12/06/2025
❤️🩹❤️🔥TRAUMA ANNIVERSARIES come quietly but hit like a brick from the sky. They remind us not just of what happened, but of who weaponized it, who hurt us in the wake of its sharp edges, who chose not to be there when they were begged. The one who may have chosen their own comfort over standing with us in our pain.
💪🏾💪🏾The weight is heavy, but it is beautifully profound evidence of how much survivors can walk through life with a strength, courage, and a will to keep a softened heart✨️🫂instead of letting it harden us.
🧘🏾♀️These dates beg for tenderness and grounding, yet so many of us walk through them alone. Everyone is exhausted, everyone is burnt out, and as we step away from relationships that were not safe in our deepest moments of vulnerability, the reverberation of those moments that hurt us so deeply still remain silent, but they may seem louder in the silence. The reminder of not being asked how we may be doing during this time, may reiterate that pain and lonliness we once felt. If it truly impacted them the way they said it may have, they would have reached out. But instead, we as survivors know how to live and love, so we continue to show up authentically and support them within their current experiences.💡Let their continued absence and lack of care speak for itself.
During these times, a strength survivors have is that we remain softened and tender. We somehow continue to show up for ourselves and the people who may have hurt us along the way. A GIFT OF SURVIVORSHIP IS WE KNOW HOW TO SHOW UP, HOW TO TRULY LOVE, AND WHAT IT IS TO TRULY LIVE.
Anniversaries reveal the beauty of paths we've walked alone, sometimes not by choice. They reveal the paths filled with people we least expected to show up, who said," I SEE YOU. I LOVE YOU! I AM HERE." We survived. We loved ourselves through it too and have so much gratitude for those who offered us kindness and support.
🎉CELEBRATE YOURSELF! Celebrate THAT YOU SHOWED UP AND CONTINUE TO IN EVERY CAPACITY! And you did it yet again, on the anniversary month of something horrific and life-altering. Celebrate that you chose you!
Keep moving forward! Make those hard decisions! Choose yourself!
🌈 On anniversary months, look at the table you've built, the people you chose to surround you, and the love that bursts from every seam as you review the strength and resilience it took to be here with so much wisdom.
💥💯Your resilience is yours, and not everyone deserves a seat at your table simply because you once hoped they would choose to sit near you. You're still here, you are always showing up, and that is your power.