11/16/2025
Wounds raise our relationships/kids until we heal. Ever wonder why our deepest wounding impacts our dating, love, friendships, children etc?
Until we face the parts in us that need healing, they will find a way to take over our decisions. Once they feel safe, we get our power back.
Therapy works, parts therapy/IFS is a non-shaming ways to work to heal the wounded parts in us that misguide us into more pain....not demonic.... but tragically wounded.
Let's love our parts into the Light and into healing. If anyone needs help to do this, Darby Integrative Counseling is here.
It sounds harsh — and it is.
Because this work isn’t gentle. It asks you to look at the parts of yourself you’d rather ignore.
The anger that comes too quickly.
The control that shows up when fear creeps in.
The silence you learned to survive with.
The wounds you carry from when you were small.
And if you don’t face them — not blame them, not hate them, but face them — they don’t disappear.
They simply pass down, shape the tone of your voice, guide your reactions, become the lens through which you see your child.
Your child doesn’t just inherit your smile.
They inherit your patterns.
Your fears.
Your unfinished business.
That’s why this work matters so much.
Not to be perfect. Not to “fix” yourself.
But to pause long enough to ask: Is this mine? Or am I about to hand it to them, too?
Because when you dare to meet your pain with honesty, your child gets something different...
They get a parent who chooses awareness over autopilot.
A home where emotions are felt, not feared.
A legacy that doesn’t pass on the hurt unexamined.
So no — we don’t have to be flawless.
But we do have to be brave.
Because the things we avoid...
They don’t vanish.
They just get handed down.
And our children deserve better than that.
They deserve us. Whole, aware, evolving.
One conscious choice at a time. ❤️
