04/27/2026
Join Kelly for self care in the garden this Friday. 🌱
Full Moon Sound Healing, May 1 at 7pm
I want to take a moment to talk about self care. Its different for everyone but for me it’s about not self abandoning. As a people pleaser in recovery, it is about making choices that show myself that I’m not going to abandon my authentic self or sacrifice her. Choices that honor her safety. It is not easy. And I don’t always trust myself. But each time I choose to honor what is healthiest for me, I build trust and I disrupt an old pattern. It doesn’t always feel good. Sometimes the heartbreak feels so painful I cant stand it. And I want to run from it. Then I have to remind myself to hold space for myself the same way that I hold space for others. I have to remind myself to feel my feelings rather than run from them. I encourage myself to do the hard thing and call a friend for support even when I feel shame. Because the most accessible antidote to shame for me is often to call a trusted friend and share what I am embarrassed to share. They hold non-judgmental space for me. They love me regardless. They talk me through it. Not with advice but with words that lead me to honor my inner wisdom. And then the grip loosens just a bit. Just enough to create a bit more emotional safety for me to make the next good decision- even if that next good decision is to just drink some water or go for a walk.
The inner work is never done. At times we may think we are past xyz because maybe we have been on a different, more healed, path for years. And then something happens to trigger it again. Sometimes out of the blue like an ambush. And then the inner critic and self judge arises. The brain was wired long ago and it’s easy to trigger an old wiring no matter how much work you have done. But as I am reminded, it’s never about falling. It’s about creating more nervous system capacity so you’re more resilient. It’s about how you show yourself love by getting back up. And it’s about how you hold space for yourself and how open you are to reaching out for the support you need. We can’t go it alone. We are tribal. It’s part of our DNA.
As my mentor often says to us, “…and so we begin again…”