Jessa Zimmerman Couples Counseling & Sex Therapy

09/07/2025

Ask An OB-GYN: What's The Proper Way To Clean My Vi*****rs and S*xy Toys? - Essence

In honor of Ma********on Awareness Month, Dr. Tosha Rogers gives us rules for keeping our s*x toys and vi*****rs squeaky clean.

09/07/2025

This The Week article explores the culture behind why women might not immediately register and fix their own discomfort during s*x. https://bit.ly/3kboE0P

09/06/2025

Concerned about s*x after a heart attack? Here is a brief piece discussing the topic:

https://bit.ly/2FTvHtT

09/06/2025

This is a question from my quiz, "How big a problem is my s*x life?" This one is a complicated question. Most people consider it a problem when they (or their partner) don't want s*x. The truth is there is more than one way to experience desire, and it's ok (and normal) to need to get in the mood. Still, differences in levels of libido are the biggest reason people start to feel tension and stress in their s*x life, and that's not a winning formula for ease and enjoyment.

How would you answer the question?
• Yes, one of us feels little to no desire.

• Yes, both of us feel little to no desire, and that’s a problem.
• No, we both want s*x.
• No, neither of us wants s*x, but we’re both totally fine with that.

You can take the quiz at https://www.s*xlifequiz.com/

09/06/2025

Wondering how you get stuck in a cycle of avoiding s*x? It's actually commonplace. Learn about how it happens and how to escape it in this free training. Register at https://bit.ly/3sukdzm

09/05/2025

When I talk to low desire partners, the most common thing they talk about is feeling guilty.

They feel really bad that their partner isn't happy in their s*x life. They love their partner, they want to meet their needs, and they wish they had more desire.

While it's possible for someone to be withholding and to not give a darn about their partner's well being, it's not usually the case. At least in an otherwise happy relationship.

If you've felt really bad about your lack of libido, that means you care about your partner. If you had a magic wand, you'd probably choose to want more s*x. But somehow that doesn't seem possible.

But it is. At least if you can change how you're thinking about some of this.

S*x drive doesn't work like we think it does. There are obstacles in the way (which you can move or address), and there are things we can add to make physical intimacy engaging for us. And we can shift our understanding of what the goal is, creating much more room for play and pleasure.

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09/05/2025

🎙️ New Podcast Alert! 🎙️

Are you ready to take your intimacy to the next level? Then you can't miss our latest episode of the Better S*x podcast, "The Transformative Ha***ob," featuring the insightful and candid Lee Jagger! 💕✨

Join me as I dive into a juicy conversation with Lee Jagger, a s*x coach who specializes in teaching women how to touch their male partners in ways they never imagined. Discover:
🔸 The powerful connection between touch and intimacy.
🔸 How to introduce playful and effective techniques into your love life.
🔸 Real-life stories of transformation and empowerment in the bedroom.

Whether you're looking to deepen your connection or learn practical tips, this episode is packed with knowledge and inspiration to help you create your best possible s*x life. 🌹

🎧 Tune in now on all major podcast platforms! Listen at https://www.betters*xpodcast.com/236

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09/05/2025

If you have more desire than your partner, you may know how much distress that can cause.

Feelings of rejection, disappointment, frustration, hopelessness.

You may have tried talking about it, doing more around the house, planning more dates, asking your partner what they'd like.

And maybe it even gets better for a little while when the two of you "try harder."

But it doesn't last.

I know the pain that desire discrepancy can cause. I help couples with this all the time! There are typical ways this plays out, typical ways people get stuck, and typical ways this eats away at a relationship over time.

If you're the higher desire partner in your relationship, you'll want to tune in to my secret podcast, just for you! It'll help you understand what's happening and what you can do to actually get your partner on board to fix this thing!

https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

09/05/2025

7 S*x Pillows, Benches, and Cushions to Try Now https://bit.ly/3H01WBQ

09/04/2025

So your partner wants more intimacy? And it's causing some tension, worry, friction, conflict, or concern in your relationship?

My new secret podcast is for you, the "lower desire partner." 6 episodes, about an hour in total, to learn why it feels so hard, what's getting in your way, and what to do about it!

Get access at https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast

09/04/2025

✨ Episode Alert! ✨

Is there hope for your s*x life? 💬 This week on the Better S*x Podcast, s*x therapist Jess Zimmerman dives deep into one of the most vulnerable questions couples face. Whether you’re feeling stuck, struggling with desire, or just want to reconnect, this episode is for you!

🎧 Highlights:
• Why hope matters in your intimate life
• The power of communication & teamwork
• Understanding proactive vs. reactive desire
• Tips for redefining what s*x means for you
• A special quiz to help you find your path forward

Ready to rediscover joy and connection? Listen now at https://intimacywithease.com/320 ! OR use link in bio.

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09/04/2025

The former director of health for the NYC Department of Education covers, with bullet points, what parents need to inform a 5 year old about s*x. https://bit.ly/2OXgeKl