Coffman 405 Counseling

09/09/2025

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09/05/2025

A book worth reading.

08/04/2025

If you are ready to make changes, therapy can help.

07/08/2025

Currently, I have a few openings. Those generally fill up quickly once school starts. There is another clinician in my office who also sees clients in person and via telehealth who also has availability.

Shelley Coffman LPC-Supervisor. Youth & Adults seen w/ private pay, United, Health Choice, BCBS , Aetna, and Healthcare Highways. I'm trained in TF-CBT & EMDR treating PTSD. Aside from trauma work, my niche is anxiety disorders.

06/04/2025

Wow. Words I can use about persistence. Once in a while, a client quits coming very early in therapy. The progress happens when we consistently show up and do the work. It can be challenging.....but I've also seen it be life changing.

⏩️ Most people try to change their life with one big effort—one intense workout, one long night of grinding, one burst of motivation. But that’s not how real progress works.

It’s not what you do once that shapes you. It’s what you do every day. Small actions, repeated with discipline, compound into massive change.

The gym session doesn’t matter if you never go back. The business plan is worthless if you don’t follow through. One drop seems like nothing—until years later, it carves stone.

Consistency isn’t flashy. It’s quiet. It’s boring. And it’s exactly why it works.

Keep showing up. Keep dropping water. Because eventually, you’ll look back and realize—you didn’t just move the rock. You shaped it.💧🪨

06/02/2025

Stop scrolling and reset: Roll your shoulders back, relax your jaw, and take five deep breaths using 4-4-4 breathing (breathe in for four seconds, hold the breath for four seconds, breathe out for four seconds).

If you want to take even more steps toward prioritizing your mental health, check out our Mindful Moments Checklist: https://bit.ly/4jZkJAO

04/08/2025

A good description of ADHD.

Here’s everything you need to know about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in children. Get the transcript at https://www.understood.org/en/art...

03/31/2025

03/21/2025

The life you will be living 3-5 years from now will be built on the choices, actions and habits you build today.

03/12/2025

Pretty good advice

A general approach to self-improvement, exploration & understanding is what eventually tilted the domino's into my becoming a therapist.

03/08/2025

Inside the Mind of Social Anxiety:

Imagine stepping into a crowded room, your heart hammering so hard it drowns out the voices around you. Your palms are damp, your throat tight. You scan the room, hoping—praying—that no one is looking at you. But at the same time, a small voice in the back of your mind whispers, They’re all watching. They see how awkward you are. Any second now, you’ll do something embarrassing.

This is what social anxiety feels like.
The Weight of Constant Fear

Social anxiety isn’t just nervousness before a big presentation or a little shyness around strangers—it’s a constant, suffocating fear of judgment. It’s the over analyzing of every conversation, replaying your words over and over, searching for mistakes. It’s avoiding eye contact because it feels too intense, too exposing, like people can see straight through to your deepest insecurities.

It’s hesitating before speaking, questioning whether your words are stupid. It’s avoiding phone calls, skipping events, and declining invitations, not because you don’t want to go, but because the thought of being there—of being seen—is paralyzing.
Breaking the Cycle: How CBT Can Help

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a lifeline for many trapped in the cycle of social anxiety. It’s like turning on a light in a room you’ve always known in darkness.

Challenging Negative Thoughts – CBT teaches you to identify and question the cruel inner voice that insists everyone is judging you. It helps you ask, What if I’m wrong? What if they aren’t thinking about me at all?

Gradual Exposure – Instead of avoiding social situations, CBT encourages you to face them, step by step. It’s not about diving into your worst fear all at once—it’s about learning that discomfort doesn’t mean danger.

Behavioral Experiments – Testing your fears in real life. What happens if you stumble over your words? What happens if you don’t say the perfect thing? More often than not, the answer is—nothing. People move on. They don’t judge you nearly as harshly as you judge yourself.

Building Confidence – Through practice, CBT helps you rewrite the story of social anxiety. Instead of “I’ll embarrass myself,” the new story becomes, I might feel uncomfortable, but I can handle it.

Hope Beyond the Fear

Social anxiety can feel like a life sentence, but it isn’t. It’s possible to step out of the shadows, to speak without fear, to exist in a space without feeling like you need to shrink. It takes time, effort, and patience—but change is possible.

If this feels familiar, know that you’re not alone. Help is out there. And you are so much more than your fear.

02/25/2024

Sometimes I have people ask me about things that are outside my scope of practice. Like, full psychological exams for autism and ADHD, also comprehensive behavioral interventions for very young children as examples. Check out the following practice:

We offer assessment and treatment services for children ages 2-18. Areas of specialization include Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD.