Jessa Zimmerman Couples Counseling & Sex Therapy

05/16/2026

Have you thought that you shouldn't struggle with s*x because the rest of your relationship works so well?

You're not alone. People in wonderful, loving, committed relationships struggle in the bedroom. Because s*x is complicated! So many things can make it more difficult. There are so many things that can get in the way. It's not a sign of something being horribly wrong if this part of your relationship is what's difficult. And believing that actually hurts you - because we're stuck if we just feel broken. Instead, if you realize that lots of people struggle, even the best couples, then there are steps to take, things you can do about it. It's just something to address, not something to panic about.

Have you believed that s*x shouldn't be a problem if you're with the right person? Have you been baffled how the two of you can work so well in so many ways but somehow can't make it fun and easy in the bedroom?

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05/16/2026

Do you have less interest in s*x than your partner? Do you worry they aren't getting what they need? Are you missing intimacy in your relationship?
Or do you struggle to want s*x and feel bad about it?

Or maybe you're the person with more interest, and you feel rejected when your partner isn't interested. You don't want to push, but you also don't want to settle for a life without s*xual intimacy with your partner. You hate that s*x feels like an obligation, and you can tell your partner is just checking a box.

Is a lack of s*x and intimacy taking a toll on your relationship?

Have you tried talking about it without success? Or struggled to know how to talk about it without making things worse?

This free webinar is for all of you who want a different amount of s*x than your partner and who haven’t been able to navigate this with them without creating more pressure, bad feelings, and strain on the relationship.

I’ll be talking about:

• the 3 biggest mistakes you’re probably making that make things worse
• what it takes to make s*x engaging for both of you
• how to create a s*x life that has zero stress

Register at https://www.intimacywithease.com/masterclass

05/16/2026

You can give your kids the gift of ease and comfort around s*x by how you raise them as kids - what you teach them about their body, how you model affection in your relationship, and how you talk about s*x as they grow up.

Many of my clients talk about how s*x was a taboo subject in their home. Or they'll talk about the lack of affection between their parents. Or they talk about the explicitly negative messages they got about s*x when they were growing up. A lot of this has gotten in the way of their own s*xual relationship as an adult.

I know you'd like to do right by your kids. I know you want the very best life for them that they can have. I know you want them to have fulfilling relationships as an adult. And I hope you want that to include a healthy view and and experience of s*x with their partner someday.

If your own stuff is in your way of setting a good example for your kids, if you haven't dealt with the negativity around s*x you got from your parents, if you're struggling in your s*x life and want to model something different for you kids, then do the work to create easy intimacy in your relationship. Believe me, it will benefit the kids, even if they don't understand what's going on.

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05/15/2026

S*xless marriage. Considered to be any monogamous relationship in which people have s*x 10 times per year or less. This is a view into how that happens for some people. Sometimes people can live happily without s*x, but many others are suffering.

https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5ade7950e4b0b2e8113287ab/amp?ncid=tweetlnkushpmg00000067&__twitter_impression=true

05/15/2026

This is a question from my quiz, "How big a problem is my s*x life?" Having s*x for your partner can be okay once in a while, but if you're frequently having s*x out of a sense of obligation (instead of actual desire for s*x), it can quickly feel like a chore. This isn't satisfying for either of you.

How would you answer this question?
• It always feels like an obligation (I’m doing it for them or they’re doing it for me)
• It frequently seems like s*x is only happening because we “should” or because we need to
• Every once in a while it feels like a chore or obligation
• It never feels that way; it’s clear when we have s*x we both want it
• Because we are happy in relationship even without s*x, obligation doesn’t come up.

You can take the quiz at https://www.s*xlifequiz.com/

05/15/2026

The conveniece of ordering your s*x toys from home! Best Amazon S*x Toys Online 2018: Vi*****rs & Di**os https://www.refinery29.com/amp/en-us/best-amazon-prime-s*x-toys

05/14/2026

Desire discrepancy is universal. As differences in desire cause tension or stress, the focus can become how often you're being intimate (or not!). But that focus on frequency doesn't help you in the long run.

A truly engaging intimate life means that both people want it, enjoy it, have a reason to participate. It can't just be about getting it done or meeting a quota. People often overlook (or don't know) the ways to help the "lower desire" person actually access their desire.

If you've been the "higher desire" person in your relationship and you want to learn the ways you're likely making things worse and making it harder for your partner to want this (or even want to talk about it), you'll want to listen to my secret podcast, just for higher desire partners.

https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast

05/14/2026

This study shows some correlation between s*xual satisfaction and the distribution of household duties. Maybe volunteer to do the dishes from now on?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/201804/are-you-egalitarian-couple

05/14/2026

Discover the hidden impact of being "easygoing" on your relationship. 🎙️ Dive into Better S*x Podcast's latest episode as Jessa Zimmerman explores how it might burden your partner and tips to balance your desires. 🎧 Listen now: https://intimacywithease.com/390 *xPodcast

390: [Soapbox] Easygoing; hard to live with May 14, 2026 | Latest Episodes, podcast, Soapbox Episodes Click to Listen on Substack S*x therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains how being “easygoing” or people-pleasing—rarely stating preferences and letting a partner decide—can create a hidden burden...

05/13/2026

"American adolescents watch much more po*******hy than their parents know — and it’s shaping their ideas about pleasure, power and intimacy. Can they be taught to see it more critically?"

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/07/magazine/teenagers-learning-online-porn-literacy-s*x-education.html?mtrref=www.google.com

05/13/2026

🌟 Dive into the depths of s*xual freedom and human rights on the latest episode of Better S*x! Join host Jessa Zimmerman as she chats with Mandy Salley from the Woodhull Foundation about advocating for bodily autonomy and how you can make a difference. Tune in and get inspired! Listen at https://intimacywithease.com/369 🎧 *xPodcast *xualFreedom