Robyn Watchorn Newbrey, LLC

05/07/2026

04/22/2026

If you’ve ever thought, “Is it really abuse if it’s not physical?” this might change everything. 🧩

Many survivors say the first time they saw the Power and Control Wheel, what they were living through finally made sense. It lays out the common tactics abusers use to gain and keep dominance—like isolating someone, minimizing harm, twisting reality, or making big promises that “it’ll never happen again.”

What felt confusing or deeply personal starts to look like a pattern—and that realization can be both heartbreaking and empowering. It’s not a misunderstanding. It’s a system built around control.

Have you ever seen a resource that put words to something you couldn’t explain before? Share in the comments—or pass this along to someone who might need it. 💜

🔗 https://zpr.io/4yPAKQMmbsz5

04/21/2026

🌊 Urge Surfing is a powerful mindfulness skill that helps you ride out cravings, impulses, and intense emotions without acting on them.

Instead of fighting the urge or feeling ashamed, you learn to notice it, breathe through it, and allow it to rise and fall like a wave. Every urge is temporary — it will pass. 🤍

Next time you feel overwhelmed:
✨ Pause and notice the feeling
✨ Observe where it shows up in your body
✨ Breathe deeply
✨ Remind yourself: this will pass

Healing is learning to respond differently, one moment at a time.

Worksheets are in the bio 🌿
www.recoverytrauma.com

04/16/2026

The feeling of being "stuck" in an old memory is like trying to run a race while someone is pulling on your shirt from behind. You might find yourself overreacting to a small comment, or feeling a wave of fear when there is no real danger. I realized recently that my own reactions weren't always about what was happening today; they were echoes of things that happened years ago. I was living my life through a filter of old hurts, and it was keeping me from being the person I wanted to be.

​Francine is the creator of EMDR, a famous type of therapy that helps people heal from trauma. She doesn't use big, medical words to sound fancy. Instead, she explains that our brains have a natural way of healing, but sometimes a "glitch" happens and a memory gets stuck. It is a book that refuses to let you stay a victim of your history, choosing instead to offer the gift of emotional freedom. Every page felt like a toolkit for my mind, proving that you can rewire your brain for peace.

​1. Your Brain is an Information Processor
​Francine explains that your brain is designed to take in experiences and learn from them. But when something really scary or sad happens, the "processing" system can get overwhelmed. The memory gets "frozen" in your nervous system exactly as it happened. I realized that my "triggers" were just my brain trying to process a frozen moment. You move from feeling "crazy" to feeling "unprocessed," realizing that your brain just needs help finishing a job it started long ago.

​2. The "T" and "t" Traumas
​The book explores the idea that trauma isn't just huge, life-changing disasters (Big T). It can also be "small t" traumas—like being teased in school or ignored by a parent. These smaller moments can affect us just as much as the big ones. I started identifying the "small t" moments that were still running my life. You learn that your feelings are valid, no matter how "small" the event seemed. You move from "minimizing your pain" to "validating your experience."

​3. Identify Your "Touchstone" Memories
​One of the best parts of the book is about finding the "first" time you felt a certain way. If you feel "not good enough" today, there is usually an old memory that taught you that feeling. Francine calls these "touchstone" memories. I moved from "fighting my current mood" to "looking at the root," discovering that when you find the source, the current feeling loses its power. You learn to trace the thread back to the beginning.

​4. Use the "Butterfly Hug" and Grounding
​The book provides a roadmap of simple techniques you can do at home to calm your body down when you feel triggered. One famous move is the "Butterfly Hug," where you cross your arms and tap your shoulders rhythmically. I started using these small tools when I felt my anxiety rising. You learn that you have the power to "reset" your own nervous system. You move from "spinning out" to "staying grounded."

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04/04/2026

💜 Early childhood trauma can cause us to ‘space out’ ‘in a world of her own’ ‘loner’ my mothers words… However, what’s really happening is our mind is escaping the emotional, physical, sexual abuse and or neglect. Our mind is protecting us. WE are actually dissociating.
If the abuse continues, we will eventually create different parts of us to cope. So losing time is inevitable. 💜

03/31/2026

According to child psychologists, the main sign a child feels safe at home is not “perfect” behavior, but rather their ability to be their most authentic, unfiltered self in your presence. This often manifests as saving their biggest meltdowns, “weirdest” behaviors and hardest emotions for the people they trust most.

Many children behave perfectly at school or daycare but “fall apart” the moment they get home. Clinical psychologists explain that children only show their hardest feelings to those they trust will not leave or judge them. A meltdown is often a biological “exhale” of pent-up stress from the day.

A child who feels safe moves freely around the house, making noise, singing, or humming. Research indicates secure children move significantly more during free time because their nervous system is not on high alert. Being silly, wearing costumes or using nonsensical voices are also signs of a relaxed nervous system that feels allowed to explore without fear of criticism.

Instead of hiding or lying abut a mistake (like breaking something or spilling), a safe child will generally return to the adult for help. Secure children expect “repair” rather than immediate punishment, allowing them to recover from stress twice as fast as those who feel unsafe.

Testing rules is also a sign of safety; the child is checking to see if the adult remains a steady “anchor” even when they are at their most difficult. Secure children feel safe sharing strong opinions or even saying “no” because they trust their voice matters and the relationship is strong enough to hold their disagreement.

You may also notice your child playing independently but occasionally glancing back or returning for a quick “refuel” (like a hug) before heading out again. This “secure base” effect is a foundational concept in attachment theory.

Conversely, if your child does not feel safe emotionally around you, they may communicate discomfort through behavioral changes rather than words, such as becoming unusually quiet, withdrawing and shutting down, behavioral regression (acting like a baby again, baby talking or bedwetting).

03/30/2026