One Problem to Solve; A Revolution in Relationship

03/06/2025

Why Isn’t This Map in the History Books?
By the age of 10, most children in the United States have been taught all 50 states that make up the country. But centuries ago, the land that is now the United States was a very different place. Over 20 million Native Americans dispersed across over 1,000 distinct tribes, bands, and ethnic groups populated the territory.
History is not there for you to like or dislike. It is there for you to learn from it. And if it offends you, even better. Because then you are less likely to repeat it. It’s not yours for you to erase or destroy.

11/14/2024

Written for an imaginary couple client of mine who love each other but are still struggling with intimacy...

Love….

There is nothing about it that requires compromise.

At this moment, when both of you are struggling to feel trust, any felt or spoken sense of “what about me?” will be read as a withdrawal from the attunement to and affirmation of that love requires, builds on, and grows into the trust we all need to thrive.

Fear wants safety. When it arises, what we want is a wordless felt connection.

Our lifelong task is to hold each other, not tug, but provide a steady place of rest and support daily.

Let’s practice that no less than one time per day for no less than 30.

Hold each other until you can feel your body relax. Do not pull toward or push away. Stand on your own feet and breathe together. When you feel your body relax, breathe into that relaxation, feel it, and expand into it. Slow goes further.

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10/25/2024

Young folk are going to Win this election for the democracy loving
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10/24/2024

“Folks VP Harris is winning this race. She is winning nationally. She is winning in the swing states. And, she is winning in the early voting. Channel your anxiety and nervousness into “”Doing Something,”” into work to finish strong. If work is done, she wins!!!”

This was Bush's chief political strategist. Later ran for Lt Gov in Tex as a D”

In the comments I’m posting a link to volunteer for a Harris phonebank. Work u can do in your PJ’s from your home. “Just Do It!!” Sign up to call PA

10/08/2024

In the flood of disinformation, I felt it important to share this from North Carolina's North Country Public Radio:

Former President Donald Trump has made several claims about FEMA's disaster response. NPR has fact-checked them ahead of Hurricane Milton. And, how you can turn climate anxiety into collective action.

09/29/2024

Trump believes with all his twisted narcissistic heart that he is never wrong.

When he feels threat, his personality disorder, says f**k that. In survival mode he then projects anger, fear, shame and blame out onto undeserving others.

He was pickled in this insecure strategy by his father, mother, Roy Cohn, and other weak ass kissers who are also insecurely attached people.

Every human on the planet needs to feel safe. Trump is no different. He does with full blown maladaptive, feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

Make no mistake about it, Kamala is the most powerful threat DJT has ever encountered. Ever encountered!!!

Vote Blue 💙💙💙 Up & Down the Ticket

09/28/2024

Well worth the watch, but I do not believe we are "irrevocably" divided. Some think we are, I am not ready to "give-up."

Available on Digital Everywhere September 3rd, 2024Directed by Dan PartlandFeaturing Anthony Scaramucci, Peter Strzok, George Conway, Malcolm Nance, Joe Wals...

09/28/2024

After 15 years of EFT Couples therapy, I pulled together my ABCs of Creating Healthy Relationships. Taught this during my Hold Me Tight Seattle couples workshops. Kudos to Michael R. Sorenson, for the basics of this wonderful communication tool. A very powerful addition to Emotionally Focused Therapy. Must honor the caveat!

09/28/2024

Gosh...I still love my banner photo which I took during our 4 month sabbatical Van tour at Thor's Well on the Oregon Coast. Met the best real conservative I've ever met there. He was the city manager of a mid-sized town south of Portland. Greg Munn, I think. We had bourbon with him. D and I are definitely going on another CharlieVan tour when our life settles down next year. I fuking guarantee it!