Andrea Pacheco, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

08/01/2025

02/22/2023

https://www.goalcast.com/anxious-attachment-style/

"Love isn’t easy, despite cultural messages about meeting “the one” and living happily ever after. It takes work, not only in communication and mutual understanding but to confront your deepest wounds. The more you open yourself to vulnerability and intimacy, the more you will face the anxieties and fears that have accumulated over the years."

Anxious attachment causes unhelpful behaviors, from clinginess to fear of rejection. Understand the psychology and steps to heal.

02/19/2021

DO. THE. WORK.

If you're considering finding a couples therapist... do not hesitate. Do not wait. Do not worry about what others will think if *GASP* they find out you are in couples counseling. Marriage is hard.. you shouldn't be expected to figure it out on your own.

11/08/2020

“Cultivate a healthy dialogue with your spouse about topics other than your children. Carve out time to have adult talk. Initiate conversations about shared interests. Remember, you chose your partner before you ever knew your children. Although children require lots of love, time, and energy, for a healthy marriage, you must never let your kids usurp the role of your spouse.” (Ed Young)

09/25/2020

During my couples sessions.. some of the hardest work involves redefining what love is for each individual. And not in the sense of love languages (although we talk about that a lot too).. but in the sense of how being loved/loving someone should make you feel (as opposed to how being loved by your parents made you feel).
Without this work.. a lot of pain, discomfort, drama and CHAOS is created and experienced unnecessarily.

12/16/2019

Investing in yourself is ALWAYS worth it.

02/15/2018

Please share with anyone who might need some help adjusting to mom life!