Piece of Mind Counseling & Consultation, PLLC

04/13/2026

🩵 April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month 🩵

Research reminds us of something too often overlooked: victims of sexual violence don’t usually respond in fight or flight. Though those responses may have been attempted, danger increases. Trauma responses most often resort to dissociation, compliance, appeasement, placating, confusion, and fragmented memory.

In the moment, and in the aftermath, what is systemically misunderstood and often used against victims is evidence of something so much more important.

These are not signs of consent.
They are not signs of enjoyment.
THEY ARE SIGNS OF OVERWHELMING DANGER & SURVIVAL.

They are the body and mind doing whatever is necessary to get away, reduce harm, and remain alive. 🫂

02/28/2026

PSA: Talk to your boys about the memes they may be sent by other boys, especially the ones about Jeffrey Epstein and what they actually mean.

These aren’t jokes. They’re cultural signals. When boys share memes about exploitation and abuse, even casually, they’re participating in a normalization of something devastating. Humor can blur the weight of harm. It can distance them from the real human suffering underneath the punchline. Silence does the rest.

My son was sent a few. We didn’t shame. We didn’t panic. We paused. We talked about impact versus intent. About how repetition desensitizes. About how accepting something without context or without advocating can quietly align with what it minimizes. We talked about power, about victims, about why certain names carry history and pain.

These conversations matter.

♥️If you’re unsure where to begin:

Be curious, don’t accuse. “What do you think this meme is saying?”

Separate intent from impact.

Help them see that harm isn’t erased because something was sent as a cultural joke.

Name the reality.Explain who the person was and why it matters.

Teach digital integrity. Every share is a choice.

Model courage.Let them see that hard conversations are part of becoming a safe, thoughtful human.

Share how silence may unintentionally support complicity of distribution. Let them know they have immense power to help support victims, survivors, and each other as boys/men to create a foundation of safety, what that may mean, and what it can look like.

Practice or role play ways they feel comfortable sharing with their friends that the memes shared with them are not appropriate in group chats and how to disengage meaningfully, without shaming their friends for what they may not know or understand. Learning to become the voice of advocacy and accountability.

We cannot outsource moral formation to the internet.

💬 Have you had this talk yet? Share your experience below.

02/27/2026

PSA: Talk to your boys about the memes they may be sent by other boys, especially the ones about Jeffrey Epstein and what they actually mean.

These aren’t jokes. They’re cultural signals. When boys share memes about exploitation and abuse, even casually, they’re participating in a normalization of something devastating. Humor can blur the weight of harm. It can distance them from the real human suffering underneath the punchline. Silence does the rest.

My son was sent a few. We didn’t shame. We didn’t panic. We paused. We talked about impact versus intent. About how repetition desensitizes. About how accepting something without context or without advocating can quietly align with what it minimizes. We talked about power, about victims, about why certain names carry history and pain.

These conversations matter.

♥️If you’re unsure where to begin:

Be curious, don’t accuse. “What do you think this meme is saying?”

Separate intent from impact.

Help them see that harm isn’t erased because something was sent as a cultural joke.

Name the reality.Explain who the person was and why it matters.

Teach digital integrity. Every share is a choice.

Model courage.Let them see that hard conversations are part of becoming a safe, thoughtful human.

Share how silence may unintentionally support complicity of distribution. Let them know they have immense power to help support victims, survivors, and each other as boys/men to create a foundation of safety, what that may mean, and what it can look like.

Practice or role play ways they feel comfortable sharing with their friends that the memes shared with them are not appropriate in group chats and how to disengage meaningfully, without shaming their friends for what they may not know or understand. Learning to become the voice of advocacy and accountability.

We cannot outsource moral formation to the internet. If we want our self-identified boys to become men who protect rather than perpetuate harm, we have to be willing to step into the reality, the possibility of discomfort and tell the truth. Integrate these conversations clearly, calmly, and early.

Monitor what your children receive and use them as profound ways to have impactful conversations.

🔥🫶These conversations belong with all children, of every identity and gender identity. Empathy, accountability, and digital integrity is a responsibility we share in raising every human being.

02/15/2026

🏛 I could dismantle this bill word by word and expose the depth of its delusion. Let's just focus on 9 words. JUST 9. And then, go ahead and CUFF ME for doing my job and caring about the wellness of ALL PEOPLE.

In Oklahoma Senate Bill 1905, the phrase “reconciling the patient with his or her biological sex” is presented as treatment for Gender Dysphoria. But that is NOT treatment, nor are the words used correctly.

Gender dysphoria is not the existence of a transgender or gender-diverse identity. It is the clinically recognized distress and anxiety that is a result of a culture that stigmatizes, marginalizes, and discriminates. The anxiety many patients experience is often intensified by social rejection, systemic barriers, and lack of affirming care. AND BILLS LIKE THIS.

This bill does not create space to treat that distress. Instead, it denies the legitimacy of the experience itself and mandates an approach that can replicate the very conditions that contribute to the suffering and a higher risk of patient death within our medical systems, our communities, and our broader institutions. When policy requires providers to ignore or invalidate a patient’s lived reality, it embeds the source of harm into the structure of PERCEIVED care.

❓️❓️ ASK YOURSELF...
If a law misdefines what it claims to treat, how can it responsibly regulate that treatment?

🙊Language matters. Definitions matter. When they are written without clinical accuracy or cultural humility, the consequences fall on vulnerable patients and the professionals committed to their well-being.

⚖️🩺 As it stands, this bill suggests that providing holistic, culturally informed care could carry criminal consequences. If doing my job and caring for people through a lens of compassion, evidence, and cultural humility places me at legal risk, that reality speaks volumes about the direction this policy takes.

🤓 LETS LOOK AT JUST THE 9 WORDS ONE MORE TIME....

“Reconciling the patient with his or her biological sex.”

That phrasing is not accidental. It is manipulative. It relies on imprecise language to influence those who have not done the work to understand the vocabulary. It deliberately uses “his or her” instead of neutral language like “their,” reinforcing a binary framework while pretending clinical authority. We are talking about people, a specific group of people, not a single person. PLURAL would be more appropriate here. Did they learn grammar before promoting bills?👩🏽‍🏫👨‍🏫🧑🏽‍🏫

And let’s be clear 👀 biological sex and gender are not the same. Biological sex refers to anatomy at birth. Gender refers to social, cultural, and psychological traits, a social category formally articulated as an expression in 1955. Conflating the two is either ignorance or strategy.

This bill is not addressing GENDER DYSPHORIA or necessary health and wellness for anyone. 🤦‍♀️🤬 It misdefines the issue entirely. What it does accomplish is the CREATION of LOOPHOLES TO CRIMINALIZE EDUCATED PROFESSIONALS for providing informed, compassionate care to the very people they are entrusted to protect.

🚨CUFF ME. 🚨

They're already making loopholes to "reclassify" professionals of the earned right to funding their educations by reducing their degree significance to a graduate degree when they are clearly professional degrees.

INCUDING PROFESSIONALS THAT SAVE YOUR LIVES.
PROFESSIONS AND DEGREES AFFECTED (not surprisingly mostly female dominated and dominated by marginalized groups...

Nursing: Includes Nurse Practitioners, Midwives, and CRNAs.

​Social Work: MSW and DSW programs.

​Therapeutic Sciences: Physical Therapy (DPT), Occupational Therapy (OT), and Speech-Language Pathology.

​Health Professions: Physician Assistants (PA), Public Health (MPH/DrPH), and Audiology.

​Technical & Business: Architecture and Accounting.

CITIZENS, caring starts with you, it starts with us. Read things thoroughly. Do your homework, be willing to be wrong, and make peace instead of continuing to incite a war amongst each other. That is what they want.

YOU ARE THE MOST PRECIOUS CALL TO ACTION.

01/03/2026

12/28/2025

It's not failing at self-care 🧘🏾‍♀️. In these relationships, you are often constrained out of it.

When tending to yourself invites scrutiny while the other freely tends to theirs, individuation slowly disappears and the goalposts never stop moving. Before preaching self-care, ask what someone is carrying—because for some, one quiet shower a week is not neglect, it’s survival.

This is an epidemic across many relational dynamics. Antagonism and various degrees or forms of narcissism enhance these difficulties to catastrophic levels.

Self-care sounds simple—until you’ve lived through a narcissistic relationship. When you’ve been trained to shrink yourself, silence your needs, and avoid an...

12/12/2025

Asking “What do I need?” is not selfish—it’s self-compassion in action.
When we truly care for ourselves, we’re better able to care for others. This question is like a compass bringing us closer to alignment with our values.

🌱 Next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed, try asking: What do I need right now? Then honor your answer.

12/12/2025

You are the impact ❤️ you are the love, the comfort, the gift to the world!

12/06/2025

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🔥TRAUMA ANNIVERSARIES come quietly but hit like a brick from the sky. They remind us not just of what happened, but of who weaponized it, who hurt us in the wake of its sharp edges, who chose not to be there when they were begged. The one who may have chosen their own comfort over standing with us in our pain.

💪🏾💪🏾The weight is heavy, but it is beautifully profound evidence of how much survivors can walk through life with a strength, courage, and a will to keep a softened heart✨️🫂instead of letting it harden us.

🧘🏾‍♀️These dates beg for tenderness and grounding, yet so many of us walk through them alone. Everyone is exhausted, everyone is burnt out, and as we step away from relationships that were not safe in our deepest moments of vulnerability, the reverberation of those moments that hurt us so deeply still remain silent, but they may seem louder in the silence. The reminder of not being asked how we may be doing during this time, may reiterate that pain and lonliness we once felt. If it truly impacted them the way they said it may have, they would have reached out. But instead, we as survivors know how to live and love, so we continue to show up authentically and support them within their current experiences.💡Let their continued absence and lack of care speak for itself.

During these times, a strength survivors have is that we remain softened and tender. We somehow continue to show up for ourselves and the people who may have hurt us along the way. A GIFT OF SURVIVORSHIP IS WE KNOW HOW TO SHOW UP, HOW TO TRULY LOVE, AND WHAT IT IS TO TRULY LIVE.

Anniversaries reveal the beauty of paths we've walked alone, sometimes not by choice. They reveal the paths filled with people we least expected to show up, who said," I SEE YOU. I LOVE YOU! I AM HERE." We survived. We loved ourselves through it too and have so much gratitude for those who offered us kindness and support.

🎉CELEBRATE YOURSELF! Celebrate THAT YOU SHOWED UP AND CONTINUE TO IN EVERY CAPACITY! And you did it yet again, on the anniversary month of something horrific and life-altering. Celebrate that you chose you!

Keep moving forward! Make those hard decisions! Choose yourself!

🌈 On anniversary months, look at the table you've built, the people you chose to surround you, and the love that bursts from every seam as you review the strength and resilience it took to be here with so much wisdom.

💥💯Your resilience is yours, and not everyone deserves a seat at your table simply because you once hoped they would choose to sit near you. You're still here, you are always showing up, and that is your power.

10/05/2025

This is a form of therapy! Jamie knows what she is doing. https://www.facebook.com/share/r/16rheBozhi/

06/18/2025

💪🏽YOU OWN YOUR STORY. It doesn't own you, and you can choose to rewrite it whenever you want📒—Susan David Ph.D.

"Consider a behavior or story you’d like to let go of.

Say you often respond harshly when your spouse or partner asks you to wash the dishes. Ask yourself:
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Why do you find this specific request so irritating?
Are you responding to something that’s actually happening in the present, or are you responding based on a pattern from the past?
How could you respond in a values-based way?"-—Susan David Ph.D.

READ THIS ARTICLE, set yourself free!

The Nobel Prize-winning novelist William Faulkner once wrote, “The past is never dead. It’s not even past.” This quote rings true for many of us. Our habits and narratives are often replayed in differ