DeLynn M. Jacobsen, LMFT, CATC

04/29/2024

My name is DeLynn Jacobsen. I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist & Addiction Treatment Counselor in private practice in the Santa Ynez Valley and I specialize in treatment for & healing from narcissistic abuse, among other things.

I’m offering a free (introductory) 5-week group for women who are struggling with or affected by narcissistic abuse via family members.

If you’re interested in attending, please email some brief info to me at bewell@delynnjacobsen.com. I’ll be selecting 5 women for attendance.

When: Wednesdays
Dates: 6/19/24 through 7/17/24
Time: 6pm-7:30pm
Where: 385 Alisal Road, Unit B, Solvang

*Group rules & confidentiality requirements will be provided for signature prior to the first group.

Be well. ❤️

11/27/2023

Acclaimed psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of “The Body Keeps The Score,” discusses the widespread existence of trauma and how it settles in our bodies.

11/27/2023

Thanks to Our Mama Village ❤️

08/01/2023

Thank you The Therapist Parent for this reminder.

"There is so much more to behaviour than most people think. Children don’t try to upset us, there is usually something behind it. They are communicating their need through behaviour. If we look behind the behaviour we can see a child who is doing the best they can."
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08/01/2023

07/29/2023

Via Living FULL ❤️

06/14/2023

The biggest...

02/02/2023

Your words sow the seeds of their inner voice

02/02/2023

Mindfulness is the practice of attuning our attention to the present moment. When we are grounded in our current space, we can become more aware of our bodies and emotions. When we are mindful of the present, we can practice well-being. Sometimes mindfulness is achieved through movement and sometimes through healing touch. How do you practice mindfulness; how do you experience awareness of your body, mind, and emotional being? Consider sharing your mindful practice in the comments below. 🌞

01/24/2023

Trauma impairs our ability to experience the present moment. It impairs our ability to find joy, confidence, and our creative nature. When we find a way to heal, we regain our ability to imagine a better world for all. How has healing made space for creation in your present? Share in the comments below. 🌞

09/05/2020

09/04/2020

KNOW THE SIGNS!!

“Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes such as low self-esteem. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction, and misinformation, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs. Instances can range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents occurred to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.”

An example of gaslighting someone is demeaning him then saying “it was a joke” when the victim gets upset. 😢

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse and it’s effects are chronic and traumatic.

05/21/2020

I love Erickson’s 8 Stages! Successful completion of these stages is paramount for self-esteem, confidence, relationships, emotional regulation and understanding one’s value.

But get this, if we didn’t get it done in childhood we can have a redo!! As adults we can go back and complete those stages - hopefully with a therapist.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html

Erikson maintained that personality develops in a predetermined order through eight stages of psychosocial development, from infancy to adulthood. During each stage, the person experiences a psychosocial crisis which could have a positive or negative outcome for personality development.

04/06/2020

https://www.delynnjacobsen.com/post/manage-your-blog-from-your-live-site

The Pygmalion effect, named for a Greek sculptor who fell in love with his statue (see also Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady), is the phenomenon of others' expectations that influence one's performance. The effect is so powerful that Robert Rosenthal and Lenore Jacobsen (1968) (no relation) actually pr...

11/08/2019

Especially today...
Seek validation, comfort and love from life-giving people ❤️
🙏🏻 11/8/2018

And again tomorrow....