcohol, s*x, or the next "Mr. or Mrs. Right". You may have guessed, that this "hole" is one of spiritual or emotional emptiness that cannot be filled with external sources.

This time of year, my phone seems to ring off the hook with folks who seemingly become aware of their loneliness.

Television commercials are filled with happy couples receiving diamonds and new cars with big red bows tied upon them. Children are playing with their new puppies and happy families are getting together for the holidays.

While this may be reality for some, for many it is not.

Ongoing national tensions and world events have brought even more challenges and negative discord between friends and family due to political disagreements.

If this holiday season is not one that is filled with the connection, joy, and love you seek, just pause...

That's right, just P.A.U.S.E.

Pray, Accept, Understand, Shift and Expect.

Pray - Regardless of if you are religious or not. If you have a higher power, connect. If you don't, connect with the unconditional love of a loved pet or small child.

Accept - Without judgment, where you are in the moment and honor your feelings and emotions.

Understand - This is a temporary condition and you can change it and/or the way you feel about it.

Shift - See the truth that you yourself are "love". Connect with your heart center and feel the unconditional love inside of you. (Everyone has it, you just must remember...)

Expect - Expect that good things will happen for you when your thoughts are in alignment and you take action.

Follow the P.A.U. S. E. formula for immediate relief. Know that no amount of alcohol, drugs, food, s*x, gambling, intensity...or other mood-altering experience/substance will improve the situation, only you can create your best life, through positive life choices and changes.
Start counseling, go to a support group, read, journal, be honest and accountable.

Hold onto Hope.
-Lisa Angelini

12/23/2025

Love does not mean over-functioning so someone else doesn’t have to.
It doesn’t mean explaining things ten different ways, carrying the emotional load, or shrinking your needs so the relationship can survive.

Sometimes the most loving thing you can do—for both of you—is stop over-giving, increase the boundaries, and let someone face the consequences of what they’re not willing to heal.

Love isn’t proven by how much you tolerate.
It’s reflected in how safe, seen, and supported you both feel.