Coffman 405 Counseling

Coffman 405 Counseling Shelley Coffman LPC-Supervisor. Youth & Adults seen w/ private pay, United, Health Choice, BCBS , Aetna, and Healthcare Highways.

I'm trained in TF-CBT & EMDR treating PTSD. Aside from trauma work, my niche is anxiety disorders.

Profound work that came from the darkest of tragedy
10/31/2025

Profound work that came from the darkest of tragedy

In the death camp, they gave him a number: 119104.
But the thing they tried hardest to kill became the very thing that saved millions.
1942. Vienna.
Viktor Frankl was 37 years old, a respected psychiatrist with a growing practice, a manuscript nearly complete, and a wife named Tilly whose laugh could fill a room.
He had a chance to escape to America. A visa. A way out.
But his elderly parents couldn't come with him. So he stayed.
Within months, the N***s came for them all.
Theresienstadt. Then Auschwitz. Then Dachau.
The manuscript he'd spent years writing—sewn carefully into the lining of his coat—was torn away within hours of arrival.
His life's work. His purpose. Reduced to ash.
His clothes were taken. His hair shaved. His name erased.
On the intake form, there was only a number: 119104.
But here's what the guards didn't understand:
You can take a man's manuscript. You can take his name. You can take everything he owns.
But you cannot take what he knows.
And Viktor Frankl knew something about the human mind that would keep him alive—and give birth to a revolution in psychology.
He noticed a pattern.
In the camps, men didn't just die from starvation or disease.
They died from giving up.
The moment a prisoner lost his reason to survive—his why—his body would collapse within days. The doctors had a term for it: "give-up-itis."
But the men who held onto something—a wife to find, a child to see again, a book to write, a debt to repay, a promise to keep—they endured unthinkable suffering.
The difference wasn't physical strength.
It was meaning.
So Frankl began an experiment.
Not in a laboratory. In the barracks.
He would approach men on the edge of despair and whisper:
"Who is waiting for you?"
"What work is left unfinished?"
"What would you tell your son about surviving this?"
He couldn't offer food. He couldn't promise freedom. He had nothing material to give.
But he offered something the guards could never confiscate: a reason to see tomorrow.
One man remembered his daughter. He survived to find her.
Another remembered a scientific problem he'd been working on. He survived to solve it.
Frankl himself survived by mentally reconstructing his lost manuscript—page by page, paragraph by paragraph, in the darkness of the barracks.
April 1945. Liberation.
Viktor Frankl weighed 85 pounds. His ribs showed through his skin.
Tilly was gone. His mother—gone. His brother—gone.
Everything he'd loved had been murdered.
He had every reason to despair. Every reason to give up.
Instead, he sat down and began writing.
Nine days.
That's how long it took him to recreate his manuscript from memory—the one the N***s had destroyed three years earlier.
But now it contained something the original didn't:
Proof.
Living, breathing, undeniable proof that his theory was true.
He called it Logotherapy—therapy through meaning.
The foundation was simple but revolutionary:
Humans can survive almost anything if they have a reason why.
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how." (He borrowed the words from Nietzsche, but he had proven them in hell.)
1946. The book is published.
In German, the title was "...trotzdem Ja zum Leben sagen"—"...Nevertheless Say Yes to Life."
In English, it became "Man's Search for Meaning."
The world wasn't ready for it. Publishers initially rejected it. "Too morbid," they said. "Who wants to read about concentration camps?"
But slowly, quietly, it began to spread.
Therapists read it and wept.
Prisoners read it and found hope.
People facing divorce, disease, bankruptcy, depression—they read it and discovered that their suffering could have purpose.
The impact was seismic.
The book has now been translated into over 50 languages.
It's sold more than 16 million copies.
The Library of Congress named it one of the ten most influential books in America.
But here's what matters more than sales numbers:
Countless people—people whose names we'll never know—have picked up this book in their darkest moment and found a reason to keep going.
Because Viktor Frankl proved something the N***s tried to disprove:
You can strip away everything from a human being—freedom, family, food, future, hope—and there will still be one final freedom remaining:
The freedom to choose what it all means.
You cannot control what happens to you.
But you can always control what you make of what happens to you.

Today, Viktor Frankl is gone.
But in hospital rooms, in therapy offices, in prisons, in quiet moments when someone is deciding whether to give up or keep going—his words are still there:
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves."
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances."
The N***s gave him a number.
History gave him immortality.
Because the man who lost everything taught the world that meaning is the one thing no one can ever take away.
Prisoner 119104 didn't just survive.
He turned suffering itself into a source of healing.
And somewhere tonight, someone who's barely holding on will read his words and decide to hold on one more day.
That's not just survival.
That's victory over death itself.

10/29/2025

You are strong for:
💙 Embracing vulnerability
💙 Being honest about your emotions
💙 Talking about your mental health

I have a couple of openings for times earlier than 2pm.
09/22/2025

I have a couple of openings for times earlier than 2pm.

Current openings for Oklahoma LPC clinical supervision are available. I had a wonderful experience in supervision and I ...
09/20/2025

Current openings for Oklahoma LPC clinical supervision are available. I had a wonderful experience in supervision and I would love to pass that kind of experience along to future therapists.

Important resource. Please share the number when you see others struggling.
09/09/2025

Important resource. Please share the number when you see others struggling.

Today is and we're joining voices across the country to spotlight the 988 Su***de & Crisis Lifeline -- a free, 24/7, confidential resource for anyone experiencing emotional distress, a mental health or substance use crisis, or even just needing someone to talk to.

The Action Alliance Secretariat (and a few furry and scenic friends 🐾🌄) is showing support for 988 -- compassionate help for everyone, anytime, anywhere.

📞 Call or text 988, or chat at 988lifeline.org

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A book worth reading.
09/05/2025

A book worth reading.

If you are ready to make changes, therapy can help.
08/04/2025

If you are ready to make changes, therapy can help.

07/08/2025

Currently, I have a few openings. Those generally fill up quickly once school starts. There is another clinician in my office who also sees clients in person and via telehealth who also has availability.

Shelley Coffman LPC-Supervisor. Youth & Adults seen w/ private pay, United, Health Choice, BCBS , Aetna, and Healthcare Highways. I'm trained in TF-CBT & EMDR treating PTSD. Aside from trauma work, my niche is anxiety disorders.

Wow. Words I can use about persistence. Once in a while, a client quits coming very early in therapy. The progress happe...
06/04/2025

Wow. Words I can use about persistence. Once in a while, a client quits coming very early in therapy. The progress happens when we consistently show up and do the work. It can be challenging.....but I've also seen it be life changing.

⏩️ Most people try to change their life with one big effort—one intense workout, one long night of grinding, one burst of motivation. But that’s not how real progress works.

It’s not what you do once that shapes you. It’s what you do every day. Small actions, repeated with discipline, compound into massive change.

The gym session doesn’t matter if you never go back. The business plan is worthless if you don’t follow through. One drop seems like nothing—until years later, it carves stone.

Consistency isn’t flashy. It’s quiet. It’s boring. And it’s exactly why it works.

Keep showing up. Keep dropping water. Because eventually, you’ll look back and realize—you didn’t just move the rock. You shaped it.💧🪨

06/02/2025

Stop scrolling and reset: Roll your shoulders back, relax your jaw, and take five deep breaths using 4-4-4 breathing (breathe in for four seconds, hold the breath for four seconds, breathe out for four seconds).

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