The Situational Therapist

12/07/2024

If you have been looking for me. I moved to patreon and started a gaming church.

Www.patreon.com/derrickthemindfulgamer

10/17/2024

Im looking for beta testers for my new program.

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09/18/2024

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06/05/2024

05/28/2024

https://open.spotify.com/show/4dW6ZI2NuiEAWuNY2GWSqm

Hey I don't mean to forget about you. We've come a long way. Join the podcast to stay on the journey.

Listen to Mindful Gaming Podcast on Spotify. Hey Everyone, it is Derrick The Mindful Gamer and this is a podcast to talk about everything video games. We're gonna do deep dives and overthink about gaming as I take you on my journey to learning how to love the medium more deeply.

11/14/2023

Let's talk about the simulation hypothesis and how to find meaning when it seems like there isn't any. www.thesituationalpractice.com

06/15/2023

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06/13/2023

New video for sell on Boundaries!

You will learn everything I tell my clients in therapy about setting boundaries. I will teach you what they are, and why they are important, and also share personal stories of how not setting them has impacted my life. Are you tired of being taken advantage of on your job, in relationships, and in l...

06/05/2023

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12/31/2022

I actually changed someones mind.

As you all may know, I love video games so much. I also love telling people not to hit their kids. On today's episode, I had a conversation with Vincent, who has an 18-month-old child and is convinced that he must hit them at some point. Join m...

12/29/2022

Some people use Mental Illness as an excuse.

12/21/2022

If Jesus came back right now, many Christians would be wondering why he is pointing his sword at them. Do you think Jesus hits kids?

11/21/2022

We really must focus on creating a world people want to stay in and one way is by telling the truth of our lived experience. Power rangers was the only show my mom would let me watch. She cursed it all the time, said it had demons, and said it was the reason I was so anxious (not her abusive parenting style), but she let me watch it. I always liked the blue one and the newer power rangers movie was such a read on me and…Jason David Frank loved it. I mean his dedication was unmatched. I know his death is going to be felt. Please speak your truth. And please call 988 if you or someone you know is considering hurting themselves.

11/18/2022

You wanna know how to trigger someone who was traumatized by getting spanked as a child?

Just say or mention “spanking is abuse”. Because they are traumatized they will involuntarily respond with “I turned out fine”.

In the same way they involuntarily responded with “I love you too” when their parents were in the repair phase of the cycle of abuse.

You see as a child, you are dependent on your parents for everything.

Your definitions for the words safety, security, and love all depended on your interactions with them.

In your child-mind they were perfect.

They had to be for the world to make sense.

And in a world where they asked you to willingly submit your body to physical violence at their behest, certain adjustments to how you viewed reality had to take place.

You had to come to believe you deserved to be yelled at, physically assaulted, and humiliated.

The alternative, that this was unjust treatment, would mean your parents weren’t perfect and if they aren’t what of the world?

So, “that’s not fair” became “I deserved it”.

I turned out fine is really like a self-regulating mantra that keeps the person from ever having to think critically about the experience of being hit.

I deserved it because I turned out fine.

And to be honest is “Fine” really the extent of the possibilities of self-actualization a human can attain?

And I’ve seen some people who “turned out fine” who must be living in a completely different reality.

So how do you respond?

Just say “I agree and spanking is still abuse.”

Set a time though cause you about to go on one long ride…

11/17/2022

Spanking is Abuse and I am tired of having to scroll past content parents post on the internet for likes and validation at the expense of their children.

I’ll never stop and I don’t care what anyone says.

We must change the language to change the culture. Be bold. Call it what it is. And if you’ve experienced it I want to talk with you.

11/03/2022

You were not a bad child.

The Problem Child is the child in the family that does things to bring attention to themselves. For too long, we have been told that problem children behave...

10/17/2022

I just want to craft messages that are calm and reassuring and full of hope for my viewers but my passion to want to help people heal can get over wheming sometimes. Tell me what you think in the comments about your challenges when is comes to helping others.