Kristy Norris, LMFT

05/07/2026

05/06/2026

A guide on treating attachment trauma. Learn about attachment styles, insecure attachment, and how to treat trauma with strategies from Bessel van der Kolk, MD.

05/05/2026

For CPTSD, late-diagnosed ADHD, and everyone who already knows the theory. 90 days. 10 min/day. 539 reviews. $27.49.

04/26/2026

You Are Enough: How to Counteract ADHD Imposter Syndrome
👉 https://www.additudemag.com/not-good-enough-feelings-of-inadequacy-adhd/

04/15/2026

Janina Fisher will be speaking at the 37th Annual Boston International Trauma Conference this May! bit.ly/traumacon37

04/12/2026

02/28/2026

**Limerence & ADHD: When Your Brain Turns Love Into an Obsession**

It doesn’t start calmly.

It starts with a spark.

A look.
A message.
A tiny sign of interest.

And suddenly your brain locks in.

Not gently.

Intensely.

That’s where limerence and ADHD can collide.

What Limerence Actually Feels Like

Limerence isn’t just a crush.

It’s intrusive.

You replay conversations.
Analyze tone.
Check your phone too often.
Build entire future scenarios in your head.

Your mood depends on whether they text back.

Your energy spikes when they give attention.

It’s not “I like them.”

It’s “My nervous system is now attached to this person.”

Why ADHD Makes It Stronger

ADHD brains are dopamine-seeking.

Romantic uncertainty? Dopamine.
New connection? Dopamine.
Mixed signals? Even more dopamine.

Unpredictability fuels the loop.

And when you add hyperfocus, your attention narrows.

They become the main tab open in your mind.

Everything else fades slightly.

Emotional Dysregulation & RSD

Now layer in emotional dysregulation.

Small shifts feel huge.

A delayed reply can feel like rejection.

A neutral tone can feel like disinterest.

Rejection sensitive dysphoria amplifies everything.

So instead of mild disappointment, you feel intense hurt.

Instead of curiosity, you feel anxiety.

Your brain isn’t just interested.

It’s on high alert.

The Fantasy vs Reality Gap

Limerence often lives more in imagination than reality.

You fall in love with potential.

With possibility.

With the version of them your brain has filled in.

And because ADHD minds are creative and associative, that imagined bond can feel deeply real.

But the person themselves may still be distant, inconsistent, or unavailable.

That gap is painful.

The Crash

When the connection fades or doesn’t materialize the way you hoped, the crash is heavy.

Not just sadness.

Withdrawal.

Because your brain was getting dopamine from the chase.

And now the source is gone.

So what happens?

You either:

– Spiral
– Blame yourself
– Or immediately search for a new fixation

Not because you’re dramatic.

But because your nervous system is dysregulated.

Breaking the Cycle

Awareness is powerful.

When you notice:

“I’m hyperfocusing on them.”

“I’m building a fantasy.”

“My mood is tied to their attention.”

You can pause.

Ground in facts instead of interpretations.

Create space between feeling and action.

Limerence doesn’t mean your love isn’t real.

But it does mean your brain may be amplifying the experience.

You’re not “too intense.”

You’re navigating romance with a dopamine-hungry, emotionally sensitive nervous system.

And once you understand that pattern, you can learn to protect your heart without shutting it down.

11/30/2025

✨The kidneys process fear. ✨The heart processes trauma. ✨The adrenals process paranoia. ✨The brain & heart process stress. The lungs process sadness & grief. ✨The liver processes anger & frustration. ✨The gallbladder processes resentment. ✨The stomach, pancreas, & spleen process worry and anger.

Moral to this is, take care of yourself because your physical issues manifest AFTER the spiritual.

Your spiritual & emotional health isn't something to take lightly, because it creates your whole reality and reflects your overall HEALTH 🌀