05/09/2025
Something that’s been weighing heavily on my heart. This feeling of being needed, and wanting to belong. Every time I’ve felt unwanted, I’ve tried to make myself indispensable.
I started thinking about how often I’ve responded to silence by offering more, or to distance by trying to be useful, needed, irreplaceable. Or trying to rescue others even when they never asked for help.
At work, I’ve taken on extra tasks just to prove I belonged. In friendships, I’ve overextended myself to feel valued. In love, I’ve tolerated confusion and mixed signals, hoping that if I gave enough, they’d choose me back. I thought that if I became essential, I wouldn’t be left behind.
Can you relate to that too?
The truth is, I fear being rejected or forgotten. It’s exhausting to feel like love, attention, or respect has to be earned over and over again.
Now, I’m learning to sit with the discomfort of feeling unwanted without rushing to fix it. I’m learning that my worth does not increase just because I do more. I do not need to perform to be loved. My presence is enough. I am enough—even when I am not being needed.
