23/07/2025
I am speaking to a select few. If this resonates with you, please take a moment to feel seen, heard, held, and un-alone. I would love nothing more than to offer guidance and support 💚
This one is for you if you ever:
Measure your worth through your body: its appearance, ability, and discipline, and when it doesn’t meet your internal standard, you feel small, powerless, and undeserving.
This is not a flaw of character; it’s a wound. Often, it’s learned early: we absorb the belief that our value is conditional upon how we look, how much control we exert, how perfectly we perform. That belief takes root so deeply that even food, something meant to nourish and connect you to life, becomes a battleground for proving or punishing yourself.
If this resonates, this mindset has two heavy pieces:
1. Body as the barometer of worth.
2. Food as both comfort and enemy.
Neither of these is really about the body or the food; they’re about the meaning you’ve attached to them: control, identity, love, safety.
So here are some reflections you can consider:
1. Your body is not a moral scoreboard. It doesn’t make you “better” or “worse.” It is your home.
2. Food is not a test. It’s simply fuel and JOY; not a measure of discipline or failure.
3. Discipline does not equal dignity. You are worthy, regardless of whether you hit your macros or not.
And some small steps you might explore:
1. Awareness without judgement: When the thoughts come — “I shouldn’t eat this,” “I failed today,” “I hate my body” — just notice them. Don’t try to fix them right away. Just say: “Ah, this is that old belief talking again.”
2. Curiosity about hunger: Instead of fighting it, gently ask: Am I hungry? Am I lonely? Am I bored? Am I punishing myself?
3. Practice gratitude: Start noting one thing each day your body does for you, not just how it looks; even something small like “My body walked me through today.”
This “curse” can also be your gift. It means you care about health, about feeling good, about being strong and present. But the work is to untangle your worth from the outcome.
Here is a simple, clear and compassionate way to start reframing your “curse” into something you can work with, not against.
Your New Affirmation:
"My body is my home, not my judge.
I nourish it because it carries me through life.
I am worthy and whole, even when imperfect.
Discipline is a choice, not a condition of my dignity.
I can trust myself, one bite, one breath, one moment at a time."
Say this, even silently, when you feel that critical voice creeping in.
offers a blueprint to overcome struggles like this and help you FINALLY break free from the beliefs holding you back from reaching your potential.
One of the greatest pieces of advice I've ever come accross: What you avoid, controls you. What you face, frees you.
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