Innate Authenticity

01/19/2025

TL/DR: Yelling into the void about the lack of and *truly* → SOLELY for humans with . Someone hear my call! This is 2025 FFS! This should exist!

Here's where my post initially got started in my mind. There's an online clothing store I looked at today. The chart is fairly standard for cis women's clothing. *Caveat: we know and vary widely.* Here's the -chronic- problem I've had since Freshmen year of high school (same issue even now when I'm much girthy-er). On this chart: My bust is Medium, my waist is Large/Extra Large, and my hips are 1X. FFS, it is 2025!! WHY isn't there a clothing line that caters to my ?!

And here's where my mind quickly went to for the UMTEENTH time in my adult life:

This shop is "By Women For Women". As much as I absolutely LOVE this as a cis woman (since we all know mostly cis men are designing our ) why can't it be ?! Why does the overtly advertised " " stop at 3x and where is the sizing for different heights (not just girth)?!

Some **na owners and former va**na owners (VOAFVO) don't have an hourglass frame and aren't 5'3"-5'9". Some ***s owners and former p***se owners (POAFPO) don't have a boxy frame and aren't 5'9"-6'2". Why do I see sizing (combining brands) ranging from XXS-8X but I DON'T see XXShort, XShort, Short, Regular, Tall, XTall, XXTall? Some VOAFVO don't like "feminine" colors, dresses, sleeveless shirts, short shorts and capris, lingerie, lace and ruffles, lots of pockets, standard bras, "panties" (*groans* can we just call it underwear?!) and form-fitting clothes—some POAFPO do. And visa versa for "masculine" colors, t-shirts and long sleeves only, knee length shorts and full length pants only, boxers and tank tops only, no frills and sturdier fabrics, lots of deep pockets, and relaxed fit clothes.

About 19-20 years ago, I joked (tipsy) with my boyfriend back then that I wanted to start a clothing line called Pears - catering ***SOLELY*** to bodies that are pear-shaped. I also wanted to make it gender NEUTRAL and TRULY size inclusive. WHY is this not a thing?!?! I'm no whatsoever and have very little , so it's never coming from me. Here's my idea. SOMEONE TAKE IT, PLEASE! 😆 LOL!!

The store should be called and cater solely to pear-shaped bodies. I want (" ") and (" ") departments. BOTH should be TRULY size inclusive for EVERY piece of clothing → XXS-8X and XXShort-XXTall. BOTH sides of the store should offer clothes in all colors (e.g. you want Squares slacks in fuchsia and flowers printed boxers? DONE!)

Someone else should tackle the problem: Come up with a clever store name and stick with the Circles and Squares departments.

01/16/2025

While I recognize we are 2 weeks into January, I just happened upon this. For those who had a brutal 2024, I see you and YOU MADE IT. I'm proud of you, seriously. For those who had a 2024 which brought abundance and light, may more of that be coming your way and may you share that abundance freely.

For many people like me and my clients, 2025 brings GREAT risk politically and socially. Grow and nurture your communities and root down. We got this. ❤️‍🩹

12/10/2024

TL/DR:
USA healthcare is predatory. We have terrible outcomes yet spend millions more than other developed countries. It's hard to get affordable care.
EMPLOYERS: Stop preying on your staff by: a) denying new hires access to health coverage for X days. b) charging them thousands in monthly premiums to cover themselves and family. c) refusing flex time or PTO when they need to care for themselves or family. d) insulting them with inaccessibly priced Cobra. Stop complaining about turnover when you're hazing them in reaction to your inability to retain talent and manage your budget.
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The has the worst outcomes, high rates of preventable deaths, and low life expectancy despite spending more on than all developed countries.¹ We're the only industrialized nation without .² Read the news about CEO's assassination and the comments section on UHC's FB post when they announced his death. Even when we're covered, insurers often make it impossible to get prescribed care, and we're over it! Insurers are NOT physicians and have NO business dictating care!

Millions of have no coverage!³ You get it only if your job offers it, and it's usually only for FT staff. Other options are Health Insurance Marketplace plans OR being massively , , or and getting or . Medicare and Marketplace plans are pricey and often cover less than employer-sponsored plans.

Define massively poor? Before I do, let's be clear. HUD won't classify as , but IT IS. affects millions of people. Stats are limited since most don't seek or can't qualify for resources.⁴ ⁵

I was from Feb. 2015-Jan. 2016. My car and suitcases were my "closet" and all else was in storage. Thankfully, no one broke into my car! When I got my own bedroom in Jan. '16, I still couldn't split rent until Fall '16. I wasn't forced to pay nor kicked out at any point in time. In June '15, my deferment ended. I couldn't afford the payments. Instead of defaulting, a loved one helped me pay half of my monthly bill. MOST folks aren't NEARLY as lucky! I worked PT for $12/hr. I was a FT student and recently divorced. I applied for gov't aid in April '15. →Since I was Couch Surfing, I made TOO MUCH, was denied Medicaid and given (drum roll...) $16/mo in SNAP!←
Marketplace plans were too pricey. So In Fall '15, I was forced to stop taking my meds, after using the last refill I got before my divorce finalized. By Medicaid standards, I wasn't massively poor! THAT'S how difficult it is to qualify.

Predatory wages for the first 5 years of my career, SKYROCKETING inflation, healthcare costs, student loans, and car issues cause ongoing financial insecurity. Employers make getting and using benefits difficult due to: pricey premiums and deductibles for me and my family, refusing PTO or flex time when I have Dr. appts, limiting scope of care, or denying access to coverage for X days as a new hire.

Enough! We need Universal Coverage, like yesterday!
Nonprofits: Claiming to value social justice is a lie if you haze your staff! I don't use the word "haze" lightly. That's exactly what's happening. Staff have to "pay their dues" as new hires and often continue to suffer long after their probationary period ends.

¹https://tinyurl.com/589f9d2y
²https://tinyurl.com/5bnt7v9b
³https://tinyurl.com/2dchc7hr
⁴https://tinyurl.com/2ecvk263
⁵https://tinyurl.com/3527baxp

(CNN News) US spends most on health care but has worst health outcomes among high-income countries, new report finds | CNN. Associated research findings from the National Library of Medicine.

11/30/2024

You are safe with me. I also write WPATH/gender-affirming care letters.

11/30/2024

Stop placating your relatives!

11/10/2024

So. Good. to see my dear friends . It's been YEARS since I've been well enough to travel down here! 🥹😁

I got emotional a few times on the drive down here. Sooo grateful for my and endo excision almost daily, even though it's been 6.5 months now. When your life has been RIPPED from you for 4 years, everything is technicolored when your life is handed BACK to you.

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10/30/2024

It's frustrating sometimes when I try to explain this. People can get self-righteous, like asking them to reframe themselves more gently is offensive. 🧐🙄 People often don't think that the degree of positivity and wholeness of their self-care, self-concept, and self-worth affects anyone else. It does! Every time!

Do this work for YOURSELF primarily. ❤️‍🩹 Singling out a person or group of persons as your reason means that any time you are having a disenchanted moment with said person(s), your refusal to do the work is weaponized in your retaliation.

AND keep in mind that human beings NEVER do anything without a . 🫂 Everything you do and don't do, say and don't say, affects You AND Everyone around you, often in seemingly invisible ways - until you string it all together over time. That ripple effect can be composed of something nourishing and kind OR something depriving and mean. Let's 🚫 the illusion that this isn't true!

This is a thing. We also must clearly differentiate between finding inspiration in someone's example and competing with them. The latter will inevitably backfire!

10/26/2024

You are entitled to accommodations that fit your learning style and needs. We can have a laugh at the ridiculousness. I LOVE that student's resolve, creativity, sarcasm, and courage. AND if they went through the trouble of buying a typewriter and filming themselves using it, this is not the first time this student has been denied reasonable accommodations. Advocate for your needs! Seek support if you're being denied accommodations. Depending on the setting there are different processes to invoke your rights if they're being denied, so collaborate with someone knowledgeable who knows what the next steps are for your needs.

10/03/2024

I can't quite describe my thoughts and feelings currently. There's just so much about her story that resonates with me, although I definitely didn't/don't suffer to the degree that she still does.

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10/01/2024

There's so. much. about my life that I no longer take for granted. EVERY time I have coffee or tea, I'm reminded of a years long period of time, a very short time ago, when this little mug of heaven 😇 would at a minimum leave me bedridden for at least 3 days, if not put me in the hospital. I'm in the exact cafe, savoring the exact same drink, that put me into a flare last year that's BURNED into my memory.
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09/23/2024

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