White Lotus Psychotherapy

05/09/2025

Heading into the weekend with a little self-care 💫 💕 Drop a comment below and let us know how you are caring for yourself this weekend! Remember small obtainable goals and changes lead to lasting healing - be gentle with yourself! Healing is not linear 🤗

01/23/2024

❤️‍🩹 Be kind to yourself xo

01/23/2024

Personalization and blame, a cognitive thinking issue that keeps us feeling like we’re in control when we are facing chaos or trying to survive in a toxic or abusive environment. If we’re the problem - we can fix it right? The problem with that way of thinking is it’s not rational when we’re taking responsibilities for others’ actions and it leads to shame, anxieties, depression. The 🧠 brain, I believe, is trying to protect us here but it’s not helpful in the long run - so we need to teach it the truth and rewire those thoughts. Interpersonal trauma is trauma and it’s more common then we think.

From the article:
“It makes sense for our minds to take this shame signal and then displace the blame onto ourselves: We have more agency if we're the problem. Then, it's within our control to fix it. Blaming ourselves feels more empowering than acknowledging that the people we depend on for survival and belonging are unsafe.”

When we identify this pattern, and are able to safely process it, we can learn to rewire the brain to see the truth and THAT is even more powerful, empowering and can lead to healing, and setting boundaries to protect ourselves in these situations in the future.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/its-not-you-its-the-world/202401/why-interpersonal-trauma-is-more-about-shame-than-fear?fbclid=IwAR12JPgx1Iqo7LHxcZRJJwqn2upu99wobl3iLPc3sAhaEuGPsAhdfi2qr38_aem_AQm1aLwA2U3gPfEqg9nvxWR0gJDKe-AIU-tf2_Pq2PzqQnS-XI_tgnXi2bpQHsgU40g

Here’s how trauma is a social problem that requires a social cure.

09/02/2023

Great article! For anyone delaying going to therapy this is a must read. I stand by what I tell my clients and anyone bringing up this topic in general …when they ask “what is wrong with me? Am I crazy?” … no… “most people go to therapy because of someone else that won’t or didn’t go” and it’s something to do for your own self discovery and self care. There is no “mental health separate from ourselves… mental health is brain health…mind and body wellness. We need to start treating it like visiting the doctor or getting support for our optimal wellness! 🤗

From the article:

Whenever this happens, I feel protective over my clients. Usually, I jokingly reply, “Actually, crazy people don’t go to therapy. It’s the people trying to deal with the 'crazy' people who go to therapy.”

Read on and share….happy healing ❤️‍🩹

4. They may not be looking for a diagnosis, but just to be heard.

08/25/2023

Some exciting news! Currently working on expanding Telehealth services to PA and CA! 🪷

04/19/2023

Healing ❤️‍🩹 from trauma - don’t give up, be mindful that small changes lead to the big ones over time. Be patient with your mind and body, it takes time to learn new patterns and let go of old ones that are no longer needed to survive and no longer serving our wellbeing with relationships with ourselves and others.

A look at the most common ways survivors recognize healing and growth.

01/06/2023

I am seeing more and more men coming into therapy and I’m so proud! Men’s mental health is a passion of mine for very personal and professional reasons. We are HUMAN BEINGS, suppressing emotions “sucking it up” and being tough, boys don’t cry mentality is so damaging to the human spirit. I am so glad that more men and athletes are speaking out and are being vulnerable and brave enough to share their stories… you are most certainly helping someone else and reducing the stigma, one post, one story at a time!

The swimming legend and father of three is opening up about his mental health struggles.

01/05/2023

First, a respectable therapist will never tell you you’re “crazy”… but I get asked this a lot too or “do you think I’m crazy?”… the answer has always been no.

You’re not crazy because of what happened to you. Coming to therapy is more about what’s good and healthy about you, not what’s “wrong” with you!

I also tell a lot of my clients the old adage is also true a lot of the time. People who come to therapy are often there because of someone else who won’t go (inserted with humor and a bit … okay a lot of truth 😂) … we all can strive towards growth and healing, when we don’t those parts of ourselves we may not understand or look into including our own bad behaviors can negative impact those we care about the most.

There is NOTHING weak about going to therapy and learning 💫

Many people fear that a therapist will tell them they're fundamentally flawed.

01/02/2023

Great article for anyone healing ❤️‍🩹 through childhood trauma ~ I often see this manifesting in my generation where we’re finally coming to therapy and putting all the pieces together for healing in our 40s. I hear so often people criticize themselves for not knowing/understanding earlier, but how could we? We weren’t taught that at all! I am also seeing an increase of young men and women in their 20s doing the same which is incredible and inspiring. This shows me mental health bias is reducing and people will begin to heal at a younger age impacting the next generation in a positive way and reducing transgenerational trauma! Whatever age you find yourself coming to therapy and healing ❤️‍🩹 be kind to yourself! We’re so glad you’re here! You got this! 💪 🧠 🩹 ❤️‍🩹 💭 🗣️

Goals include: Creating more space for self-compassion and improving boundaries.

01/01/2023

09/22/2022

Some helpful mental health resources to share for anyone who may need. Be well 💫 🧠

ResourcesAssociationsMental Health AmericaMental Health Association in New JerseyMentalhealth.govNational Sleep FoundationNAMI (National Alliance on Mental HealthThe National Child Traumatic Stress NetworkNational Institute of Mental HealthNJ Mental Health Resources and Crisis Response211 New Jer....