Nicolee Hiltz PhD

10/21/2025

10/13/2025

Some people think being close means losing yourself.
Others think being independent means doing it alone.
But the healthiest relationships know this secret:

We don’t have to choose between autonomy and intimacy.
We just have to learn how to hold both gently, intentionally, and with care.

📘 Tiny Shifts is available now.

07/11/2025

Please help us learn more to support the wellbeing of adoptees and others in the adoption kinship network by completing this brief survey.

🧠 Mental health care must meet families where they are—and that includes adoption, foster, and kinship care experiences.

We are inviting everyone personally connected to adoption—adopted individuals, adoptive and birth/first parents and grandparents, and siblings—to complete a 15-minute anonymous survey. Your voice will help shape the future of adoption-competent mental health services.

Whether you’ve sought therapy, supported a loved one through care, or simply want to ensure families like yours have access to qualified, compassionate clinicians, your perspective matters deeply. The survey is open through Tuesday, July 15, 2025, and your input will directly inform our programs, training initiatives, and advocacy work.

Take the survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/AdoptionCommunitySurvey2025

06/04/2025

🧠 Mental health care must meet families where they are—and that includes adoption, foster, and kinship care experiences.

We are inviting everyone personally connected to adoption—adopted individuals, adoptive and birth/first parents and grandparents, and siblings—to complete a 15-minute anonymous survey. Your voice will help shape the future of adoption-competent mental health services.

Whether you’ve sought therapy, supported a loved one through care, or simply want to ensure families like yours have access to qualified, compassionate clinicians, your perspective matters deeply. The survey is open through Tuesday, July 15, 2025, and your input will directly inform our programs, training initiatives, and advocacy work.

Take the survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/AdoptionCommunitySurvey2025

03/02/2025

09/29/2023

“Our personalities are no more than the familiar, conditioned parts of a much wider range of potentials that we all possess. Beyond the limitations of our personalities, each of us exists as a vast, largely unrecognized quality of Being or Presence—what is called our Essence. In spiritual language we could say that within each person is an individual spark of the Divine, although we have forgotten this fundamental truth because we have fallen asleep to our true nature.” ~ The Wisdom of the Enneagram 🔹💠🔹

09/28/2023

“Your story will become richer and more meaningful as you understand yourself more deeply.” Join us October 24, 6:30-8:30 for a virtual gathering of Enneagram enthusiasts. We will have a presence practice a teaching and an opportunity to meet others in the northeast. We can’t wait to meet you! LINK IN BIO. 🔹💠🔹

08/25/2023

I've just completed this excellent course. I'm sure that I will incorporate what I've learned in my life and work. I'd encourage any mental health professional to study and earn your CE with Dr. Malchiodi and Dr. Warson at Trauma-Informed Practices and Expressive Arts Therapy Institute.

Healing Trauma and Grief through Nature-- a five session live webinar series for professionals, practitioners, and public to experience and learn practices combining expressive and somatosensory approaches centralizing nature as a restorative element.

08/14/2023

Do you sometimes feel silenced or afraid to speak up? Learn to use your natural voice and be heard for who you really are

08/14/2023

From the The Regulated Classroom, some ideas about co-regulation: