06/03/2025
💔Reflecting on Grief in a Special Month❤️🩹
As a family therapist, I often witness how the layers of grief can surface during certain times of the year—anniversary dates, birthdays, or holidays that remind us of loved ones we've lost. I’m currently reflecting on this personally, as June marks a poignant time for me: my father’s birthday, the anniversary of his passing six years ago, and Father’s Day—all within the same month.
These moments bring a wave of emotions—sadness, longing, gratitude, and sometimes a sense of loss that can feel overwhelming. It’s important to remember that feeling grief during these times is not only normal but also a vital part of honoring our loved ones and processing our emotions. Grief is a testament to the love we shared, and it reminds us of the impact our loved ones had on our lives.
The Importance of Feeling Grief
Suppressing or avoiding grief can lead to prolonged emotional distress, while allowing ourselves to feel these emotions can promote healing and understanding. Grief is a personal journey, and it ebbs and flows in its own time. Embracing these feelings can help us integrate the loss into our ongoing lives, keeping the memory of our loved ones alive in meaningful ways.
Ways Mental Health Support Can Help
Expressive Practices: Journaling, writing letters, or creating art can serve as outlets for your feelings and help you process complex emotions.
Talking with Trusted People: Sharing memories and feelings with friends, family, or a support group can provide comfort and validation.
Professional Support: A therapist trained in grief counseling can offer tailored strategies to navigate difficult emotions, develop resilience, and find new ways to connect with your loved one’s memory.
Self-Compassion and Mindfulness: Practicing kindness toward yourself and engaging in mindfulness meditation can help you stay grounded during emotionally intense times.
Creating Rituals: Honoring your loved one through rituals—lighting a candle, planting a tree, or sharing stories—can provide a sense of connection and continuity.
As we approach these emotionally charged dates, remember that grief is a process, and it’s okay to seek support when needed. Honoring your feelings and giving yourself grace during this time is a powerful act of self-care and love.
If you’re navigating similar feelings, know that you’re not alone, and help is available. Together, we can find ways to cherish memories while also caring for our mental health.
With compassion,
Dr. Bianca Mickan
(Psychotherapist and Daughter of James)