The Truth About Anxiety

07/22/2024

When we think about people pleasing, it generally has a negative connotation but I disagree ~ to a point. When you people please, you care about the welfare of others. You make the needs of others important. You are willing to adjust yourself and even appease others, if necessary.

07/21/2024

𝘼𝙣𝙭𝙞𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙜𝙞𝙛𝙩; 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙨 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙣 𝙞𝙢𝙗𝙖𝙡𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚⁣

When you can’t have honest conversations about tough issues with respect and dignity, relationships are out of balance.

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07/19/2024

𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻⁣
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The way we approach anxiety leaves us feeling more anxiety, not less. ⁣
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In an effort to build a space for us to have more meaningful and rich conversations, I’ve decided to move this page to Substack. ⁣
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Slowly, I will shut down this FB group page and work exclusively from there. ⁣
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07/19/2024

My client was struggling with anxiety in her relationship. They argued a lot and she was exhausted.⁣
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They would have misunderstandings and when she tried to explain her point of view, he would quickly shut her down, argue his points, or try to "help" her understand.⁣
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It felt useless.⁣
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The more she tried to speak up, the more he shut her down. The more she stayed quiet, the easier it became.⁣
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The problem with that was over time, she started to resent him, and even bordered on hating him. Her anxiety was getting worse.⁣
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To make matters worse, instead of him realizing there was a problem, he took her silence to mean she was finally seeing things his way.⁣
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When she eventually had enough and did speak up, it usually came out messy and confusing, to which he stated she was being too sensitive or disrespectful toward him.⁣
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No matter what she did, it didn't work. She felt increasingly more invisible in this one-man show.⁣
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Though he wasn't listening to her silence, she started to listen and with that, found her voice.

07/12/2024

A client recently shared, after getting off the phone with her boss, she immediately felt small.⁣
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Her boss's tone was fast, words were sharp, and her instructions confusing. One minute "do this", the next "do that".⁣
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Talking in circles, my client could sense her boss's growing impatience. She felt smaller and smaller, like an anxious child being reprimanded.⁣
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As she recounted this story to me, she moved from feeling small to pi**ed off to wanting to quit.⁣
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Thankfully, she got her assumptions back on track and reconnected with her voice.⁣
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My client promptly quit!⁣
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She didn't quit her job (at least not today) but she did quit the BS assumptions she was making. She was free!⁣

07/01/2024

Your anxiety is an amazing gift. It's there to work with you, not against. The trick is to listen and correct the imbalance.

06/24/2024

DID YOU KNOW . . . ?⁣
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Fear and Anxiety are different⁣
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Anxiety and fear are regularly used interchangeably and for good reason. They both cause the same symptoms, like:⁣
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👉🏼 Heartbeat speeds up⁣
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👉🏼 Mind starts racing⁣
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👉🏼 Hands get clammy⁣
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👉🏼 Skin starts to feel hot⁣
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👉🏼 Stomach feels nauseous⁣
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👉🏼 Chest feels tight⁣
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👉🏼 Increased thirst⁣
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But they are different.⁣
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When you see danger, you will feel fear
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When you suppress what you're feeling, you will feel anxiety⁣
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Fear is a natural reaction. Anxiety is a learned response
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The good news is you can unlearn it
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06/16/2024

If you're experiencing anxiety in your relationship, it didn't happen overnight. It was a slow process where the warning signs were either ignored or missed.

06/02/2024

THE MESSAGES OUT THERE ARE WRONG⁣
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When you google the word anxiety, the first several pages will have words like disorder, attack, strategies, treatment, cope, and control. These are fighting words that give an impression you are in a war against anxiety.⁣
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While fear can feel like your worst enemy, it is actually your biggest ally. It’s designed to keep you safe. Without it, your judgment is severely hampered.⁣
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Anxiety wants to work with you, not against. You are in charge!

05/06/2024

When you feel anxious, it's easy to think it has something to do with you, but you may be mistaken.⁣
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Sometimes the anxiety you feel is not even coming from you. Sometimes, you've simply tapped into the experience of someone else.⁣
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𝘕𝘰𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘹𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘺 𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴.⁣

04/25/2024

When you don't know who you are, you run the risk of people pleasing, procrastinating, overthinking, imposter syndrome, and perfectionism.⁣
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You run the risk of trusting the wrong people.⁣
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You run the risk of feeling hurt by others but not really understanding why.
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You run the risk of feeling lonely in a room full of friends.⁣
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You run the risk of feeling helpless and out of control.⁣
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When you know who you are, anxiety no longer runs your life.

04/24/2024

Your story creates your reality