01/30/2026
Sometimes what feels like chemistry is actually adrenaline.
When chaos, inconsistency, or emotional unpredictability were part of early connection, the nervous system can begin to associate intensity with closeness — not because it’s healthy, but because it’s familiar.
That’s why red flags can feel exciting:
the uncertainty,
the emotional distance,
the push and pull.
And why steadiness can feel unfamiliar — even boring — at first.
This isn’t about poor judgment or “choosing wrong.”
It’s about understanding what your body learned to interpret as connection.
With awareness, you can begin to distinguish adrenaline from love — and familiarity from safety.
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