ShafaZand Talk Therapy

09/04/2025

09/04/2025

09/04/2025

Approval is nice when we get it, but it’s not connection……and without meaningful connection, approval becomes addicting….it feels good for a while but is never enough to fill the void of a lack of connection. Connection is not a concept, it’s the felt emotional experience (warmth, safety, at ease, love, calm, etc) that one experiences when they are being heard, understood, and validated. Humans need to get it and give it to feel whole. ❤️

09/04/2025

i’ve mentioned this before
give your kids a choice when both choices are whwt you want them to do

5463 likes, 146 comments. “Giving two quick choices does a few important things… - Limits our demands - Gives them freedom - Helps us remain in control Don’t overuse this strategy though or else they’ll become fatigued and will show you frustration.”

08/31/2025

interesting
i didnt thing of it this way mhowever for some if night time was upsetting
night time may bring stress and depression
it depends for each individual may be different

Sometimes, what looks like a 'bad habit' is actually a love letter to your own survival. 🌙✨
For many who grew up in chaos, the quiet of late-night hours became a sacred refuge—a time when the world finally felt safe enough to breathe.

Staying up late wasn’t laziness; it was reclaiming a moment of peace, a tiny slice of control in an unpredictable life. Healing starts with understanding these patterns, offering yourself compassion, and slowly learning new ways to find that same calm in the light of day.

08/31/2025

Fear centers us in the starring role of a small, self-centered story and blocks our caregiving system that sees the bigger story of the relationship dynamics.

08/31/2025

Both ADHD and Auteim are found to be genetic
this doesn’t mean added truama or external factor so not make symptoms worse
it just means that there is a suciptiblility gene

08/31/2025

like these videos
except i woile and that’s just me replace the words in reality with what happens with me is——
just refer to your experience!!!
it’s your reality your experience

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/179iF9MoJ7/?mibextid=wwXIfr

08/29/2025

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/15MkFoascK5/?mibextid=wwXIfr

A powerful reminder from Dr. Sue Johnson: Our need for closeness and nurturing doesn't disappear in adulthood. It's a fundamental part of a secure, lasting love.

Read more about Dr. Johnson and her work on our legacy website: https://loom.ly/3GJ2NE4

08/29/2025

love this
❤️❤️